New Encounters: is stress inevitable?

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    Mar 06, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    My first relationship with a guy was when I started university. That lasted two years. Then, I found someone I thought I would spend my life with; we were together for four years, the last two married. Now he’s gone and I just met this guy that is the reason of this post.

    I met him on Grindr (iPhone app) and we connected right away (from what I get). We didn’t have sex the first time we met but we slept together, cuddling. The next day I was at his place again to watch a movie, that time we had sex. The best I ever had. And then I spend the next two nights at his place. One night we went to see a play and the other we watched another movie. I think we have similar interests and we have interesting conversations.

    Also, in the morning when we go our separate ways, he gives me a kiss in the middle of the street where everyone is watching. This makes me melt inside and smile for the rest of the day.

    But something is weird. Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s because I’m kinda drunk on sake right now (which is probably why I am posting this) but a part of me says he only wants my ass. He compliments it often, which is flattering of course but, I don’t know. Is he just horny? I mean I am too, I’m 24. But with him, I’d like more.

    He invited me to a concert Saturday. We are having dinner before and I will sleep at his place after…

    I guess my question is this: how do you know what someone wants when dating, if it’s just sex or a possible relationship? Are there signs? Should I ask? Is it too soon? I’m I crazy? Is the world going to end soon?

    It may be that I am used to having control and knowing what is going on. It’s the uncertainty that is unbearable.

    I’d like to hear opinions and comments.
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    Mar 06, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    Just take things slow. If he's taking you to concerts, etc., it seems like he might want more, too. At the beginning, I think just seeing that someone lives up to his commitments (doesn't cancel the date), and is fun to be around, is enough. After a month or two, maybe think about talking about where things are going. Right now, that might be premature. And, be safe!
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    Mar 06, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    Neither of us have anything to say, but these folks do..just listen..

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    Mar 06, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    Haha, Thank you that's nice icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    Boyce saidMy first relationship with a guy was when I started university. That lasted two years. Then, I found someone I thought I would spend my life with; we were together for four years, the last two married. Now he’s gone and I just met this guy that is the reason of this post.

    I met him on Grindr (iPhone app) and we connected right away (from what I get). We didn’t have sex the first time we met but we slept together, cuddling. The next day I was at his place again to watch a movie, that time we had sex. The best I ever had. And then I spend the next two nights at his place. One night we went to see a play and the other we watched another movie. I think we have similar interests and we have interesting conversations.

    Also, in the morning when we go our separate ways, he gives me a kiss in the middle of the street where everyone is watching. This makes me melt inside and smile for the rest of the day.

    But something is weird. Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s because I’m kinda drunk on sake right now (which is probably why I am posting this) but a part of me says he only wants my ass. He compliments it often, which is flattering of course but, I don’t know. Is he just horny? I mean I am too, I’m 24. But with him, I’d like more.

    He invited me to a concert Saturday. We are having dinner before and I will sleep at his place after…

    I guess my question is this: how do you know what someone wants when dating, if it’s just sex or a possible relationship? Are there signs? Should I ask? Is it too soon? I’m I crazy? Is the world going to end soon?

    It may be that I am used to having control and knowing what is going on. It’s the uncertainty that is unbearable.

    I’d like to hear opinions and comments.


    Go with the flow. Taking things slow. It will make itself clear soon enough
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    Mar 06, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    You're overanalyzing this thing. Take it one day at a time and have fun. So what if he only wants your hot ass? Is that bad? Methinks not. If he wants more, then be happy but don't do a cartwheel just yet. Just don't scare off this dreamboy of yours.
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    Mar 06, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Thanks,
    I think I am overanalysing too icon_smile.gif

    I guess I'll just see what happens. But I'd really like it to work with this one...