Drink too much?

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    Mar 06, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    Ok, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidOk, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?


    I've done internships. You don't HAVE to drink. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    How often are you drinking?
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    dekiruman said
    ATX611 saidOk, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?


    I've done internships. You don't HAVE to drink. icon_rolleyes.gif


    You don't have to, yes, but in his field of work, it's recommended. It's a common practice among business men to take clients out for drinks, get them to relax and comfortable with you to make a better trade and such. So while you don't have to, it is often frowned upon and makes your job more difficult if you can't loosen up with a couple drinks. Alcohol is practically in every culture, something everyone can enjoy.

    Anyway, back on topic. As long as you are not an alcoholic, I don't see the problem in letting your partner just suck it up and deal with it. Drinking is fine as long as you control the drinks, not the other way around.

    Best wishes to you sir.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Dump your boyfriend and start saving for the cost of a liver donor from a third world country.Life is easy without stress.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
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    ATX611 saidOk, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?


    I've done internships. You don't HAVE to drink. icon_rolleyes.gif




    Uuuuhhhhhhh, yeah I do. In my field, with my company going out isn't a "maybe" its a "how long can you hang". Don't know the field your internship is in, but mine lends itself to the drank.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    It's really a personal call, nobody can force it upon you. We learn lessons in peer pressure as kids but, by the time you are an adult you are expected to practice what you learned. I have gone to dozens and dozens of corporate banquets over the last 20 years and it is only respected when you mention that you don't drink. It even impresses clients, and yes, even the multi-million dollar ones and I have worked in some pretty wild and crazy industries.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidOk, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?


    You are taking the piss right???????????????????????

    Internships requiring you to drink icon_rolleyes.gif What a story.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 06, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    You could always tip the waiter to bring you a watery drink that looks like booze, if you feel compelled to look like you're drinking when you're out with clients. He might have filled the glass in the bathroom, but that's another realjock topic.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    I understand sometimes drinking is part of dealing with clients, networking, etc. I try to limit the amount of alcohol I consume in such situations, though. The last thing I want is to be stupid drunk in front of people I have to work with or for in the future. What I do is have a couple drinks, maybe three and then quietly ask the bartender/server just to make my next few club sodas or diet Cokes so it isn't really obvious I'm no longer drinking alcohol. Now, if someone decides to buy a round of shots, that can get tricky, but I'll usually take it and then make sure to follow up with a couple of alcohol free drinks.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    ATX611 said
    dekiruman said
    ATX611 saidOk, I like this site, a lot of varying opinions. Ok, I graduated just recently and have an internship, I have to say my degree deals with advertising/marketing/P.R. and I love it. Now, my internship requires me to go out, network, get crazy and drink. Having said that the guy I'm seeing thinks I drink too much, but it's kind of part of the internship. I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself, should he just deal with it? I'm tired of explaining myself, questions, comments, concerns?


    I've done internships. You don't HAVE to drink. icon_rolleyes.gif




    Uuuuhhhhhhh, yeah I do. In my field, with my company going out isn't a "maybe" its a "how long can you hang". Don't know the field your internship is in, but mine lends itself to the drank.


    I'd take a different career path if I were you.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    Read 'I am Not Myself These Days' by Josh Kilmer-Purcell and 'Dry' by Augusten Burroughs- two books about gay men, excess, and working for ad agencies.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    Dude, if this isn't a tongue in cheek post you are lying to yourself. Moderation.
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    Mar 06, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    Ok perhaps the message has been lost. I don't have a drinking problem, nor do I drink too much. However with my internship (ad/mktng/pr) its expected. Party/event planning yada yada yada. THE GUY I'M SEEING THINKS I DRINK TOO MUCH, I've explained it. But he still complains. My god I feel like I'm at an intervention
  • matt13226

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    Mar 06, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    just tell him you only have one drink and that its for work its not like u do it all the time or its not like your an alcoholic its for your job and u can stop when you want too
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidOk perhaps the message has been lost. I don't have a drinking problem, nor do I drink too much. However with my internship (ad/mktng/pr) its expected. Party/event planning yada yada yada. THE GUY I'M SEEING THINKS I DRINK TOO MUCH, I've explained it. But he still complains. My god I feel like I'm at an intervention


    Does he say you seem drunk when he sees you after you've been out or is he just assuming you're drinking a whole lot?
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
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    Uuuuhhhhhhh, yeah I do. In my field, with my company going out isn't a "maybe" its a "how long can you hang". Don't know the field your internship is in, but mine lends itself to the drank.
    Yeah, I don't buy this one bit. Going out is on thing, drinking and over drinking is another. You can easily order soda and lime or water with lime or even if you did wish to have a drink, stop at one and then have something non-alcoholic. Being social and getting to know clients does not mean getting drunk. If your bf or 'guy you're seeing' thinks your drinking is a problem you might want to be serious at looking at it. Based on your profile you look like you're pretty smart but I get the idea that being in a group and being loud and partying might be something you like more than a requirement of your employment. If that's the case, I'd say you need to rethink your relationship
  • DanOmatic

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    Mar 06, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    I dunno: if someone, especially my bf, mentioned to me that he thought I had a drinking problem, it might make me stop and think about why he might feel it necessary to say so. I might not agree, but I'd at least try to see what about my behavior might lead him to come to that conclusion.

    I had a bf once with a drug/alcohol problem, but of course NOT according to him.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Mar 06, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    dont drink if they say have one say i dont drink or u quit. i guess it depends on how much u like the guy u r dating, if u like him u will tone it down if not then do what u want.
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidOk perhaps the message has been lost. I don't have a drinking problem, nor do I drink too much. However with my internship (ad/mktng/pr) its expected. Party/event planning yada yada yada. THE GUY I'M SEEING THINKS I DRINK TOO MUCH, I've explained it. But he still complains. My god I feel like I'm at an intervention


    Try working in the Surf, Skate, and Snowboard industry... O'Neil actually has a bar located as you walk through the front door here in Costa Mesa. Never was I required to drink and yes EVERYBODY drank!

    I have no idea how much you drink but, you started this post as someone who was being peer pressured into drinking on the job and I question just how professional that really is.
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    Oh Jesus h. Jones forget it
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidMy god I feel like I'm at an intervention


    Did somebody say 'intervention'?

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 06, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidOk perhaps the message has been lost. I don't have a drinking problem, nor do I drink too much. However with my internship (ad/mktng/pr) its expected. Party/event planning yada yada yada. THE GUY I'M SEEING THINKS I DRINK TOO MUCH, I've explained it. But he still complains. My god I feel like I'm at an intervention


    Sorry but you are using this internship as an excuse to drink. Are you trying to tell us that nondrinkers can't do this job and excel at it?
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    You state that; "I refuse to let anyone come in between my career and myself,"

    With all due respect, the only thing that will come between you and your career, is your drinking. Try ordering Soda water or non-alcoholic drinks next time you have a job related social function to attend. When you walk into tthe Offiice the next morning, your superiors and colleagues will not only respect you, but have confidence in sending you out to functions where you will be representing their company's reputation.

    With that said, I have never come across a job description which stated that "drinking to much was kind of part of the internship". I doubt that any company wants to be held liable for their employees excessive drinking.
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    I don't drink too much, he thinks I drink too much. No one else does (friends, family, coworkers) he's the only only one. Christ almighty.