elninodeoeo saidI have been single for over 7 years.... I am not sure if I will ever be ready to be in another realtionship...(I got my heart broken). But I also do not do the hook up thing. I am not judging...just not my style. The thing is that I do want to be in a realtionship, but it is hard for me to let my guard down. I was wondering if there other guys that feel the same way.
How unique it seems... I too have not so much as had sex over the last seven years. The relationships I trusted 12 years ago infected me with HIV and it took me awhile to realize they were continuing to destroy my self esteem. I was so damn naive it was pathetic!!!
It's bad enough that I have severe mental disorders but, now it looks more to me that everyone else that sells themselves short in a relationship probably needs psychological help more than I do.
If there's a good relationship that exists well, it's not there for me and I have learned to change my priorities in life to accommodate the sacrifices I will now have to live with. Seemed hard at first but, I feel good about knowing my decisions were dignified and there are other ways to be happy and free.
If you feel ready just remember, do NOT give up your independence for anyone because in the end we all have to carry our own weight. Don't let the words "I love you" distract you from your freedom to be happy when you feel like it.