What the hell?!

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    Mar 06, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    Guys could you help me out this because this is kinda pissing me off. No I do not need any tissues nor am I some angst broody fella. Just help me on how to figure this one out. (Sorry if this long but please bare with me)


    On Sunday after a friends baby shower(which was nice) I made plans to grab beers with this family friend's son and chill. So we grab beers and we chilled on my patio. We talked and stuff and while he sat down I was standing. Later I paced around and he asked for a head rub . So anyhow my magic fingers were doing the work as we continued to chat, my hands also went down under his shirt. At that moment I was basically feeling him up ...He didn't even flinch! In fact I even kept my face next to his during certain conversations. He smelled really nice. Soon the beers were finished and he was ready to go to the club for a swim. I kinda didn't want him to go but I guess the moment passed....

    What is up him though...I mean when he's around, I act in lack of a better word, a lil queer.
    In most conversations he talks about girls and exes. I mean I've talked about my girls and exes. I am a bi male but its not something that say out openly. I don't exactly tell him, a straight guy about guys I've slept with. Whats with him though? Did he pick it up earlier on that something is up with me and wants to test my waters..Is he curious, does he even like me in that way, the attraction between him and I.... Its not that want to have sex with him, but I do want to kiss him.

    This is like the third time this type of thing has happened.Is he that fucking oblivious that he may sending the wrong signal especially when I've actually dared to feel his chest ......
    I got to know him better because of his bro's wedding so he's a liberal guy and a nice one, if not a little egotistical

    On a side when I really do like someone I act particularly sour to them. Yes yes its immature but why am I getting this signal on my end and then I proceeded to be slightly tensed and rude.


    So what the hell?! A straight guy wouldn't never let a guy touch him in an intimate manner like this and talk about girls. Hell I wouldn't let someone touch me like that whenever I am fixed on a female gender.

    He's a family friend and I don't want to fuck that up because I ended up kissing him.

    Now the only solution I can think of is to just do it and kiss him.I've learned a long time ago to take to how things come but I need your thoughts on the matter.

    Grrrr I do not like this one bit!icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 06, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidSo anyhow my magic fingers were doing the work as we continued to chat, my hands also went down under his shirt. At that moment I was basically feeling him up ...He didn't even flinch! In fact I even kept my face next to his during certain conversations. !icon_evil.gif


    He sounds like a head case--a very receptive head case. Just kiss the damned boy--but wear a helmet or some protective gear before you do so, just in case he decides to deck you. Protect that pretty face at all cost!
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    Mar 07, 2011 8:21 AM GMT
    Ehh I have had some straight friends that will allow me to be touchy feely. I could put my head on their shoulder, sit on their lap, put my legs across their lap, lots of stuff like that. I have had some very touch feely guy friends. This was all when no one knew I was gay, so maybe they allow it because they think we are straight.

    But then again, I got drunk and messed around with one of those guys once, so maybe they are all just closet gay guys haha
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    Mar 07, 2011 8:28 AM GMT
    "A straight guy wouldn't never let a guy touch him in an intimate manner like this and talk about girls."


    Whispers: He's not "STRAIGHT"

    No REAL straight man, who is strictly into WOMEN would let you feel their chest.
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    Mar 07, 2011 8:50 AM GMT
    Hes probably bi just like you, perhaps just want to have a good time regardless of gender. He obviously is pretty open to new experiences and enjoys good company. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 07, 2011 9:08 AM GMT
    UberBane said"A straight guy wouldn't never let a guy touch him in an intimate manner like this and talk about girls."


    Whispers: He's not "STRAIGHT"

    No REAL straight man, who is strictly into WOMEN would let you feel their chest.


    Not true. Think about athletes and the massages they get. A man comfortable in his own skin who is confident about his sexuality and knows nothing is gonna happen will have no problem letting someone of the same sex touch them in a platonic manner. Had his hand ventured down south then I would totally agree with you totally.

    That would be like saying no REAL gay man would ever let a woman touch him on his chest. That would be a double standard.

