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    Mar 10, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    what will u think when a guy are dating with you but he don't wanna have sex with you anymore...? this is my trouble...he said he was tired...! this is a really big trouble...but he still takes care me...! sorry...My English so bad...I'm from Asian...so this is not my native language...and I have just entered my English class...thanks...~_~!
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    Mar 10, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    Viktor saidwhat will u think when a guy are dating with you but he don't wanna have sex with you anymore...? this is my trouble...he said he was tired...! this is a really big trouble...but he still takes care me...! sorry...My English so bad...I'm from Asian...so this is not my native language...and I have just entered my English class...thanks...~_~!


    So you have an older daddy who, one day, after working his butt off so he can take care of you was very tired and couldn't have sex.
    And this makes you think that he doesn't want to... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 10, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    Viktor saidwhat do you think when a guy is dating you,but he doesn't want tohave sex with you anymore...? this is my trouble...he said he was tired...! this is a really big problem...but he still takes care me...! sorry...My Engrish is so bad...I'm from Asia...so this is not my native language...and I have just began my English class...thanks...~_~!
    fixd*


    Well the majority. .....
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    Mar 10, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    Viktor saidI'm from Asian...


    Hehe.

    Anyways. Did this just happen once? If it did, then it is no big deal. Everyone is too tired for sex at some point in their lives
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    Mar 10, 2011 10:08 AM GMT
    thank you guys...not once...many times...so it becomes a big trouble!...I asked him but always...tired! how do you feel if your bf stop having sex with you...? so crazy...of couse if he is the sweet heart...you will have trouble...?! if just a partner...it's a different way...!
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    Mar 10, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    Maybe it's the yellow coat?
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    Mar 10, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidMaybe it's the yellow coat?



    I absolutely love this site... hahahahaha.....
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    Mar 10, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    DOMINUS saidMaybe it's the yellow coat?



    I absolutely love this site... hahahahaha.....



    x10.

    haha
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    Mar 10, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Ah this happens in gay relationships? I thought it was only hetero relationships lol.

    I think I know whats going on here, it's very common for married women to do this. It's not that he doesn't want to have sex, but he has been asked so many times now that he feels obligated too, it's becoming a pressure point instead of a pleasure point for him.

    This doesn't mean you have done anything wrong but that could be what is going on. Btw have you asked him why he doesn't want to have sex?

    When you have a conversation with him, pick a date and declare that you two will not have sex until that time. Take it off the table so he doesn't have to think about it. It's gotta be a month out at least too for this to work. During this time cuddle with him, be friendly but nothing below the waist.

    Sometimes that is all that is needed to get the juices flowing again. If that doesnt work try a sex therapist.
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    Mar 10, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    ahh you're from Vietnam. I know its a very harsh place to be gay. Most people over there are still conservative and traditional. I'm pretty sure you both are closeted. Correct me if I'm wrong.

    Since it's hard to find a gay person to connect, once a person finds one, they tend to LINGER on to the relationship even though it's doomed. This could be your case. He might take care of you until he finds another one to connect.

    It might not be your case, but at least assume so and give him some space. Try not to obligate him with anything, especially sex. Talk more. "Tam su" more. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 10, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    ddt8665 saidahh you're from Vietnam. I know its a very harsh place to be gay. Most people over there are still conservative and traditional. I'm pretty sure you both are closeted. Correct me if I'm wrong.

    Since it's hard to find a gay person to connect, once a person finds one, they tend to LINGER on to the relationship even though it's doomed. This could be your case. He might take care of you until he finds another one to connect.

    It might not be your case, but at least assume so and give him some space. Try not to obligate him with anything, especially sex. Talk more. "Tam su" more. icon_wink.gif


    I think this could be a good explanation of what's going on....



    on a different note....
    what's with these bitchy queens making fun of the OP's english skills and culture. he's not an english language native, and yet had the balls to create a post asking for advice.

    why don't you try making a post in your 2nd or 3rd language? oh wait, maybe you don't even know a 2nd language icon_rolleyes.gificon_razz.gif

    sorry for the rant, I'm a little tipsy and in an angry sarcastic mood, so I forgot that anglophone RJ members have better opinions and are superior to members from different cultures.... my bad
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    Mar 10, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
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    ddt8665 saidahh you're from Vietnam. I know its a very harsh place to be gay. Most people over there are still conservative and traditional. I'm pretty sure you both are closeted. Correct me if I'm wrong.

    Since it's hard to find a gay person to connect, once a person finds one, they tend to LINGER on to the relationship even though it's doomed. This could be your case. He might take care of you until he finds another one to connect.

