Always attract clingy/possessive guys & girls?

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    Mar 09, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    I always seem to attract guys & girls that get real clingy & possessive over me quickly. Whats that about? :S Wish i could meet someone without those traits as it's a real turn off.
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    Mar 09, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    shows of affection can be great, just tell them to turn it down a wee bit....the alternative, you wouldn't like................Keithicon_wink.gif
  • alphatop

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    Mar 09, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    They say u attract those energies that are similar to yours...think about that. Changing the world starts from changing yourself.
  • Abc123456

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    Mar 09, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    AntoNomad saidThey say u attract those energies that are similar to yours...think about that. Changing the world starts from changing yourself.


    That's bullshit.

    That's like saying women who attract abusive partners are abusive themselves? Waaaah. No.

    It probably has to do with this guy's perspective on dating and relationships, coupled with the fact that he's generically good looking.

    There was a time I wanted a relationship so bad; now that I've had a few the excitement has wained. But some guys still have the hunger. When you're nice, normal, and somewhat aloof, they seem to stick a little longer and grab a little harder. No big deal. If you're not into them, be forward, honest but do it in a nice way.

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    Mar 09, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]jekyll2hyde said[/cite]
    AntoNomad saidThey say u attract those energies that are similar to yours...think about that. Changing the world starts from changing yourself.


    That's bullshit.

    That's like saying women who attract abusive partners are abusive themselves?
    EXACTLY!
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    Mar 09, 2011 11:41 AM GMT
    I don't know. Why are you so attracted to needy/clingy people?
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    Many of the guys that I end up meeting start out not being clingy and possessive because they know that I dislike those qualities, but that changes very quickly. Frankly, I don't mind it as much if I'm really into the guy. You need to be more explicit with your preferences--just tell them that you don't like clingy and possessive people, and then hope that they don't violate your expectations.
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    Mar 12, 2011 9:05 PM GMT
    AntoNomad said[quote][cite]jekyll2hyde said[/cite]
    AntoNomad saidThey say u attract those energies that are similar to yours...think about that. Changing the world starts from changing yourself.


    That's bullshit.

    That's like saying women who attract abusive partners are abusive themselves?
    EXACTLY!


    The women more likely to stick with an abusive partner have been abused in the past.
    The abusive partner was, in all likelihood, abused in the past as well.
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    Mar 12, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
    Look for someone who isn't that into you. A guy or girl who isn't that into you won't be clingy.
    Try dating someone who just wants a casual date. You want someone who, when you're there, is fine and when you're not around is fine with that too.