Fake friends.

  • bmoney1

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    Mar 12, 2011 9:38 AM GMT
    So, we've probably all had one at some point in time- a fake friend. To set parameters, let's define a fake friend as someone you perceive to be a ture, loyal, and 110% real friend. You have this friend for a while (at least a year). Over time, and as they always do, true colors shine through and you realize this person is fake as shit and was never a true friend.

    Attemping to not state the obvious, let's define a real friend as someone who you would do anything for, and know they would do anything for you. A person you call up when you have nothing to do or wanna have fun on a Friday or Saturday night. A person who keeps it 100% real with you and know they're looking out for you. (Feel free to stop me right here if you think this is expecting too much from someone.)

    What do you do when you think you have found a good friend, only to realize they are not who you thought they were and have been walking all over you for the entirety of your friendship? Not neccessarily mallicious things, and if you called em up with a favor right now you would most likely be taken care of.. But subtle things that prove where you truely rank with them.

    A good quote that sums up what I am trying to say almost perfetly, "A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let every man be one or the other."


    What do yu think?
  • NyRuinz

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    Mar 12, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    I just leave them alone, life is too short to tolerate people's bullshit.
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    Mar 12, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    We all have a few fake friends like people we meet causally at bars and clubs, or work, or places you visit and need somebody to not be alone at that moment.
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    Mar 12, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    I drop fake friends at the blink of an eye. I am extremely genuine and really care for all my friends, so I don't tolerate it when someone is just out to get something from me.

    I have a friend that I have known for years and we were really close. But I just kept seeing a pattern that a lot of the times when he was super nice and really wanted to hang out, he needed something from me. My issue is that I have no problem helping friends with stuff, but I realized that is all he cares about really, what he can get out of people. I just stopped doing anything with him when I could tell there was an ulterior motive. Now he always calls me saying "why don't we ever hang out anymore, what happened?"

    It has helped me in the long run because I can say that I have definitely lost friends over the years, but it has been for the better because I know all of my close friends are completely genuine and we all just love the shit out of each other.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 12, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    i am fortunate enough to be able to say i do not have any fake friends. i have a small group of friends and do not allow too many people in my circle. that's because i do not want to but just because i do not deal with a lot of crap.
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    Mar 12, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    I got rid of every fake friend i had years ago.
    To this day their bodies were never found.
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  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 12, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    I've had friends that I've found weren't as "true" as I had thought and they generally get subordinated, meaning that I don't spend as much time with them, don't open up to them, etc. A defensive mechanism.

    But to be fair, if you have a misunderstanding with someone you think is a real friend, you need to express your concern and your thoughts about what happened. I'd limit my exposure when it's clear that their behavior isn't "friendly" so to speak.... that's different than a misunderstanding.
  • bmoney1

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    Mar 13, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidI drop fake friends at the blink of an eye. I am extremely genuine and really care for all my friends, so I don't tolerate it when someone is just out to get something from me.

    I have a friend that I have known for years and we were really close. But I just kept seeing a pattern that a lot of the times when he was super nice and really wanted to hang out, he needed something from me. My issue is that I have no problem helping friends with stuff, but I realized that is all he cares about really, what he can get out of people. I just stopped doing anything with him when I could tell there was an ulterior motive. Now he always calls me saying "why don't we ever hang out anymore, what happened?"

    It has helped me in the long run because I can say that I have definitely lost friends over the years, but it has been for the better because I know all of my close friends are completely genuine and we all just love the shit out of each other.


    My situation almost exactly.. lol, I knew other people have dealt with this. It just seems like this dude never really wants to hang out or anything unless he needs something or unless I did him a favor or something.. Kind of acts like he has bigger and better things to do on the weekends lately.. Funny thing is, he is not really even all that cool, just thought he might be a potential good friend. I just don't wanna deal with sad ass people, so the fact that you can drop em like nothing makes me feel better about how I am handling it. Thanks for your response.

  • bmoney1

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    Mar 13, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidi am fortunate enough to be able to say i do not have any fake friends. i have a small group of friends and do not allow too many people in my circle. that's because i do not want to but just because i do not deal with a lot of crap.



    This is exactly how I used to be, and now, I think it's the by far best foreign policy for me. I just like a small group of friends that I know keep it real with no bs or sketch..