am i mean or that guy is crazy.

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    Mar 12, 2011 8:50 AM GMT
    So long story short. Meet this guy on manhunt on Sept, we have a one night stand and we haven't seen each other again ever since. He messaged me and I responded but never promised that I would agree to meet him again.

    So around late Dec my gym was close for renovation for a month so I went to the other gym temporarily so happen that this guy work out there. He tapped my shoulder asked me how was I and why didn't I respond to his msg. I felt like I was put on the spot so I told him that I was busy. So later he texted me and in the nicest way I told him that I didn't want to meet again because I was not looking for a relationship blah blah blah.

    Next time he saw me at the gym again and ask why. I don't feel like explaining so i told him that i'm not looking for a relationship... and he said me either. he said i'm just looking for a fuck buddie. But even that i wasn't feel like it. He asked if i have met somebody else and go on and on and on. I basically didn't say a word and he just kept elaborating. So I ignored him.

    The real story starts now: Next time I was at the gym and he approached me and told me that no one is obsessed with me and i am the only one who is obsessed with myself. I laughed because it was funny. Simply how did he get that. He have that crazy eye with him. So I walk away say nothing, having lived in New York for four years I have learned to walk away from crazy people.

    I simply refused to move to another gym because I think I have done nothing wrong. So I still go. He approached me again and with his crazy eyes gave me the FINGER. I ignored him and walked away again. Next next time he shouted "you are an asshole." May be you will think that I am cruel because ignored him for all these time but what else can I do. At that point i have completely lose respect for him. But luckily one month have passed and I was able to go to my gym again.

    I thought this will all end. Until recently on early march, I did my birthday dinner at a restaurant downtown, so happen again that he was there not far from my table. At the end he walked over in a worst tone ever said "how is it gooinggggg.." I ignored him again. And out the the blue, he was already outside the restaurant start banging the window hardly and gave me the finger. The whole restaurant was watching. And my friends ask who the hell is him, and i said "I don't know."

    So have I done anything wrong. If so i wanna know. I must have done something wrong or else he wouldn't be so crazy. or simply he is just a crazy person?

  • Mar 12, 2011 9:05 AM GMT
    You did the right thing. He was crazy. Good luck.
  • NyRuinz

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    Mar 12, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    No he's definitely crazy icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 12, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    I guess it's true, some people just can't take no for an answer
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    wow, that dude is crazy. dude, do not stress yourself about this dude and what happened to you. this dude is seriously nuts and you did the right thing by ignoring him.
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    whatever12345 said
    Next time he saw me at the gym again and ask why. I don't feel like explaining so i told him that i'm not looking for a relationship... and he said me either. he said i'm just looking for a fuck buddie. But even that i wasn't feel like it. He asked if i have met somebody else and go on and on and on. I basically didn't say a word and he just kept elaborating. So I ignored him.




    You weren't clear enough. The whole thing might not have developed into this pseudo-reality drama if you had been a bit more explicit, i.e., instead of saying "I'm not looking for a relationship" you should have just said "I'm not interested in meeting up again." Some gay guys would not know subtlety even if it bit them in the crotch, so you need to be more explicit. I do agree that this guy has psycho issues, however.
  • matt13226

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    Mar 12, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    im sorry that im the one to say this ) i suppose you could have ended it a little nicer but still u said you didnt want a relationship and he kept pestering u if i was you i would have gone to the gym and told them about the guy and if he kept showing up all the time if you knew his name i would have gotten a restaining order against him cuz he is creepy