A bullet dodged!

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    Mar 12, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Was meant to date a guy tonight, and he asks me to meet "near his house " cos he left his wallet at the office.

    Yeah right.

    I ended up saying I want to meet centrally and he got so offended cos I said I would feel more comfortable than at his house.

    He calls me back on a WITHHELD number that blocks who is calling so I don't know the identity.

    Its freaky and the idea of a date with him is out of the question.
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    Mar 12, 2011 6:29 PM GMT
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    Mar 12, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    More than ya know!!!!!
  • TrentGrad

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    Mar 12, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    I don't think the withheld number is such a big issue: until people are sure about who you are, they likely will withhold their home phone number so that you don't call them at home if the date didn't work for them.

    But yeah, losing his cool over your request for a central location is a pretty good indication of where his interests were: apparently more into the idea of sex, and less into the idea of a date!

    I would've nixed the date as well!
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    He has tried to call me twice and both times Ive ignored the call.

    I want to meet someone I can love, support, care about and have the same in return.. and I think hes just a horny bugger... but to not respect my wishes shows a total lack of consideration.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 12, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    ok did i miss something. why wouldn't you want to meet closer to his place. he didn't say you had to meet at his place did he?
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    I've had worse experiences on craigslist. Amazing no stds or death yet.
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    Exactly, he didnt' say to meet him at his house, did he?

    Also, you telling him that you don't want to meet him closer to his place, or at a central location immediately tells him you don't trust him. I think some would get offended by that especially if you've been communicating frequently back and forth. That's the part of the drawback of "blind" meeting from online sources.

    At the same time, this might be foretelling of a battle of two people who always want their way. Flexibility and understanding is a BIG part of successful relationships and neither of you are proving good at that in this moment.
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    Sounds shady. I would spend more time talking to someone first. Go out with a group of friends if possible. You dont know what people could be capable of nowadays.
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    Mar 12, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    This guy I used to date and recently broke things off found me on Grindr, he's like back on Grindr? I was like yep...blocked him...he messages me from another profile within seconds and he's like "block this one too"

    People are creepy as fuck dude! Just move on you immature git. It's OVER.
  • tyler_helm

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    Mar 12, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    Always meet in a public place to start with. Ted Bundy was a charasmatic man
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    Mar 12, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    When I read posts like this I think to myself, thank god I have a bi side.

    Not being willing to meet a little closer to his place is self centered and would piss me off too. Meeting closer to his place all the time is selfish on his part but once is no big deal.

    Way too much drama for spending a few hours with another guy........ reminds me of women i dated in my past.
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    Mar 13, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    Nope.

    It was the way he said it. Simply that he left his wallet at his office (who does that) and gave me his address to meet him. Meeting near his place in same area isn't an issue but to me its the way he did it that doesn't make sense. I don't call it drama, I call it trusting my instincts.

  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Mar 13, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Yeah, you dodged a bullet alright.
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    Mar 13, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    blactor saidNope.

    It was the way he said it. Simply that he left his wallet at his office (who does that) and gave me his address to meet him. Meeting near his place in same area isn't an issue but to me its the way he did it that doesn't make sense. I don't call it drama, I call it trusting my instincts.

    I guess I'm missing the point of his wallet. What had that got to do with where you guys met?
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    Mar 13, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    The plan was a drink in one of the central districts. He said he left his wallet at the office so could we go for a driink near him- gives me his address to meet him at. Why then meet at his- he says we can go somewhere near him. Its okay to be near him without his wallet but not an extra ten mins away? Sorry, its not making sense. That's the point.
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    Mar 13, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    Well, if it was me....if he calls again I'd take the call, being pleasant and unaffected as I don't know this man yet.

    I'd be curious to see what he's like, and also curious as to why meeting him at his address first was that important.

    -Doug
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    Mar 13, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    Yeah. Its good to see others get what I'm saying here.
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    Mar 13, 2011 2:10 AM GMT

    lol, now that you've dodged a bullet you can control this situation on your terms. I have a feeling you may find him a little more willing to accommodate now that you've shown the fellow you have rules for first meetings.
    Choose a place on your terms. Meet the guy. Be warm and affable. You're in charge. icon_wink.gif Take a book or a newspaper in case he flakes. If he does you can grin to yourself knowing you're a pretty cool guy that does what he says he's going to do.

    -Doug
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    Mar 13, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    He didn't leave his wallet anywhere. He just wanted you to say you'd pick up the tab. When you didn't play the game his way, he got pissed.