How would you respond if a guy told you he's...

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    Mar 12, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    ...a psychologist! (or studying to become a psychologist)

    I'm curious to know your thoughts/perceptions of guys who work in the field of psychology. Lately, I've been on a few dates that turn pretty sour once I disclose why I'm in school. Once I tell guys that I'm studying to become a counseling psychologist, responses are pretty negative.

    I usually get comments or questions like, "Well, I guess you must be analyzing me, then," or, "So, what's your analysis?" Sometimes, these comments are meant as jokes, but most of the time, they are serious.

    So, my question to you guys is-- first, is anyone on this website already in a clinical or counseling psych program? If so, do you get the same types of responses on dates? How do you handle it?

    For those of you that aren't in the field of psychology, what comes to mind when you think a psychologist?

    If you went on a date with a guy who studies psychology, what do you think he'd be like? Would you be worried about him "analyzing" you?

    Any advice for me?

    (I know that not ALL guys have negative views towards psychology, but recent personal experience has just left me wondering what the hell is going on.)
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:12 AM GMT
    Ride the free therapy train
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    Mar 12, 2011 2:14 PM GMT
    I started dating a guy who counsels gay youth. It was all cool until he started trying to analyze some of the things I do. There's enough self-analysis going on for me on a daily basis already; I don't need help with it. I told him this, and he kept coming up with a label for every characteristic I had. We went on 2 dates, and I'd had enough.
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Most people try to analyze the people around them. You happen to just be getting some professional training for it.

    I don't see it as a bad thing at all, but I already work in the medical field with lots of therapist, psychologists and other doctors,
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    Same reaction that I get when I disclose to a guy that I'm a lawyer. He either feels an immediate compulsion to marry me right away or gets an itch to run for his life because he thinks I'm a conniving, untrustworthy sonnavabitch. The ones that stick around don't really give a fuck what I do, are secure enough not to feel intimidated, and have no ulterior motive other than to really get to know me as a person and enjoy my company.

    Don't worry about what other people think because that will just drive you nuts. Use your good instincts and better judgment instead.
  • rnch

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    i need all the help i can get! icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    Given my fascination with the human mind and human behaviors, I might want to date you. Just to see what happens. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    I'd trade him body massages for brain massages...icon_idea.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    I'd be intrigued.. I'd ask him alot of questions. I might wonder if I'm being
    "studied", but it wouldn't bother me per se. If analyzed, I wouldn't fit into a category.......

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:29 PM GMT

    I wouldn't really say anything different to the psychologist...Just treat him by his personality...
  • 4travel

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    I'd figure he was after me for the fact that I am a ture weirdo

    I'm ok with that
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    ...similar to the responses I get when people find out that I am a computer guru...."Can you take a quick look at my computer?...I think I have a virus!....it takes forever to start up!, etc......"....
    NO!...I'm not here to do FREE support work on your computer!

    Can we have a date and learn about each other and maybe get a bite to eat or go play?...NEXT!icon_rolleyes.gif


    I have dated 3 practicing psychologists...nice guys until they asked me to fix their computers...

    If you dated an MD, would you ask him to treat some condition on your date?
    If you dated an Attorney, would you ask him to look at your legal problem on a date?
    If you dated a REAL, PROFESSIONAL Chef, would you expect him to cook for you all the time on a date?

    GOD! I hope not....its a job, what we do for a living and a paycheck, hopefully not the reason you found us interesting...for FREE services!
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    I would think the only time one would find themselves worried is if their intentions were not truthful. Why care if your not full of shit?
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    I've dated multiple psychology majors.
    It hasn't ever been an issue for me. If anything, it just opens up possible conversations- but I love the field and topic. icon_biggrin.gif

    I don't know why people would have issues with it, unless they don't really understand it? I know a lot of people that don't have respect for the profession because "anybody" can do it... maybe that's the issue??? icon_confused.gif

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    Mar 12, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    Well I wouldn't see it as a problem, but if he tries to analyse and treat me on a daily basis I will get pissed off as anybody else. So treat a person like a persona and not a subject and you will get the same back. I had met a guy why was a psychologist and his free got on my nerves after a few days, sometimes we just need to be heard and not analysed.
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    It's a job... who cares?
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Nah I wouldn't care. I would hope that he's sane if he's a psychologist and assume he'd be stable so those are good things.
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    Mar 12, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    I think it is a perfect way to get all the red flags up quicker. So many men with issues and they are afraid you'll see through there cover.
    I've studied; minored in clinical and work with psyc. patients. Love diagnosing someone from across the room, but found some; OK, "most" guys in the profession are...well, let's just say they're in therapy.
  • kappy2

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    first thing to my mind would be great my brother studied the same thing. lol. so what else makes you tick?
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    Mar 12, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    My goal would be getting you to say "Man, i can never figure you out!",


    in a sweet tone of course. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 12, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    There would definitely need to be an agreement as far as when it is appropriate to "analyze" or to use counseling terminology in the relationship. I would hate it if a psychologist analyzed me during a heated argument.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    i would say you went on a date with a few losers. dude,don't dwell on this matter. i know it may seem big to you but it is really not. i just think you went on a few bad dates. i personally would not have a problem dating someone was a shrink but then i am not most people.
  • neon_tiger

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    Ill give you a psychologist response to that (not that im one) but how self conscious the person gets by this says more about them than it does about you. I agree, its a job, or a life passion. has nothing to do with how you approach people.
    I can see though how someone can use it as a chance to throw out there some probing questions if they are considering you for a potential partner, bf...
  • dtx1

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    I have degrees in psychology and wish I had a dollar for every time someone I've just met said 'Oh, are you going to analyze me?' My standard joking reply [similar to Sporty_g above] is 'No, not unless you happen to have $200 on you to cover the initial assessment fee.' If anything, instead of others asking about themselves, I more often get questions about friends and relatives as in 'I have a friend with bipolar disorder who...'

    To the OP, for the most part, having a psychology background has not been an issue in dating. A few guys have been intrigued, but I don't really recall a guy being weirded out by it. In the end, if you find a guy is put off by your psych background, I would take that as a good sign it's probably time to move on. All the best to you in your pursuit of a career in counseling psychology.


  • Itopyrmuscle

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    Mar 16, 2011 7:34 AM GMT
    Just dated a guy who was about to get his Masters. Wow, nice guy, but refused to talk about what made him mad, said that talking about the problem never helped his last relationship, so why would he talk to me. He lasted 3 weeks