Where do you guys meet other men?

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    Mar 13, 2011 9:12 AM GMT
    Okay,

    There are sites like Manhunt and there's Grindr but I find those siyes are mainly hook up or casual shag sites etc.

    So where can one meet guys normally? Any suggestions?
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    Mar 13, 2011 12:23 PM GMT
    I would mostly stay away from hookup sites, because they depress the hell out of me.

    Where you meet other people: the laundry room, cafés, Spanish class, public libraries, art museums, LGBT sports leagues, etc.

    Of course, these are not solely designed to be meeting spots for gay men, but you'll be surprised. Here in Holland, the National Opera is holding mixers for gay men appended to their schedule for "Billy Budd."

    http://www.dno.nl/datenight/index.php?〈=uk

    I have been a student these couple of years, so my suggestions are basically low-rent. Other people might have fancier locations in mind.
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    Mar 13, 2011 12:31 PM GMT
    Any and everywhere I go. They call it being sociable.
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    Mar 13, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    shag? i didn't know they still used that word. actually, i thought it was just something they used in austin powers movies. anyhow, if you play sports you can join a league or you can try out speed dating. i would also try out speed dating.com and connexions.org it is a really good site to use too. however, if you are not on the west coast it is going to be hard on that site
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    Mar 13, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    Get up and walk away from the keyboard. There are lots of guys here online who seem to have a great deal of bravado, self assuredness and even physical appeal but are socially inept because they never leave their computer. Technology is a great thing but can not replace human interaction and social skills. Sports organizations, clubs, bars, art galleries THE THEATRE all are great places to start. Considering your location and proffession, this shouldn't be terribly hard for you!icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 13, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidshag? i didn't know they still used that word. actually, i thought it was just something they used in austin powers movies. anyhow, if you play sports you can join a league or you can try out speed dating. i would also try out speed dating.com and connexions.org it is a really good site to use too. however, if you are not on the west coast it is going to be hard on that site


    He is British... they do use different terms than us Yanks
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    Cash saidGet up and walk away from the keyboard. There are lots of guys here online who seem to have a great deal of bravado, self assuredness and even physical appeal but are socially inept because they never leave their computer. Technology is a great thing but can not replace human interaction and social skills. Sports organizations, clubs, bars, art galleries THE THEATRE all are great places to start. Considering your location and proffession, this shouldn't be terribly hard for you!icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif



    This is very true. Seeing the OP is involved in the theater (and in London!), I will be surprised if guys are not falling into his laps on an hourly basis.
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    Haha! Falling into my lap on an hourly basis? I wish!

    The theatre isn't that loose! icon_smile.gif hehe
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    coffee shop
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    streets
    stores
    supermarket
    gym
    work
    hotel bars
    planes
    airport lounges
    beach
  • Moishendlishu...

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    Mar 13, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    Here's a a branch off from the OP's question.

    How do you meet guys that are GAY?

    I have this problem, I don't really know...unless they are flaming and that's not what I'm interested in dating. But I never know if someone is gay at a coffee shop, Target, grocery store, etc.... because they don't give off that vibe. Problem is neither do I. How do you meet guys that are actually gay....especially when you don't live in the gay area?
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    McDonalds.
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    With this alleged gaydar, one is surprised, it's an issue at all really.
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    Mar 13, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    Moishendlishus saidHere's a a branch off from the OP's question.

    How do you meet guys that are GAY?

    I have this problem, I don't really know...unless they are flaming and that's not what I'm interested in dating. But I never know if someone is gay at a coffee shop, Target, grocery store, etc.... because they don't give off that vibe. Problem is neither do I. How do you meet guys that are actually gay....especially when you don't live in the gay area?


    I've heard of social clubs, weekend hikes, etc. organized by local LGBT associations. Never tried them, though.

    Another option would be expanding your circle of friends, gay and straight; this way someone you know will know someone you might like, or someone you like will be someone you get to know.
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    Mar 13, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    blactor saidHaha! Falling into my lap on an hourly basis? I wish!

    The theatre isn't that loose! icon_smile.gif hehe


    You have GOT to be kidding. London can't be all that different than New York. If you are actively working in theatre you can't swing a dead cat without hitting a hard dick. Where does everyone go after rehearsal or performances?icon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    The only way to meet other gay men where I live is online or thru other people. The closest gay bar is over 1hr away and if you are smart you stay away from it. So have to go with online sites which are just as sad but met my ex on there and if not for the distance problme we would still be together. There are always a few good guys on online sites.
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    Fitting room
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    It's been covered pretty well, and I'll repeat:
    find things that you like doing, and you can find a gay group that does it.
    Gay sports team
    Gay sports enthusiasts
    Gay hiking club
    Gay professional society
    Gay political group
    Gay book club
    Gay oenophile group

    Or volunteer with a local gay organization

    If your gaydar isn't broken, go about your normal life and talk to people.
    the bank
    the post office
    grocery store
    DMV
    shopping
    dining

    Sometimes friends can be helpful in setting you up with someone they know.
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    Mar 13, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    Well my gaydar is really bad so I go on sites Like Manhunt, only sex comes out of that, kind of bored of that. Yeah I meet some guys in bars but most of the are not quality so honestly I can't really give you a good answer because I don't really have one. Good Luck.
  • neon_tiger

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    Mar 13, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    Allright, a couple months after breaking up with my bf of two years, I decided to start dating and meeting and meet new people. I too live in a small, rural, blue collar areathat doesn't provide nearly as many options and setting in which to meet guys; my demeanor doesn't give away my orientation at all either. So yeah, i use manhunt, grinder and other forms of social networking. Now, going into it, I'm fully aware that a lot of people on these sites are either looking for a hook up (to each its own), or creepers (eek!). So i am very assertive about what im looking for when I write my personal info in my profile, and keep my expectations very low. Im not counting on finding my next relationship there, and im putting myself out there in the real world as much as possible. And when i meet someone online that gives me the slightest reason to believe that we could hit it off, i arrange for us to meet in person. That way, I can make a better assessment. Ive met a lot of really great guys, some have been very enjoyable conversations, some have become friends, and there's a few that im looking foward to see what develops... Good luck.
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    Mar 13, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    Cash saidGet up and walk away from the keyboard.


    Just recently met my first gay male friend and he said the same thing lol. Thinking about it now it really makes a lot of sense. If you're trying to meet people I think the internet is a terrible way to go about doing that.

    As far as suggestions I guess what has been mentioned so far is a good start. You're much better off doing things you like and then seeing what comes of that.

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    Mar 13, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    CHIdude saidMcDonalds.


    That made me laugh so muchicon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • nubScotty

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    Mar 13, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    I don't see the internet as being a bad tool for meeting other guys. Most people who find out I am gay are usually surprised to hear it, I've been approached by girls in gay bars but have yet to be approached by a guy, and I'm somewhat timid/shy(plus mild social anxiety) so I have a hard time meeting guys; to top it off I think I failed gaydar 101 cause unless they are obvious I usually have no idea.

    With that said, I have used internet dating sites, not hook-up sites, to meet other guys. I signed up for Match.com two months ago and have actually met a few guys through it. Currently dating a guy right now and it seems like it has potential, but just like meeting people in person you're gonna have to wade through plenty of people to find someone who may be worth seeing more than once. Yeh it costs money, but so do bars and going out; just something to look into.
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