The "Gays" being the punchline of every joke...

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    Mar 05, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    I'm getting pretty sick of hearing so many friggin jokes about gays on TV or around me at work. I'm straight-acting and don't advertise the fact that I'm gay so people don't really make a effort around me and expect me to laugh/participate .... truth is... I'm close to punching someone in f****ing the face!

    Or worse, coworkers using the word "gay" for lame...

    What is so threatening about two dudes loving each other that it needs to be ridiculed everywhere you go?

    Society needs a major wake-up call... aka... a friggin gay messiah!

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    Mar 05, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    Next time someone goofs at work, you know, coffee spilled on the keyboard etc. Say, with pity, 'That's so straight.'


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    Mar 05, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    You could always say something to them...but if you think it's going to threaten your job then maybe not the best choice but always an option. The gay messiah could be yourself if you used your voice.
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    Well I do tell em to be careful about what they say... Im aware its a very general critique... cuz well... My career is JUST taking off and I don't need something as stupid as people's prejudice to slow me down. I'm not gonna go: you guys are aware that I'm gay?!.... well not just yet.

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    Mar 05, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    Maybe they're testing you to see how willing you are to stand up for yourself.
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidWell I do tell em to be careful about what they say... Im aware its a very general critique... cuz well... My career is JUST taking off and I don't need something as stupid as people's prejudice to slow me down. I'm not gonna go: you guys are aware that I'm gay?!.... well not just yet.



    Good gosh, you're in Canada. What kind of career is it where being gay is a liability? icon_eek.gif

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    Mar 05, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidMaybe they're testing you to see how willing you are to stand up for yourself.


    ... that would be bullying!! lol

    No they're very much unaware of my true sexual identity... ironically BECAUSE of prejudice.

    They picture gays as effeminate and "fabulous"... not someone who enjoys sports & beer. And I'll admit that kinda like the fact that they're so clueless.
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    Mar 05, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    kkongroar said
    unfounded7 saidMaybe they're testing you to see how willing you are to stand up for yourself.


    ... that would be bullying!! lol

    No they're very much unaware of my true sexual identity... ironically BECAUSE of prejudice.

    They picture gays as effeminate and "fabulous"... not someone who enjoys sports & beer. And I'll admit that kinda like the fact that they're so clueless.


    wellllll...

    you look pretty fabulous in this photo:

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    kidding icon_smile.gif .... kinda like a gay jet li

    you're just gonna have to stick it out with those gay jokes i guess.
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidWell I do tell em to be careful about what they say... Im aware its a very general critique... cuz well... My career is JUST taking off and I don't need something as stupid as people's prejudice to slow me down. I'm not gonna go: you guys are aware that I'm gay?!.... well not just yet.




    Well hey, that's a start maybe they'll learn that it upsets you and will have the respect to not do such things at least in your presence
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    haha
    I like that picture!
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:17 PM GMT
    [quote]
    Well hey, that's a start maybe they'll learn that it upsets you and will have the respect to not do such things at least in your presence [/quote]

    Well I meant more like society in general... I can take care of myself...

    It was a more: angry at the world kind of post... icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    Their behavior won't change if no one challenges it.

    Unfortunately, you are in part of a vicious cycle. Should you risk your career on the risk that prejudice will hold you back, effectively martyring your career potential, or should you stand on principal and fight for what you believe is right. What do you feel is your moral directive? Will one choice yield a more fulfilling career? Do you feel that one day you will be happy with your pickings and can out yourself, or will it always be after the next raise?

    Until you are ready to make your presence known... try to request that your colleagues not disrespect anyone. I've been there before too, and I also kept myself closeted. I kind of wish that I had stood up for myself in hindsight. I can always find a career where I am "wanted" or I can leave and make one myself.
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    I dont know where you work but when I signed my work contract for Mansef there in Montreal on the contacts section I put my boyfriends name, relationship - BOYFRIEND. I worked there for over 6 months and only 2 guys in the office knew that I was gay because at some point in a conversation we talked about girlfriends and then I said oh no Im not into girls. I dont wear a label to work and I dont have that effeminate side that would give it away but I dont hide it either and I see no reason why I should.
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidI'm getting pretty sick of hearing so many friggin jokes about gays on TV or around me at work. I'm straight-acting and don't advertise the fact that I'm gay so people don't really make a effort around me and expect me to laugh/participate .... truth is... I'm close to punching someone in f****ing the face!

    Or worse, coworkers using the word "gay" for lame...

    What is so threatening about two dudes loving each other that it needs to be ridiculed everywhere you go?

    Society needs a major wake-up call... aka... a friggin gay messiah!



    Just sexually harass them. It usually makes them uncomfortable enough to go away.
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:36 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidI'm getting pretty sick of hearing so many friggin jokes about gays on TV or around me at work. I'm straight-acting and don't advertise the fact that I'm gay so people don't really make a effort around me and expect me to laugh/participate .... truth is... I'm close to punching someone in f****ing the face!

    Or worse, coworkers using the word "gay" for lame...

    What is so threatening about two dudes loving each other that it needs to be ridiculed everywhere you go?

    Society needs a major wake-up call... aka... a friggin gay messiah!



    Next time, say" I'm gay, and those jokes are really starting to piss me off"
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    Mar 05, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    Yeah I know. You guys are probably right...

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    Mar 05, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    kkongroar said[quote]
    Well hey, that's a start maybe they'll learn that it upsets you and will have the respect to not do such things at least in your presence


    Well I meant more like society in general... I can take care of myself...

    It was a more: angry at the world kind of post... icon_razz.gif[/quote]

    There is always going to be prejudice and bigotry in the world. Cant change that. Just have to move on and not let it bother you. Just ignorant people talking.
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    Mar 05, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidhaha
    I like that picture!


    yeah the picture is funny... homo
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]meninlove said[/cite] Next time someone goofs at work, you know, coffee spilled on the keyboard etc. Say, with pity, 'That's so straight.'


    Love it!! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    my dad and his coworkers make alot of gay jokes and it doesnt really phase me i just ignore the jokes i know they r just joking and r not serious about it because they make fun of alot of things and people
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    I don't generally mind gay jokes as long as they aren't mean spirited. But I HATE the term, that's so gay!

    To the OP, maybe you could let on to your sexual orientation in a subtle way. For instance, when I started my current job, along with pictures of my dogs and other personal photos, I put one of my partner and me on vacation. It wasn't a sexy pic or anything just the two of us posing like tourists. People caught on at work pretty quick and I didn't have to formally announce, "Hey, I'm gay."
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    Mar 05, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    yeah, it won't be long before I launch a verbal assault on one of those people. it'd be fun to surprise and scare the shit out of some bigots icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 05, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    kkongroar saidSociety needs a major wake-up call... aka... a friggin gay messiah!


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    Mar 05, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    Great, now I wanna make out with kkongroar
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    Mar 05, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    meninlove said Next time someone goofs at work, you know, coffee spilled on the keyboard etc. Say, with pity, 'That's so straight.'


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    Change it to: "thats so breeder".. has much more impact.