Whether a man is a good dancer- dealbreaker ?

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    Mar 08, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    Just wanted to see what other guys thought about this.

    If a guy can't dance is that a deal breaker when it comes to getting someones number ?

    Or do you find it a massive turn off if a man is constantly on the dancefloor all night and you get dragged along with them ?

    For me it's very important that my partner can dance and enjoys going to nightclubs. Sure staying in is great and can be fun too however I don't think I'm ready for exciting (sarcasm) weekends filled with book reading and trips to the park.

    I know a lot of women will also veto a man if they are not proficient on the dancefloor.

    So whats the verdict ?
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    Mar 08, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    You could get my number. I find people who can't dance very cute. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 08, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    It's definitely a plus if he can dance, but not a requirement. What IS a dealbreaker is if a guy absolutely refuses to try dancing or refuses to set foot anywhere near a dance floor.
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    Mar 08, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    whateveryo said

    I know a lot of women will also veto a man if they are not proficient on the dancefloor.



    It's funny you mention that, because I've read of theories by evolutionary psychologists that women (in addition to using visual cues - ie. muscularity, facial features, etc.) use movement cues such as dancing to assess physical strength in males. I think the basic paradigm in the field is that a man's ability to dance can be indicative of his physical strength, and strength is directly correlated with the ability to fight. Indeed, many great fighters are also great dancers (Bruce Lee was Hong Kong's Cha Cha Champion).

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    Mar 08, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    jeffy87 said
    whateveryo said

    I know a lot of women will also veto a man if they are not proficient on the dancefloor.



    It's funny you mention that, because I've read of theories by evolutionary psychologists that women (in addition to using visual cues - ie. muscularity, facial features, etc.) use movement cues such as dancing to assess physical strength in males. I think the basic paradigm in the field is that a man's ability to dance can be indicative of his physical strength, and strength is directly correlated with the ability to fight. Indeed, many great fighters are also great dancers (Bruce Lee was Hong Kong's Cha Cha Champion).



    I never knew that, certainly makes sense !
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    Mar 09, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Call me shallow but Massive MASSIVE MASSIVE turn-off

    I don't know why. I can't explain. I had the biggest obsession with this gorgeous guy who went out to a bar with me one night and started dancing- and that hideous moves he made cured me of my obsession instantly
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 09, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    Define dancing

    For me, grinding and gyrating and moving your hips is not dancing

    Now having actual moves and moving your feet, arms, hips and really feeling the music is true dancing to me

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    Mar 09, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    No wonder so many gays complain about being single - it is all the shallow standards guys icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    I don't think that having a preference for guys that can dance is shallow at all. For me, a guy's ability to dance shows his sense of musicality, rhythm, creativity, and expressiveness. Depending on the dance style, the ability to dance can be indicative of athleticism, coordination, agility, balance, and strength. You'd be surprised how incredibly athletic and fit classically trained dancers are.

    I wouldn't completely write off a guy just because he has two left feet, but it's nice to let loose to the music sometimes as dancing can be a sensual experience.
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    jeffy87 saidI don't think that having a preference for guys that can dance is shallow at all. For me, a guy's ability to dance shows his sense of musicality, rhythm, creativity, and expressiveness. Depending on the dance style, the ability to dance can be indicative of athleticism, coordination, agility, balance, and strength. You'd be surprised how incredibly athletic and fit classically trained dancers are.

    I wouldn't completely write off a guy just because he has two left feet, but it's nice to let loose to the music sometimes as dancing can be a sensual experience.



    thank you for the compliment!

    however, being a professional dancer myself. I don't need guys to be able to dance- just a guy who can have fun. that is more important to me.
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    I like guys who can't dance. You take them out on the floor, hold their hips tight to yours by putting your hands in their back pockets, and rock them gently with the swaying of your own body.
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    qwer1234 saidNo wonder so many gays complain about being single - it is all the shallow standards guys icon_wink.gif



    this
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Mar 09, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    It doesn't matter to me if a guy can dance or not. Some people are more talented than in some things than others! Even if he doesn't want to dance or step foot on a dance floor its cool! It is not a deal breaker for me. I don't think it should be for anyone.
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    lol the guy i dated last danced like a country white boy, not a deal breaker, meanwhile i dance like a slutty ho once i have a few drinks, least i got rhythm all through out ;)
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    Wow. I have zero dancing skills. And NEVER get onto the dance floor. But the guy I've just started seeing is a professional dancer (modern, ballet)... Judging by the consensus in this thread I should be worried he'll judge me for my lack of dancing skills? Yikes.
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    I thought Elaine Benes on Seinfeld was infinitely hotter when she busted out that insane freak dance at the Christmas party. I think someone who has no rhythm on the floor but has a massive amount of fun anyway to be insanely attractive.

