My Hair Stylist Guy

  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 08, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    So I met this guy at the gym and we started talking and turns out he's a hair stylist at this salon close to where I live. He gave me his card and I made an appt and he was very good lol

    I see him about once or twice a week at the gym and he says hi and lately he has been more touchy. For example, when I said bye, he said bye back and gave me a pat on the shoulder/back. Before that he was kind of play fighting and punched me a little in the chest.

    I don't know if he is gay/straight, I always thought most hair stylists were but who knows lol. He doesn't talk gay or act really gay in terms of having feminine traits. He has a bunch of tattoos and dresses kinda different but stylish at the same time.

    I guess I should just keep it at friends at gym and my hair cut guy?? See what happens
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    Mar 08, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    My hair stylist guy was an interesting experience, some 14 years ago. First, I have difficulty remembering how I first met him, either at a gay bar or online, but I knew he was gay, and we went to bed right away. He was a bottom, but couldn't handle my size. He loved it inside him, but just asked me to "twitch it" and never stroke.

    I had broken up with my wife not too long before and my finances were a disaster. He showed me brown paper grocery bags in his closet, filled with cash, all tips from the salon he owned that he wasn't declaring to the IRS. Take all you want, he told me. Well, of course I never took a single dollar, I'm not that kind of girl. icon_wink.gif

    He told me what a mess my hair was, from using the wrong kind of shampoo. He styled my hair in his salon, one of the few times since I was about 15 that I let someone else touch my hair, and as it turned out, the last. But he taught me important tips about shampoo deposits on hair when it's as very fine as mine is.

    He also would take me to his health club, where the guys all ran around naked in the locker room, sauna and steam room, even blow-dried their hair naked at the mirrors. Very homoerotic & lovely, but not specifically gay.

    He also took me to spend weekends at his vacation house on Puget Sound some 50 miles away, custom-built for him but a bit eccentric and impractical. I kinda fell in love with that hair stylist guy, myself not long out and trying to learn about the gay world, and my own feelings.

    But my wife decided to move out of state, and I followed after her, lest I lose contact with our kids. Since I knew she'd never let me see them again if I wasn't right nearby. A few years later she checkmated me and never let me see them again, in a red Republican State where she could effectively use my being gay against me legally.

    But anyway, that was my adventure with a gay hair stylist. If your guy is gay I wish you as much fun with him as I had with mine. And I agree with your approach -- stay friends, see what happens. If he's gay, and if he likes you, he'll eventually tell you.

    But he might have a partner/BF, many of course do. No problem. You expand your gay contacts through knowing them both, enjoy their social contacts, and through them you network more gays to meet, finding the single guy for you. Never turn down a lead.
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    Mar 08, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    He goes to the gym and cuts hair? He's gay. What straight guys are going to spend time at the gym?icon_rolleyes.gif

    Even if he were flamboyant, it wouldn't mean he's gay. It's more acceptable for hair stylists to be arty or eccentric and some straight stylists appear flamboyant. Some stylists act extra butch to consciously/subconsciously fight against the stereotype.
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    Mar 09, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    He's probably just networking. There are plenty of gay and metro stylists in the PHX/Scottsdale area.

    What salon?
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 09, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidHe's probably just networking. There are plenty of gay and metro stylists in the PHX/Scottsdale area.

    What salon?


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  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 09, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Ermine saidHe goes to the gym and cuts hair? He's gay. What straight guys are going to spend time at the gym?icon_rolleyes.gif

    Even if he were flamboyant, it wouldn't mean he's gay. It's more acceptable for hair stylists to be arty or eccentric and some straight stylists appear flamboyant. Some stylists act extra butch to consciously/subconsciously fight against the stereotype.


    So out of all the hairstylists, I got the straight one icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    he doesn't talk gay?? in a way of having feminine traits? better worded would be he doesn't talk feminine...........there is no gay way of talking that i am aware of..........now back to our program...sorry...........keith
  • alphatop

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    Mar 09, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    Hair stylist are totally gayicon_lol.gif
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Is it Stephen? He's gay, go for it!
  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 03, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    So I added him on Facebook and not only is he straight, he has a gf as well icon_sad.gif
  • gymrat1

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    Apr 03, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Gay, Bi, or Straight, I don't think it makes that much difference icon_smile.gif......he sounds really cool! The Kinsey studies, we are all somewhere in the middle of the continuim (sp?).

    He sounds like a really cool dude....I would just enjoy his company, and continue to hang out with him. Dont rush to conclusions, or wish him to be one way or another.
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    Apr 03, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    Just ask him.

    "Hey man, are you gay or straight or bi? You keep touching me..."

    Well , I would do that.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 03, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    The guy who has cut my hair for many years has shown interest, but in a very subtle way.
    I didn't pursue it.
    Suppose we dated and it didn't work out, or we ended up hating each other.

    Which is more difficult, finding a great guy to cut your hair or finding a great boyfriend ?
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    Apr 03, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    Seriously?

    A tap on the shoulder?

    ....and I thought I was delusional.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 03, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidJust ask him.

    "Hey man, are you gay or straight or bi? You keep touching me..."

    Well , I would do that.


    Well that's what Facebook is for lol