Are you slightly taken aback by someone you have never spoken to "Buddy List" you without even saying Hi first?

  • offshore

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    Mar 04, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
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    I dunno maybe it's me but if I want to start a conversation to be friends I would say Hi (and other stuff).

    The Hot list is a little different, that's just like a marker for who u think is attrative, but Buddy List?
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    Mar 04, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    No, not taken aback; it's an opportunity to make a new friend. How cool is that? Especially considering the other person made the first move and took a chance.

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    Mar 04, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    For the first time EVER, I am disagreeing with MENINLOVE. Though taken aback is a bit extreme, I won't accept the request on my end until we have at least a conversation. I previously accepted buddy requests twice without the conversation happenning and the guys never once replied which tells me they were just 'Collectors', which is a bit disturbing.
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    The Buddy List function =/= Facebook friend request.

    If you want to get to know me send me a message, don't push a button.
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidFor the first time EVER, I am disagreeing with MENINLOVE. Though taken aback is a bit extreme, I won't accept the request on my end until we have at least a conversation. I previously accepted buddy requests twice without the conversation happenning and the guys never once replied which tells me they were just 'Collectors', which is a bit disturbing.


    Eeep! lol well it's about time. We usually don't buddy-list back without a two-way connection first. icon_wink.gif It's what we meant by opportunity.
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:23 AM GMT
    I don't Buddy List anyone without some prior interaction...I've had quite a few people Buddy List me who I have no idea who they are, and it's like WTF?!?!
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    There are some people here who collect buddies for no other reason than to have a big collection.
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    Not really. Its just like facebook. its not like you know everyone on ur fb. Right at this moment i'm tlaking to some guy on my fb i never even met before. apparently he went to high school with me. its kind of a cool opportunity to talk to people.
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    Mar 04, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    I might be wrong...but hasn't this subject been hashed to death on another thread recently??


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    Mar 04, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    Never mind...not that important.
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    Mar 04, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    Yeah I would definitely prefer someone to actually message me first. I like to have a conversation first with guys before I add them to my buddy list. Maybe its because I just like talking to people! I feel bad, but I usually don't acknowledge when a guy puts me on his buddy list if I have never spoken to him.
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    Mar 04, 2011 9:33 AM GMT
    I'm a snob. I dont just buddylist anybody.
    And even then you have to be weary of who you buddylist, because you never know when they turn psycho and throw tantrums at you for no good reason. Mmmm!
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 04, 2011 9:36 AM GMT
    Yea I agree, why buddy list if you've not done buddy things like conversation.
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    Mar 04, 2011 9:44 AM GMT
    and you say hey to them and they don't respond.... icon_lol.gif
  • Tommylb1231

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    Mar 04, 2011 10:07 AM GMT
    MsclDrew saidand you say hey to them and they don't respond.... icon_lol.gif


    Yes I agree! very strange! I am all for making more friends but is a bit random to add someone as a friend and not even say "hello" and even stranger when you message them as they have added you...and no response lol
  • offshore

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    Mar 04, 2011 10:07 AM GMT
    Oh yeah I had ppl buddy list me then not say a word O_o.
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    Mar 13, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    KSUOWL saidYeah I would definitely prefer someone to actually message me first. I like to have a conversation first with guys before I add them to my buddy list. Maybe its because I just like talking to people! I feel bad, but I usually don't acknowledge when a guy puts me on his buddy list if I have never spoken to him.


    If you have buddy listed me without several conversations, then I immediately block you. So.... just keep that in mind for future reference. Hot listing is different.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 13, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    I noticed I had another one who "added me to his buddy list" this morning.
    I've never even seen him before.

    I'm happy to be someone's buddy, but I'm with the rest that believe it should be based on discussion and friendship. You can at least say you've chatted him up. Otherwise, I think it is just odd.
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    Mar 13, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidFor the first time EVER, I am disagreeing with MENINLOVE. Though taken aback is a bit extreme, I won't accept the request on my end until we have at least a conversation. I previously accepted buddy requests twice without the conversation happenning and the guys never once replied which tells me they were just 'Collectors', which is a bit disturbing.


    I've been preaching this since I joined the site. I'm always amazed at how blatantly disrespectful and "button clicking" happy folks are when they do that to me especially when my profile says not to do it in the first place. To click those buttons shows you viewed my profile which means you are just being lazy if all you can do is click a button instead of message of me when the option to do so is right there. If you can't do that I simple don't acknowledge it and I'm apt to block people for showing lack of courtesy, balls and respect. I just don't have the time of patience for it. I've even gone so far as to email the individuals and told them to remove me from the lists or I'll block them. Come at me like a man or don't come at all. Besides, I wouldn't want someone hotlisting or buddylisting me without knowing if it's worth or not and again if they bothered reading my profile they'd know I'm not a fan of that type of approach. I don't do it to others and I seriously expect others not to do it to me. Simple as that.

    With this little comment I've guaranteed myself that I won't be viewed, make friends, be hotlisted or ever win MOTD (again) anytime soon. I'm cool with that.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 13, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    If you want to be a buddy, at least say hello first. It happens to me quite often. Someone who I have never seen or chatted with or emailed with adds me as a buddy. I don't find it necessarily creepy, but sort of awkward. I generally ignore a buddy request without an accompanying email. On the other hand, if they happen to be incredibly hot and irresistible, I might respond with an email that says "HELL-ooooooo Buddy" icon_lol.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 13, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    With this little comment I've guaranteed myself that I won't be viewed, make friends, be hotlisted or ever win MOTD (again) anytime soon. I'm cool with that.



    Yes, and we will be petitioning to have your former MOTD status removed from all records icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 13, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    i say hi, icon_biggrin.gif but no replies >_< .
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    Mar 13, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Guy101 said
    With this little comment I've guaranteed myself that I won't be viewed, make friends, be hotlisted or ever win MOTD (again) anytime soon. I'm cool with that.



    Yes, and we will be petitioning to have your former MOTD status removed from all records icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    You can erase the records but you can't eraser the fact that you know unless you get Dementia or Alzheimer's. I win icon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 13, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    You can erase the records but you can't eraser the fact that you know unless you get Dementia or Alzheimer's. I win icon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif



    Ummmm, I guess the dementia or Alzheimer's has already set in because I don't remember you ever being MOTD -- Checkmate!! icon_lol.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 13, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Guy101 said
    You can erase the records but you can't eraser the fact that you know unless you get Dementia or Alzheimer's. I win icon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif



    Ummmm, I guess the dementia or Alzheimer's has already set in because I don't remember you ever being MOTD -- Checkmate!! icon_lol.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif



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