Matty_WIP saidGuys that seems really insecure and needing validation at the beginning of a relationship. The worst guy I ever dated was this way. By the end of the 3 month relationship he didn't give a shit about me, even started pulling asshole moves just to get me to break up with him because he was too much of a pussy to do it himself.
In the end, he just wanted to know that a guy like me could be into him. Once he had that, he quickly got bored.
Since then I've added insecure guys to my list of "undateables". They have to love themselves before they can ever know how to love me.
Spoken like a true bitch. Saying something when you're really talking about yourself.
Hmm, before this turns into a flame war, let me explain the situation a bit.
He wasn't your regular guy who has his little insecurities. He was the kinda guy that would go to parties and find excuses to lift up his shirt and have guys swoon over his abs. He even had his friends in on it. His buddy would bring strangers over to show off his friends body, right in front of me. This was at a friends loft party, not even the place to be yanking up your shirt.
His insecurity showed up early on, when he needed me to kiss him on our third date to prove that I liked him.
At the six week mark, it became clear he wasn't acting like he was that into me, and by the 2.5 month mark, after dealing with loads of his bullshit I ended it. I realized that deep down, he doesn't like himself much and needs others to make him feel good about who he is... turns out his sculpted abs and toned body were just his security blanket.
I could go on, but I don't really feel the need to divulge more. Lots of other issues boiled up, and after talking to him I realized he hadn't put much, if any thought into his own emotional growth. The boy was all surface, and after sincerely trying to make things work with this guy, I ended up being the one walking away hurt. So from here on out, when a guy requires me to validate him early on in a relationship, its a big red flag, and I won't continue to date him.