Is it wrong to fall for a booty call

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    Mar 14, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    Met an awesome guy while on spring break in Los Angeles. The first night we met I was super drunk and waiting for my sister to get out of the bathroom to leave. We talked for the few minutes..and me in my intoxicated state gave him my number. We text all week and tried to meet up again, but weren't able to till Friday. We danced and drank at the club, then went back to his place; it was amazing all night.
    We have a lot in common, similar out looks on life. He was sweet to my sister who i ditched to go hookup with him. Now sitting home I looked him up on facebook, and he calls me to come over. But I'm on the opposite coast now, and when I said I'm home it kills him just as much as it had me.
    I've been trying to rationalize this in my head all week that I need to let it go, but just couldn't. And listening to him cry when he hears I'm gone just confirms we were both feeling the same way. I just feel like a mess and I know this message is but I just needed to get it out... Uhhh this sucks.
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    Mar 14, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    That really blows... it's not wrong to fall for a booty call if you're both ending up falling for each other though.

    I hope things end well for you icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 14, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    It's never wrong to fall for someone. Just be smart about it. Accept your feelings, but be realistic.
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    I would say be cautious, don't invest too much emotion or get too attached since the situation is against you. But for the love of God go get your man! Hell, high water and all that jazz.
    He likes you, you like him, get your game face on and plant that flag!
  • rnch

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    that's how my 3 year-and-still-going-strong bf and I met!

    a gay.com booty call led to another date...then another....then another...
  • JDean

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    I don't see this as a 'booty call' maybe moving to fast but not a booty call.
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    Mar 14, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    wait, he cried?
  • TrentGrad

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidwait, he cried?


    I have to admit, I thought that was odd as well!

    When someone gets attached so quickly that after a week of texting and one date, he cries when he finds out that you're not in town...seems like it should be a big red flag.
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    My bf was a booty call too but he lives locally. Tough spot to be in when you live so far away and I couldn't do the long distance thing. I know some do but I would find that very tough, even with the Internet, skype, texting, and the old fashion telephone!
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    Mar 14, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    TrentGrad said
    AvadaKedavra saidwait, he cried?


    I have to admit, I thought that was odd as well!

    When someone gets attached so quickly that after a week of texting and one date, he cries when he finds out that you're not in town...seems like it should be a big red flag.



    Yea, that's not rational behavior.
    I wouldn't do phone calls.
    Keep it to text and Facebook
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    Mar 14, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidwait, he cried?


    It was more I could hear he was choked up when I said I was gone, and heard a little sniffle.
    We talked again, he even offered to help pay for a flight back to at least get a chance to see how things would go with us.

    I have really wanted to not think about him. It would be a lot easier to just move on...just sometimes there are people who come into your life that you are immediately drawn to. It's worth a shot at least
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    Mar 14, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    NCReal06 said
    AvadaKedavra saidwait, he cried?


    It was more I could hear he was choked up when I said I was gone, and heard a little sniffle.
    We talked again, he even offered to help pay for a flight back to at least get a chance to see how things would go with us.

    I have really wanted to not think about him. It would be a lot easier to just move on...just sometimes there are people who come into your life that you are immediately drawn to. It's worth a shot at least


    awwwww... sad ending. its alright. you're probably better off not seeing him again. unless one of you can eventually move.

    these romance things are so unpredictable and risky. its like you can try to make it work and if it does then one of you can relocate and live together happily ever after.

    or

    you guys move in together and the relationship goes down the shit hole.

    What are you going to do?
  • hdurdinr

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    Mar 14, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    Call me a romantic, but if you both felt a connection I say go for it - make it work. People go through life thinking that there will be lots of people they will connect with and then as they get older they realize it happens less and less. At least try so that years down the line you won't be regretting 'the one that got away'
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    Mar 14, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    I met the other half of a couple interesting relationships in pretty crazy ways and had I not ‘gone for it’ I would have missed some pretty worthwhile times. I say go for it because if you don’t you’ll always wonder if ...
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    Mar 14, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    hdurdinr saidCall me a romantic, but if you both felt a connection I say go for it - make it work. People go through life thinking that there will be lots of people they will connect with and then as they get older they realize it happens less and less. At least try so that years down the line you won't be regretting 'the one that got away'



    I feel you, bro. I also think that some times from afar we think that the grass from the other side is greener than the one we have, until we get a closer look and we realize that (a) it is not as green as we thought it was and, in fact, it's yellowing and covered in shit, OR (b) the grass is is indeed greener because it is artificial grass. Then, before we realize it, we're left with nothing but bitterness, regret and solitude.
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    Mar 14, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    Is it wrong? Of course not, it is how you feel.

    Is it recommended? Of course not, because at the end of the day he is just using you to get off while you will feel empty inside because of the lack of emotional connection.

    I was there before, I know it sucks man, its best to move on.

    Or do what I did, used him to satisfy my sexual urges so I can date people with a clear mind until I found someone else.
  • jim_sf

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    Mar 14, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    It's never "wrong" to fall for anybody; nobody gets to choose who they fall in love with. If that were the case then there would be few relationships, as everybody would be holding out for Mr. or Ms. Absolutely-Perfect, and the human race would subsequently go extinct.

    That said, it's important to realize that you're both crushing on each other. This isn't "love" yet, and you both have a long way to go before it gets to that point. Enjoy the feeling, but keep your head (you'll need it later).
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    Mar 14, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    No not at all! Go for it!
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    Mar 14, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    jim_stl said
    That said, it's important to realize that you're both crushing on each other. This isn't "love" yet, and you both have a long way to go before it gets to that point. Enjoy the feeling, but keep your head (you'll need it later).


    I am far from saying the l-word. You're right I need to not let butterflies get the best of me. So I'm going to stay in contact (talked to him again today for two hours.) And most importantly stay busy with school, and maybe I apply for an internships..... in LA.
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    Mar 14, 2011 8:27 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidwait, he cried?


    LOL my reaction exactly icon_lol.gif

    In general, though - No, I'd say it's not wrong. Just difficult.
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    It's not really a booty call. More like vacation sex.

    If you like him and he likes you, then go for it. You have hurdles to face, being on opposite sides of the country and having only spent a very short time together.

    Would you want to have a long-distance relationship with this guy? If you don't want a long-distance thing with him, is it worth having this guy in your life as a friend?
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    He cried????

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    that is too cute! weird...but cute.
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    Mar 15, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    NCReal06 saidMet an awesome guy while on spring break in Los Angeles. The first night we met I was super drunk and waiting for my sister to get out of the bathroom to leave. We talked for the few minutes..and me in my intoxicated state gave him my number. We text all week and tried to meet up again, but weren't able to till Friday. We danced and drank at the club, then went back to his place; it was amazing all night.
    We have a lot in common, similar out looks on life. He was sweet to my sister who i ditched to go hookup with him. Now sitting home I looked him up on facebook, and he calls me to come over. But I'm on the opposite coast now, and when I said I'm home it kills him just as much as it had me.
    I've been trying to rationalize this in my head all week that I need to let it go, but just couldn't. And listening to him cry when he hears I'm gone just confirms we were both feeling the same way. I just feel like a mess and I know this message is but I just needed to get it out... Uhhh this sucks.


    Well how about you go back for an extended weekend and visit? find out for yourself.

    I know you need to get this off your chest, but the only person you should be listening to is yourself and the people that really know you and love you AKA your sister.

    Just my two cents.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 15, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    wow, buddy that is great. i am sorry to hear you two can't hangout with each other. i guess my question is would you or him consider relocating for each other?