Experience Discrimination In a Male Dominated Industry?

  • RDM85

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    Mar 08, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    I just recently came out to my family and a few close friends and am still in the process. One of the biggest concerns I have though is the job industry I work in. I work in an industry that is extremely male dominated and I am worried that colleagues will look at or treat me differently if they find out. I am going to try and keep my work life and personal life separate, but I know it is kind of inevitible that co-workers will find out. I am pretty sure it will come as a huge surprise. I was wondering if anyone is or has been in the same situation and what issues, if any, they have faced.
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    Mar 09, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    Exactly what jprichva said. I work in a male dominated industry as well. You either decide to try and hide it, or you just go in with all the confidence in the world and own it. No other choice. Good luck!!
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    Mar 09, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    Sexuality aside, I experienced loads of discrimination as the only male trainer in a verrry large company's training department, as they are traditionally an estrogen depot. Difficult place to work.
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    questions like this make me glad i'm in fashion hahaha
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    Mar 09, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    One used to work as a lumberjack, now we are really talking a male dominating world, and a man's man one too. I never hid the fact that I am a fag, a pure homosexual, one of the real gays. nor have I ever shoved it down people throat either; my sexuality that is. But with most of the guys, I was accepted as one of the guys; albeit I had to work harder at the beginning too prove myself. But..... that just translated into, that I was better at the job than many of them too.

    Now a female dominated environment may be diffrent, as you have to deal with many bitches with men issues, as well those that have been burnt by having a bisexual husband.
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    Mar 09, 2011 8:18 AM GMT
    You know you are promoting there is something who with homosexuality yourself.
  • RDM85

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    Mar 10, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Alright, this is making me feel better now that other people have dealt with this same type of situation.
  • conquer

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    Mar 10, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    i work in a very male dominated area with contractors, electricians etc coming in to my workplace. some of my co-workers are middle-aged hetero men who have never worked with a gay person before. i made sure my sexuality was known, that way if problems arose i knew i would be covered by my management. it also helps that i don't have to worry about losing my job because of discrimination. if someone tried to disrespect me in the workplace, there would be hell to pay
  • bcycledog

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    Nov 11, 2012 11:16 AM GMT
    For me being openly gay and even openly atheistic has been a challenge. I stay true to my convections and take pride in my accomplishments in spite of those who made it their propagative to keep me down. Eventually I've learned to use the ambiguity of a sexuality to my advantage and let the fools guess and speculate. The fools can fuck off.
    As far as a work environment is concerned, one can apply a "dont ask dont tell" policy but its 2012, one must get with the times and quit bitching. those fools and their ideas will die with them. Its been "getting better" for me after I came out.
  • Garou29

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    Nov 25, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    I completely agree with Aristoshark.

    In my experience if you play the ambiguos hiding-ish type, you'll come as weak.

    Being natural, honest and confident works wonders. Of course I don't mean telling everyone about your sex life, but if you're an open sociable person the topic will come up sooner than later (what you did weekend, where do you go party, single or not, girlfriend, wife... etc.).

    That doesn't avoid some people bitching behind your back, though. But if you're actually good at your job, most of the people will not care. Actually some will be curious and appreciative of it, since you could be the first open gay colleague they have.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    Garou26 saidI completely agree with Aristoshark.

    In my experience if you play the ambiguos hiding-ish type, you'll come as weak.

    Being natural, honest and confident works wonders. Of course I don't mean telling everyone about your sex life, but if you're an open sociable person the topic will come up sooner than later (what you did weekend, where do you go party, single or not, girlfriend, wife... etc.).

    That doesn't avoid some people bitching behind your back, though. But if you're actually good at your job, most of the people will not care. Actually some will be curious and appreciative of it, since you could be the first open gay colleague they have.


    You're probably right. I'm in a blue collar field, and I am probably seen as weak because I try to hide most details of my personal life.Many an angry person has projected their hate and anger towards me. As much as I hate cocky assholes to no end, sometimes I wish I were one myself, just to make everyone avoid me. The one time I did fight back, I almost got fired for it, and now I have to avoid certain others. What a lousy position to be in.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    You're asking us if you will become a victim instead of just declaring that you will not become a victim. Be confident.

    If any dudes give you shit, stare straight into his eyes and say, "I have roofies and I'm really good at using them on guys like you. So unless you want to me to reinact that scene from The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo, I suggest you keep your shit to yourself...."