    It might not be your case, but at least assume so and give him some space. Try not to obligate him with anything, especially sex. Talk more. "Tam su" more. icon_wink.gif


    I think this could be a good explanation of what's going on....



    on a different note....
    what's with these bitchy queens making fun of the OP's english skills and culture. he's not an english language native, and yet had the balls to create a post asking for advice.

    why don't you try making a post in your 2nd or 3rd language? oh wait, maybe you don't even know a 2nd language icon_rolleyes.gificon_razz.gif

    sorry for the rant, I'm a little tipsy and in an angry sarcastic mood, so I forgot that anglophone RJ members have better opinions and are superior to members from different cultures.... my bad

    I don't think they were making fun of his english. He got some good advice and the jokes, typical of RJ and funny, were not about his language at all. I'm very sensitive about people making fun like that. I speak other languages and have many friends in other countries. If I thought they were in any way making fun of him, I'd strongly agree with you.
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    Mar 10, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidMaybe it's the yellow coat?


    oh lord. ur too much icon_biggrin.gif

    On-topic: Maybe he really was tired? I mean how often do you expect sex? but don't answer that.
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    Mar 10, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
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    I don't think they were making fun of his english. He got some good advice and the jokes, typical of RJ and funny, were not about his language at all. I'm very sensitive about people making fun like that. I speak other languages and have many friends in other countries. If I thought they were in any way making fun of him, I'd strongly agree with you.


    .... maybe I could be wrong for interpreting those remarks about the OP's "engRish" and the yellow coat as juvenile fingerpointing. or maybe not.
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    Mar 11, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    you can post in Vietnamese and I'll translate no problem. ;)
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    Mar 11, 2011 7:38 AM GMT
    however...thanks for commetting...especially, chainer, ddt8665, socalfitness, and criduchat...yours are useful...but I didn't ask him so many times...just sometime! it's ok until one day I changed to know that he have just masturbated...forget it!...terrible and so crazy...!
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    Mar 11, 2011 7:40 AM GMT
    sorry a yellow coat...I'm on my work so...!
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    Mar 13, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Viktor saidsorry a yellow coat...I'm on my work so...!



    hey if you like it, im down for it icon_smile.gif

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    Mar 13, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    hold_it_against_me said
    Alpha_Muscle said
    DOMINUS saidMaybe it's the yellow coat?



    I absolutely love this site... hahahahaha.....



    x10.

    haha


    You guys are all fucked up lol
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    Mar 13, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    Viktor saidhowever...thanks for commetting...especially, chainer, ddt8665, socalfitness, and criduchat...yours are useful...but I didn't ask him so many times...just sometime! it's ok until one day I changed to know that he have just masturbated...forget it!...terrible and so crazy...!


    What???

    I'm sorry but you dont make a lot of sense. Noi tieng Viet di, minh viet lai cho.
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidMaybe it's the yellow coat?


    Thats horrible but I'm dying laughing right now
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    Mar 13, 2011 11:28 AM GMT
    @ddt8665: chỉ là cám ơn họ thôi...đặc biệt là một vài ng...ko có gì cả! và có nói thêm là mình ko đòi hỏi làm chuyện mà ai cũng biết là chuyện gì đó qua nhiều...chỉ là vô tình phát hiện ng đó tự làm một mình trong khi một vài lần mình gợi ý việc đó thì ko đc...nhg nói chung là mỗi ng nên nhịn nhau một ít...và mình cũng đã nhường một bước...giờ thì ok rồi...cái gì cũng đòi hỏi cái tôi ( sự tự cao, tự đại ) cao quá thì khó hòa hợp đc với bất kì ai! cám ơn dtt8665!
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    Mar 13, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    Viktor saidchỉ là cám ơn họ thôi...đặc biệt là một vài ng...ko có gì cả! và có nói thêm là mình ko đòi hỏi làm chuyện mà ai cũng biết là chuyện gì đó qua nhiều...chỉ là vô tình phát hiện ng đó tự làm một mình trong khi một vài lần mình gợi ý việc đó thì ko đc...nhg nói chung là mỗi ng nên nhịn nhau một ít...và mình cũng đã nhường một bước...giờ thì ok rồi...cái gì cũng đòi hỏi cái tôi ( sự tự cao, tự đại ) cao quá thì khó hòa hợp đc với bất kì ai! cám ơn dtt8665!


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    I just wanna thank all of them... especially some of them...So it's no biggie! And I wanna add that I don't really ask my bf to have sex that many times...I just wonder why he would masturbate often yet when I suggest to have sex, he doesn't want to... But then again we should always respect each others decisions a bit... And indeed I respected him...it's okay now...Most things in relationship require self-confidence and self-assurance. I just have to make sure I don't have too much of it, or else it's hard to live with anyone! Thanks ddt8665!
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    I'm not really good at giving advice. I would just say move on to someone else and don't take him back when he comes back begging. Tell him begging is for dogs.Good Luck.
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    I think they're putting up with each other atm and try to work things out.