Grabby, touchy, feely? How do you deal?

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    Mar 04, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    This happens to me more than I like & my friends that know me crack the hell up because I go the hell off.....

    So I'll be on the dance floor or even standing at a bar & a guy just grabs my cock or my ass with no incentive from me to do so.

    My friends tell me I have a huge "box" as they call it & a nice ass, whatever. I dont mind the attn from someone that ive talked to and want to date but damn it if I dont even know you dont be grabbing my shit!

    My friends laugh because they know that im a sweet lovable guy but there are a few things that brings out my "red headed temper" & this is one of them. Ive even almost been kicked out of a bar because this guy grabbed me, wouldnt leave me alone so I drop kicked the fucker to the floor.

    Does this happen to you? If so does it bother you? My friends say I need to chill out but I just think its fucking rude if I dont know you & give you a sign that its ok to touch me!
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    Mar 04, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    I've had it happen, and I try to smile, be gracious, but also convey a strong message that it isn't welcome. I might say "That's already spoken for" or "I don't think we've been introduced." After that it gets a little more blunt. Or say whatever works for you.

    If the guys persists I'd "drop kick" him, too. It usually means he's drunk, or something else, so I just distance myself.

    Nobody has a right to paw & molest you, even in a gay bar. Don't tolerate it. And understand what women must sometimes endure in a straight bar. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    Oh, redbull, I'm keeping my distance from you if I ever see you at the club! (keeps hands in pockets) icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    hahaha agree people need to keep their hands to themselves! I havent been to any gay club nor i plan to but i go to normal club quite often. There was one time when it was crowded on the dance floor, my shit was grabbed and it hurt kinda bad haha and i dont even kno who did it since its a group of people, guys and girls. I was pissed. icon_mad.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    Maybe you should wear something other than assless chaps to the bar. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:41 AM GMT
    Ganymede80 saidMaybe you should wear something other than assless chaps to the bar. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sorry to say i dont own a pair of those, lol
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:42 AM GMT
    sashaman saidOh, redbull, I'm keeping my distance from you if I ever see you at the club! (keeps hands in pockets) icon_lol.gif


    Dude, youd have no problem with me if it came to that trust me! Lol you might be the one pushing me off of u! Lol
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:59 AM GMT
    I just fart on his hand...unless he's hot. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 07, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    redbull saidThis happens to me more than I like & my friends that know me crack the hell up because I go the hell off.....

    So I'll be on the dance floor or even standing at a bar & a guy just grabs my cock or my ass with no incentive from me to do so.

    My friends tell me I have a huge "box" as they call it & a nice ass, whatever. I dont mind the attn from someone that ive talked to and want to date but damn it if I dont even know you dont be grabbing my shit!

    My friends laugh because they know that im a sweet lovable guy but there are a few things that brings out my "red headed temper" & this is one of them. Ive even almost been kicked out of a bar because this guy grabbed me, wouldnt leave me alone so I drop kicked the fucker to the floor.

    Does this happen to you? If so does it bother you? My friends say I need to chill out but I just think its fucking rude if I dont know you & give you a sign that its ok to touch me!


    Never been hit on by a guy, so I can't relate to your "problem." ;)
  • Moishendlishu...

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    Mar 07, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    I go off. They know right then, if they touch me again I will knock them the fuck out. I do not like being touched without an invitation, I've had friends before that got incredibly embarrassed cause I cursed a dude out loudly. Never had to rely on physical violence cause me angry is pretty intimidating thankfully but come close a few times.
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    Mar 07, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    "box" is slang for vagina
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  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    I think you need to tell these goofs to back off. The trick is to learn how to do it effectively without it bouncing back at you. That somebody can think that they are allowed to do that is really sick.
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    Mar 07, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    Grabby, touchy, feely? How do you deal?

    Touchy, feely has always been me! But as much as I like to touch and stay connected with another man, there are limits. A man should know what those limits are. It is my habit to ask, "my I touch you?", when next to a man that I feel like I want to touch.

    I'm old school...you ask, you don't just go for it!!! That's wrong Dude! I have issues with having been attacked sexually when a child. That man doesn't know what issues another man may have! The man will pay for his social indiscretion!

    Murray
  • mynyun

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    Mar 07, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    I'm not really one to let others grab at me either.
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    Mar 07, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    AndrewDavidAlexander said"box" is slang for vagina
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    BWAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA... you made my day with that.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Mar 07, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    sick Gucci on their ass lmao. no jsut tell then not to do it or u will kick their assicon_biggrin.gif. but make sur eu smile when u say it
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    Mar 07, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    redbull said
    Does this happen to you? If so does it bother you? My friends say I need to chill out but I just think its fucking rude if I dont know you & give you a sign that its ok to touch me!

    I'd say, "Buy me a drink, sailor?" icon_cool.gif they probably wont afford it cuz i'll be ordering 6-7 shots.
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    Mar 07, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    First there's a mild warning; a smile, and a firm "no". Though if that doesn't work, and he does it again, I just walk away. That gets the point across.