    In any case, OP, you answered you own question about the situation? He's a family friend and you don't wanna fuck up the relationship. With that being said you need to exercise some self control. I'm willing to bet your buddy knows you are bi/gay and doesn't feel the need to question you since he feels it isn't an issue.

    You'll be fine. Besides you have an interest in someone else who you say you are sour too so maybe should should try that venue and leave the family friend alone. Problem solved.
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    Mar 07, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    Guy101With that being said you need to exercise some self control


    Ahahah you know I did that a couple of times and he asked to why the hell I get tensed....icon_razz.gif

    Bah I couldn't sleep a bloody wink because my brain decided to jerk me off by me actually kissing him...

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 07, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    Sounds odd to me, but maybe he is "exploring" but so weird about it he's like saying "I want to explore this (meaning your hands on me), but I'm straight, remember I'm straight".....LOL. Talking about getting 2 messages
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    Mar 07, 2011 1:32 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidSounds odd to me, but maybe he is "exploring" but so weird about it he's like saying "I want to explore this (meaning your hands on me), but I'm straight, remember I'm straight".....LOL. Talking about getting 2 messages


    Hahahaha I couldn't have said it any better.

    Maybe he picked up the fact that i tend to keep a neutral stance on sexuality. I keep myself as being 'undeclared' icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 07, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    Fivealive said... I was standing. Later I paced around and he asked for a head rub . So anyhow my magic fingers were doing the work as we continued to chat, my hands also went down under his shirt. At that moment I was basically feeling him up ...He didn't even flinch! In fact I even kept my face next to his during certain conversations. He smelled really nice. Soon the beers were finished and he was ready to go to the club for a swim. I kinda didn't want him to go but I guess the moment passed....

    Grrrr I do not like this one bit!icon_evil.gif


    Really? Your hands, your face, you in controll of what you do about your attraction and you're protesting as if he seduced and confused you?
    Isn't that a bit like someone blaming the hamburger for forcing them to eat it and wondering why they got fat?

    Rigid definitions combined with lack of ability to recognize how one is responsible for one's own actions leads to running for Congress. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 07, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    reach under the table and jerk him off.. if he blows you'll know.. if not he'll stop you!

    Good god.. you should know by now men and women don't come with instruction manuals!

  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    Indeed, men and women do not come with instruction manuals.

    These days, there are some guys out there who are not insecure about their experience of sexuality. Your friend may just be one of them. So what, he seems to like the treatment. This has happened more than once, right?

    The only way to deal with this is to realize that you can pursue it, or let it happen, if you want, or you can cut it off, if you want. There is nothing really wrong with keeping your leanings to yourself unless you end up being unhappy because of it. You just have to do a lot of thinking and relaxing and find a comfortable place somewhere on the continuum where both you and your friend fit.

    Try not to think of it as "A straight guy would not...," but as "A guy who is secure and comfortable with himself would...."
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    Mar 07, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    He wanted a head rub and asked somone who would be willing. No big deal.
  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    "Rigid definitions combined with lack of ability to recognize how one is responsible for one's own actions leads to running for Congress."

    An astute and perceptive thought, MuscleComeBack!
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    Mar 07, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidReally? Your hands, your face, you in controll of what you do about your attraction and you're protesting as if he seduced and confused you?
    Isn't that a bit like someone blaming the hamburger for forcing them to eat it and wondering why they got fat?

    Rigid definitions combined with lack of ability to recognize how one is responsible for one's own actions leads to running for Congress. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oh no I was pretty aware of my actions. I thought about it and I've come to accept that I am a seducer...I've charmed and seduced both sexes into bed, and now I am the process of seducing another straight man.


    Can I be any more evil....
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    Mar 07, 2011 4:39 PM GMT

    "Oh no I was pretty aware of my actions. I thought about it and I've come to accept that I am a seducer...I've charmed and seduced both sexes into bed, and now I am the process of seducing another straight man."

    lol, I know bi men that play this game well; come across as straight and have the gay man seduce you. Who's zooming who? icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 07, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Can still claim that I am still an innocent in some sort of fashion?!


    I'm in dark waters now regarding this fella but dammit there is some attraction I have for him that is not relegated to having him in bed with me...And no I do not feel love but there is an insatiable need to kiss him