Companion Thread: How do you start dancing with someone at the club without seeming creepy?

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    Mar 03, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    Inspired by the other thread about club behavior...

    So, I'm kind of new to the club scene, and I'm wondering how I go about dancing with someone without being _too_ forward. Right now I seem to be erring on the side of "not forward at all" but that's not helping much on the dance floor. I'm looking for suggestions on how to initiate dancing with someone - and yes, I know this is probably a silly thing to ask for advice about but I'm quite the late bloomer and missed "Advances 101" in my teen years and early 20's. I did my 40's first and am now backing up to do my 20's. :/ Anyway, any tips would be appreciated.
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
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    HaHa Naw, just strike a friendly conversation with a smile. You should be able to tell if he's feeling it or not but usually it's won by having some self confidence.
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    Yes, I would like to know some tips on this subject too.
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    tap them on the shoulder, stick out your hand and say "may I have this dance?". i see it in the movies all the time and it seems to work. make sure you have a suit on tho, oh and slick your hair back.
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
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    Mar 03, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
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    oh candy, yum.
  • DCguy2001

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    Mar 03, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidtap them on the shoulder, stick out your hand and say "may I have this dance?". i see it in the movies all the time and it seems to work. make sure you have a suit on tho, oh and slick your hair back.


    LOL, timeless advice.

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    Mar 03, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
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    Mar 04, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    Simple...
    Creepy: Someone who wants to dance, and is very unattractive.
    Cool: Someone who wants to dance, and is very attractive.
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    Mar 04, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidSimple...
    Creepy: Someone who wants to dance, and is very unattractive.
    Cool: Someone who wants to dance, and is very attractive.


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  • TheAlchemixt

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    Mar 04, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Just get next to them and ask them if you can dance with them. If they say no then at least you know they are totally not interested and you can move on. There is nothing wrong with being rejected. If they say yes either they want to dance with you for fun or they think your hot.
    I personally am a beast on the dance floor people ask me to dance with them all the time and I personally find it a compliment. For some reason when I dance with chicks though they want me to make them feel like sluts, so I give it to them.
    I always say yes to people who want to dance with me even if I am not attracted to them. It's just dancing...
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    Mar 04, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    Dance music: dance alone, by yourself. Be the most interesting dancer on the floor. Do not shake your head too much, or otherwise indicate that you have a neurological problem. Spaz only if you can do it well. Humping, rubbing and ass-pressing are huge turn-offs for non-creepers. If you remove clothing, do it because your amazing torso is a gift to the world. Do not remove your pants. Eventually move closer to your target. Do not stare at them or otherwise obstruct their own enjoyment of the dance floor. If they look past you while you dance nearby, move along elsewhere. Somewhere in there offer to buy someone a drink.

    Slow music: "May I have this dance?" is the only appropriate response. Do not dance alone during slow music unless you are an accomplished solo theater arts performer.
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    Mar 04, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    I would start with a grand jete, moving closer and closer to your target.

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    Mar 04, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
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    oh candy, yum.


    Um yea, don't just walk up behind them and rub there back either... kinda creepy....
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    Mar 04, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
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    Then you have to get him to drink/ingest it.

    "Does this smell like chloroform to you?" works if you want to dance with someone who doesn't have a drink.


    If you're already dancing, then make eye contact, go up to him, and say 'hi' and dance.
    Since you don't want to be too forward, don't put your hand down his pants when you say hi. Say "Wanna dance?" not "Wanna fuck?" also.
  • ohioguy12

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    Mar 04, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    If they're there with girl friends, dance with them, they will usually dance with anyone, if he's interested he'll join or the friend will introduce
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 04, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    i have always felt that asking is the best way to go