    If you base who you will have a relationship with on something this fucking idiotic, you deserve to be single. Fully and utterly deserve.
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
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    qwer1234 saidNo wonder so many gays complain about being single - it is all the shallow standards guys icon_wink.gif



    this



    define: shallow
    act of judging people by their looks, monetary status, clothes, car, etc. rather than looking inside at their heart, personality. More for the trophy reasons than the actual person themself.

    see also Paris Hilton
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI like guys who can't dance. You take them out on the floor, hold their hips tight to yours by putting your hands in their back pockets, and rock them gently with the swaying of your own body.


    such a stud...icon_redface.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Mar 09, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    Buckyou saidYou could get my number. I find people who can't dance very cute. icon_wink.gif


    I agree, for some odd reason I find guys who can't dance but yet try to be hot
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    jeffy87 saidI don't think that having a preference for guys that can dance is shallow at all. For me, a guy's ability to dance shows his sense of musicality, rhythm, creativity, and expressiveness. Depending on the dance style, the ability to dance can be indicative of athleticism, coordination, agility, balance, and strength. You'd be surprised how incredibly athletic and fit classically trained dancers are.

    I wouldn't completely write off a guy just because he has two left feet, but it's nice to let loose to the music sometimes as dancing can be a sensual experience.


    I disagree with this on several notes. There are other ways to express yourself other than dance, the arts are much broader than drunk guys grinding on the dance floor. Perhaps getting to know the guy before declaring him uninspired would be a good idea. Also why does your mate have to have "coordination, agility, balance, and strength"? Are these features that your looking to pass on to your offspring or just qualities that you enjoy in the bedroom?

    I find it incredibly shallow to discard a guy just because he hasn't learned how to dance.
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    brisk270 said
    jeffy87 saidI don't think that having a preference for guys that can dance is shallow at all. For me, a guy's ability to dance shows his sense of musicality, rhythm, creativity, and expressiveness. Depending on the dance style, the ability to dance can be indicative of athleticism, coordination, agility, balance, and strength. You'd be surprised how incredibly athletic and fit classically trained dancers are.

    I wouldn't completely write off a guy just because he has two left feet, but it's nice to let loose to the music sometimes as dancing can be a sensual experience.


    I disagree with this on several notes. There are other ways to express yourself other than dance, the arts are much broader than drunk guys grinding on the dance floor. Perhaps getting to know the guy before declaring him uninspired would be a good idea. Also why does your mate have to have "coordination, agility, balance, and strength"? Are these features that your looking to pass on to your offspring or just qualities that you enjoy in the bedroom?

    I find it incredibly shallow to discard a guy just because he hasn't learned how to dance.


    I only fuck guys who can tango or waltz. (Viennese waltz is passable too, but that's IT!)
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    Mar 09, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
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    brisk270 said
    jeffy87 saidI don't think that having a preference for guys that can dance is shallow at all. For me, a guy's ability to dance shows his sense of musicality, rhythm, creativity, and expressiveness. Depending on the dance style, the ability to dance can be indicative of athleticism, coordination, agility, balance, and strength. You'd be surprised how incredibly athletic and fit classically trained dancers are.

    I wouldn't completely write off a guy just because he has two left feet, but it's nice to let loose to the music sometimes as dancing can be a sensual experience.


    I disagree with this on several notes. There are other ways to express yourself other than dance, the arts are much broader than drunk guys grinding on the dance floor. Perhaps getting to know the guy before declaring him uninspired would be a good idea. Also why does your mate have to have "coordination, agility, balance, and strength"? Are these features that your looking to pass on to your offspring or just qualities that you enjoy in the bedroom?

    I find it incredibly shallow to discard a guy just because he hasn't learned how to dance.


    I only fuck guys who can tango or waltz. (Viennese waltz is passable too, but that's IT!)


    So... virgin right?
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    Mar 09, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    This is fucking ridiculous.
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    Mar 09, 2011 6:20 AM GMT
    brisk270So... virgin right?


    just because you can't ballroom dance doesn't mean everybody is weak and uncoordinated...
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    Mar 09, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    Definitely find men that can dance sexy...my most passionate moments have been with guys that have rhythm. It's not a dealbreaker, but, pretty darn close.