Does anyone go out solo anymore?

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    I went to a block party by myself because I couldn't find anyone to go with. I enjoyed the "people watching," but I definitely felt like a social pariah. I received a lot of interesting stares (and yes I did check to see if my zipper was up) and I was probably the only person there who came alone.

    I don't know if this is a regional thing, but I feel like it is socially unacceptable to go out alone. If I want to go out to a restaurant or see a movie that no one else wants to go to, I will go alone. However, I always get the feeling that I am being stared at like I am a creep.

    I've seen a lot of movies where the actors/actresses are alone eating at a restaurant or doing something else alone in another social setting and it doesn't look or feel improper. In real life it doesn't feel the same - at least for me. I am actually planning on going on a vacation by myself and my co-workers think I am crazy.

    Does anyone else venture out alone or do you have to be with another person?
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    Mar 14, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    Totally relate to what you're saying. When I was younger I never felt weird going out alone. Somewhere along the way I became self-conscious about it. A couple of years ago I started going to concerts by myself (frankly getting other people to commit to buying a ticket is too much a pain in the arse) and it was a great way to get back out there.

    I've always loved movies where the main character is alone in public. Two spring to mind: Louis Malle's THE FIRE WITHIN and Kieslowski's BLUE.



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    Mar 14, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    I never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    I enjoy most everything alone. It's convenient.

    I often take myself on dates, travel, etc....



    -The strange thing that I find is that I never look anyone in the eye when I'm alone. I look forward at all times into the distance and try to find my way through my labyrinthial thoughts. I think people think I'm a bitch.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    I guess I'm in the minority. I feel fine going out alone and meet people, no problem.

    I have to travel alot for work so it's not unusual for me to have to eat alone, see a movie, whatever.

    It's nice to not have to entertain others and always be "on" all the time. People watching is an enjoyable pastime.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.


    I'm laughing, but only if you are joking. I can relate to this thou.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    hahhaa I know how you feel. My friends think Im crazy sometimes when they see me going out to eat alone or to an event alone. I dont know why people feel so bad for you and give you the "stare." I feel a lot of people associate being alone in a social setting as "weird" or they feel they will be "embarrassed" if they had done that. I just think it is people insecurity that plays a role into that. But hey if you want to do something and have no one to do it, then just do it. Fuck the stares and looks I say. Enjoy what you are doing.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    As much as I enjoy company, i love my alone time. I go watch movies and eat out on my own all the time. Especially to the movies.. sometimes the people you take will talk and talk and talk.. lol
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    I have to go out alone at the moment i just moved across the country for a job. which is a good thing, but it does feel like people look at you crazy.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    Heck, if I wasn't willing to go out by myself, I'd hardly ever leave the house.

    If I have to go out to eat alone, I'll try to take a book with me, so that at least I'll be learning something/being entertained while eating alone.

    Sometimes I like to go out by myself, the worst part is when you want to be with someone and it just doesn't happen.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    I will go out alone if there is no one to go out with. No sense in staying at home all the time.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    I do from time to time and have never minded it b/c I can make friends very easily and will go to a party/event/bar alone but by the end of the night have made a new friend or two.

    I love to go to movies alone, even if I have someone to go with I perfer to go alone.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    ddt8665 said
    Ariodante saidI never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.


    I'm laughing, but only if you are joking. I can relate to this thou.


    Sometimes it's less. It's mid march and I've yet to go out in 2011 icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    i've never gone out to a club on my own before. i would feel a bit awkward. however, when i goto parties with my friends i dont have a problem going off on my own and meeting new people. i think its the thought that i can just go back to my friends whenever i wanted makes it less awkward.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    i do once in a while it is nice to go out have a beer or two on your own. personal time is a good thing also.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    have to agree but if u go with someone people always think ur going out with that perosnicon_confused.gif so i would like to go out alone to meet someone icon_biggrin.gif
  • KONAMI55

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    Mar 14, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.


    I go out an average of 0 times per year. I am the homebody type.
  • Halcyonz

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    Mar 14, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    I did it once. . . It was really awkward to not know anyone. . . so I totally turned on Grindr and had someone come meet me icon_smile.gif <3 iPhone.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    i go eat by myself all the time, its relaxing.. i dont mind it at all.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    ddt8665 said
    Ariodante saidI never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.


    I'm laughing, but only if you are joking. I can relate to this thou.


    Sometimes it's less. It's mid march and I've yet to go out in 2011 icon_biggrin.gif


    but but but i dont get it...
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    I go out solo most of the time. Its quite relaxing. icon_cool.gif
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Mar 14, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    I go out alone all the time, if I go out at all.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI never go out alone. Which means I go out an average of about 6 times per year.
    you'll make a good wife ;D


    anywho, only freaks & geeks go out out alone....sooo.... :i
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    Yea,I do it,especially if going to a new place. My kryptonite are house parties where I know less than 50% of the people. Hate it. I just don't function well at these types of events because I have this wall that seems to automatically go up when I am the one that should start a conversation. Large settings, not a problem, but small intimate ones, I am crippled. Working on that cause if I can't be comfy with who I am in a small setting enough to strike up a conversation, I shouldn't expect that in any other type of setting. Practice makes perfect.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    If you go out alone and just casually socialize with some people I think it's really easy to find dates or potential interest or even meeting new ppl that way.

    Going out alone can be kinda unnerving, but sometimes things can work out in a way you wouldn't expect! You have to come from under your rock sometime icon_biggrin.gif