Wes, what hurt's the most is knowing I can't call you to hangout, I can't talk to you about my troubles, I can't go ring your doorbell when I'm bored at home, I won't see you in class anymore, I can't copy your homework, I won't be able to sit next to you at lunch anymore, I can't take you home after school, I won't be able to go up to you and give you a hug for being such a good friend.
Honestly, I know I told you all the time but I feel like it's not enough, I love you man you were like a brother to me, one i've always wanted. Having that special bond taken away is what hurt's the most. I feel so empty inside and am going to pray for you to come back every night buddy, Wes I love you!
It's terrible that your friend is gone. I know there's nothing I can say to make it better. I can only tell you that it's very tragic, but that's the way life is sometimes. We can't keep these things from happening. We can only go on living.
I know this loss will always be with you, but I also know that you'll find a way to go on. Take comfort in the fact that your life will always be better for having known him, and his life was better for having known you. Remember the good times you shared and don't let yourself be crippled by the sadness. Keep him with you in your heart and live your life in a way that will make him proud.
This is a hard thing to deal with at such a young age but I know you will find a way to accept it and move ahead.
Words fail man... There's really no guidance to offer, nothing to say to soothe the pain. Grief and a sense of shock and loss are completely normal, even more so when it was unexpected. If your school brings in counselors, talk with them. If not, talk with your friends and those who knew him; don't try to pretend that nothing is wrong...
I can only offer a hug from a thousand miles away...
I remember seeing this on the news. What a shock this must have been to the family, not to mention the kids at school watching the game. One minute they are celebrating victory and joyous, the next tragedy brings it to a screeching halt. It's so unfair that such a promising young man's life is cut short so suddenly.
How amazing and wonderful that you've brought his story to us. How astounding that you are already celebrating him, without knowing, by introducing his philosophy to us. Plain and simple - press on to the very end with everything you have. He could have no better friend, mourning him and missing him, and keeping him alive beyond just a news story and one community. Lucky guy. He had you there, and will have you here remembering and witnessing him as you keep pressing on with all you have. Lucky us, to have you here and let us hold you in our thoughts, thankful for your and your friend's lesson. XO
Can't add to what the others have said, but if the number of RJ members responding gives you some comfort, I'm with you. What is poignant is something reported nationally has directly touched a member of the RJ family.
Grieving is a natural part of loss. It is tragic events like this one that help to raise awareness about the underdiagnosis of cardiac abnormalities that can lead to sudden death in athletes. Although it appears that extensive resuscitation efforts were attempted, they failed.
Based on your account and those in other news articles, it sounds like Mr. Leonard was a special individual. Hopefully your community can propagate his memory through a memorial scholarship fund, screening for cardiomyopathy in other athletes, or lobbying for the presence of automated external defibrillators in the high school gyms, etc.
My condolences on the sudden passing of your friend.
I am so sorry for your loss man. Such a tragedy. All you need to try to do now is think of the happy times you had with him. Celebrate his life. I am sure he would want you to think back on his legacy and smile, rather than look back and cry. Hang in there buddy!
honestly, i want to thank you all soo much for your words. it definitely means a lot to me, his family, and wes that you all care so much about his tragedy. reading your responses is helping me move forward throughout the days, slowly but surely. thanks once again!
It's such a terrible tragedy when the life of someone is cut short- especially with someone as sudden and as young as Wes here. I'm really sorry for your loss. I've been there myself, and unfortunately, the only thing that I can say that works is to just hang in there- time heals all wounds.
My heartfelt condolences to both you and the entire family. From what I have heard in the news, your friend was a very special and talented individual. Just as you were blest to have him in your life, I'm sure that he felt very blest to have you in his life. He will always live on in the deepths of your heart. Keep strong. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
I am real sorry for your loss. My brother lost one a friend in highschool due to drowning accident. I remember what my brother was going through at the time. Keep close to friends and family for support, and its ok to just let it out. A tragedy is difficult to overcome, but you will get through this as I saw my kid brother did. Hang in there buddy!