are you single? and ready for a serious relationship?

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    Mar 11, 2011 3:19 PM GMT
    why is it so hard to find a good person who wants a serious relationship i really dont understand that all the guys i ran into just ended up wanting sex and im tired of that i wonder when am i going to find someone thats serious enough to chill with im waiting patiently but honestly if it takes this long i must be better off single if any of you guys on here want to start something serious and is interested in the same thing definently hit me up because im waiting for that one special personicon_confused.gif
  • life_kiss

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    Mar 12, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    thats right! the same here
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 12, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    I'm open to it IF I met the right person. However there in lies the problem
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 12, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    I've never been "single" since I've been "out".... there was the serious relationship that started before and I wasn't ready, it just happened....

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    Mar 12, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Yes, single here and ready and open for something much bigger than just myself!

  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 12, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    dude, it is the same everywhere. i am always amazed at the people who are in a relationship with a great partners and they take it for granted or the partners allows their significant other to take it for granted. a good man or woman is hard to find and when someone has someone good in their life and does not realize it or they think they can find better it baffles me completely.
    i am single and feel like i will always be that way. which is why i just want to make more money and be able to do the things i want to do. help others and pay off bills. ha ha ha ha i am truly being serious. i believe love is out there for others. i just do not believe it is out there for me
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    I have been single for quite a while and am now ready for just about anything. Especially for that great guy to come around. There are a lot of great guys on RJ and this world. Now all I need to do is to get out there and find him.
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    That "one special person" takes some patience. You'll meet him when you are ready (not when you THINK you are ready), and that may be several relationships from now. Each relationship and experience helps us mature and grow until we are meant to find "the one."
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    champ11 saidwhy is it so hard to find a good person who wants a serious relationship i really dont understand that all the guys i ran into just ended up wanting sex and im tired of that i wonder when am i going to find someone thats serious enough to chill with im waiting patiently but honestly if it takes this long i must be better off single if any of you guys on here want to start something serious and is interested in the same thing definently hit me up because im waiting for that one special personicon_confused.gif


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    Mar 12, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Still waiting too. And it sucks, I'm ready to just find someone I can cuddle with on the couch and watch movies with, I'm sick of being single and pretty much alone.
  • Ironman4U

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    Ready when it happens.
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    Mar 13, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    im ready for it are you?
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Mar 13, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    I have been ready for far too many years, but I have a feeling it may be happening real soon.........................icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 13, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    yes...

    If anyone is near Harrisburg, PA hit me up... (Philly, DC, Baltimore too)
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    Mar 13, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    Pick me, Pick me!!!
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    Mar 13, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    I am ready, but waiting to feel something special before I will call it a relationship and put in the required effort. I don't mind dating to have fun because I know I still have a lot to learn, but I don't want to lead anyone on who I don't feel a spark for. Until then, things will remain casual.
  • shiningstar

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    Mar 15, 2011 6:27 AM GMT
    I m ready for long term sincere relationship but couldn't find till now
  • alphatop

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    Apr 01, 2011 11:27 AM GMT
    SINGLE and LOVE it. Relationship with a guy? No thanks.
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    Apr 01, 2011 11:28 AM GMT
    Sounds awesome. It'd be nice but right now I'm fine the way things are so there's no rush.
  • KONAMI55

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    Apr 01, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    Single but never will do relationships.
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    Apr 02, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    when some one serious comes around we'll talk..
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    Apr 02, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Only if i loved that guy icon_smile.gif
  • hdurdinr

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    Apr 02, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    I think it is true though what they say about finding love when you least expect it. Just live your life and be open to the opportunities that present themselves. My biggest problem at the moment is when I like someone (which happens rarely) I find myself projecting all my hopes and dreams of my idea of a perfect relationship on to that person and that of course never works out and results in an almost self-imposed heartache. I'm learning though to recognize these projections for what they are and take out a lot of their power when doing so. Having been in an LTR for most of my twenties a part of me likes being single, but more and more I feel ready to build something again with a special guy.
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    Apr 02, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    hdurdinr saidI think it is true though what they say about finding love when you least expect it. Just live your life and be open to the opportunities that present themselves. My biggest problem at the moment is when I like someone (which happens rarely) I find myself projecting all my hopes and dreams of my idea of a perfect relationship on to that person and that of course never works out and results in an almost self-imposed heartache. I'm learning though to recognize these projections for what they are and take out a lot of their power when doing so. Having been in an LTR for most of my twenties a part of me likes being single, but more and more I feel ready to build something again with a special guy.


    I think projecting yourself into an idealized relationship with someone you have just started dating is quite normal but not necessarily good. I am guilty of it myself and find it is a recipe for disappointment. I'm quite sure the other guy is doing some sort of projecting himself. A far more difficult task is playing the detective instead of the romantic. Try and get to know the guy as best you can. Think of the way we make friends. We discover qualities we like and don't like along the way. Only when the qualities we don't like are pretty bad do we call it off. With a lover I think people tend to be harder than they are with friends. Most of my bfs in the past would lay it in on me about getting water on the bathroom floor after a shower, or not making the bed the moment I awoke. They were obviously projecting a cohabitation scenario and realizing this would drive them crazy. I never went so far as to think of myself as moving in so these differences did not have as much importance to me. What disturbed me was how these little things upset them so. Clearly they would not dump a friend for that behavior but this would be a wedge that would drive us apart.
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    Apr 02, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    We (the gay community) get so caught up in the labels that were put on us by others that we forget that we stilll need to function as humans sometimes. For instance... Dating. I find that most gay guys don't know what it means to date someone. They don't know the difference between dating, dating exclusivly, and being in a commited relationship... These are three seperate levels BTW.

    Human Beings are driven to be together. Regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or attraction. It is difficult when you want that next level and no one seems to be there ready for it. Or if they say they are they are just looking for the easy way into your pants. This is part of the horrible cycle that exists in the gay community.

    So, right now I am single. But, I have a little hope that someday I will find what I am looking for. Someone who is ready to commit and be a part of a loving relationship. Despite all the bull sh*t that is out there; there is someone for me. However, I am not looking for a serious commited relationship every single damn time I meet or date someone... By doing that I would simply be setting myself up for failure.

    And like I put in another post... Sometimes you need to not be as specific with what you want. I am not saying to lower your standards but be more open to different types of people. There are lots of good people looking for the same things that you and I are. Everyone just needs to see the best of them.

    Most importantly go see a movie, go rollerblading, horseback riding, have a picnic, go for a walk... Have no agendas when you are on a date. Let things happy organically. But remember to hold your personal boundaries. Respect yourself and people will die for you!

    I highly reccomend Boyfriend 101 by Jim Sullivan. It's a quick read with lots of great advice on relationships and dating in the gay community.