We (the gay community) get so caught up in the labels that were put on us by others that we forget that we stilll need to function as humans sometimes. For instance... Dating. I find that most gay guys don't know what it means to date someone. They don't know the difference between dating, dating exclusivly, and being in a commited relationship... These are three seperate levels BTW.
Human Beings are driven to be together. Regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or attraction. It is difficult when you want that next level and no one seems to be there ready for it. Or if they say they are they are just looking for the easy way into your pants. This is part of the horrible cycle that exists in the gay community.
So, right now I am single. But, I have a little hope that someday I will find what I am looking for. Someone who is ready to commit and be a part of a loving relationship. Despite all the bull sh*t that is out there; there is someone for me. However, I am not looking for a serious commited relationship every single damn time I meet or date someone... By doing that I would simply be setting myself up for failure.
And like I put in another post... Sometimes you need to not be as specific with what you want. I am not saying to lower your standards but be more open to different types of people. There are lots of good people looking for the same things that you and I are. Everyone just needs to see the best of them.
Most importantly go see a movie, go rollerblading, horseback riding, have a picnic, go for a walk... Have no agendas when you are on a date. Let things happy organically. But remember to hold your personal boundaries. Respect yourself and people will die for you!
I highly reccomend Boyfriend 101 by Jim Sullivan. It's a quick read with lots of great advice on relationships and dating in the gay community.