My brother, I mentioned in a previous update, has been out of the country and has finally returned home. Until I saw him I couldn't wait to tell him, then it all became so real and I wasn't sure of when would be the right time.
Here's a little background information. My middle brother (the one referenced) and I are very close; we have been all of our lives. We share some common interests and we can tell what each other is thinking in most situations. It's partly due to similarities in our personalities and partly our close and common upbringing.
He has been married for 2 years and his wife is great. My brother is a Christian, we were raised protestant and his wife is Catholic. They both take their faith seriously. I truly love my sister-in-law and I consider her as much a part of our family as my brother. They are both: outspoken, conservative, and political; and both have made derogatory comments in the past about gays. I know they both know gay people through work and have no issues with them what-so-ever, they have even mentioned inequalities in the law that affects their gay co-workers.
Considering previous conversations and remarks I really didn't know what to expect. This past weekend I went to their house for a movie. I thought this might be the right time, but I just wasn't sure if the timing would work. After the movie was over it was late, but we sat and made small talk. There wasn't really a pause in their conversation, so I sat and waited. Once the conversation between them stopped I told them that there was something I wanted to talk to them about. I first said how much I think of them, and specifically told her that I love her and consider her my sister. I went on to say, I feel comfortable in sharing my life with her just as I would my brother. My words seemed to be well received and she said she felt the same. They both sat there as I tried to find the right words.
In my previous coming out discussions at this point I tear up and started crying. I think partly because of the shame I carried for so long and partly because it was such an emotional thing to admit out-loud to someone. In this instance I really held it together well; I may have had tears now and then, but really just spoke in truth and with confidence.
Everything I said was very well received, at times they didn’t even seem to act like this even fazed them. I know it did to an extent and I know it was a shock, but they both were very accepting. What progressed over the next 3 hours was really more of a discussion and question and answer session. It really was great.
In parting they both hugged me and said that they Love me. That is always great to hear, and I think I am beginning to learn through this life experience that Love can conquer all.