Gay Relationships

  • shiningstar

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    Mar 14, 2011 10:37 AM GMT
    Hi,Everyone.
    May be this discussion seems to be stupid for some people but plz give your views.
    I m confused as how can gay relationships be live longer as we normally see specially in Asian countries relationships between boy and girl are not very long if they have no child for compromising the long lasting relationship or any other excuse,then how can gay relationships can survive for a long time.
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    Mar 14, 2011 10:52 AM GMT
    In my opinion, if a child is keeping someone from not being in a relationship with their spouse, then they are not in a healthy relationship to begin with.

    Two common forms of relationships (there are others of course):
    open relationship
    monogamous relationship

    Both have the potential to be short or long relationships.
    What will determine if a relationship is short or long depends on the following, but is not limited to the following:

    -> Personality
    -> Healthy lifestyle
    -> Common values

    A relationship of any sort will last long if the two people involved are into one another's personality, living a healthy lifestyle and/or share common values.

    So, to answer your question directly:
    Gay relationships have the potential to last just as long as any other relationship.

    Well, this is my view at least icon_rolleyes.gif



  • shiningstar

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    Mar 14, 2011 11:18 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidIn my opinion, if a child is keeping someone from not being in a relationship with their spouse, then they are not in a healthy relationship to begin with.

    Two common forms of relationships (there are others of course):
    open relationship
    monogamous relationship

    Both have the potential to be short or long relationships.
    What will determine if a relationship is short or long depends on the following, but is not limited to the following:

    -> Personality
    -> Healthy lifestyle
    -> Common values

    A relationship of any sort will last long if the two people involved are into one another's personality, living a healthy lifestyle and/or share common values.

    So, to answer your question directly:
    Gay relationships have the potential to last just as long as any other relationship.

    Well, this is my view at least icon_rolleyes.gif





    YEAH,you r very much right relationships can last till both r sincere with each other,but I was thinking i context of asian culture.but it seems culture doesnt matter
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    Mar 14, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    I think the argument for children strengthening a relationship and making it more likely to last is valid, but that doesn't mean that gay couples (or even straight couples) without children will have doomed relationships.

    One thing having children gives you as a couple is a shared purpose - you are meant to work together as a team to raise your offspring. I know this is making it sound simplistic but I think in a lasting relationship there has to be some shared goals and activities to keep the relationship strong, especially after several years together. It doesn't mean you have to be in each other's pockets all the time but having a shared purpose helps keep each other invested in the relationship, especially during 'tougher' times.

    Also, there's all the happy memories and moments you get with children, sharing those together is important in my view for a strong lasting relationship. However, you don't need children to make good memories with your partner - just make sure you LIVE life and don't sit by the sidelines watching it go by and end up not having much of a shared history. One of the 'advantages' of being a childless couple is not being tied down and having more disposable income - use that time and money to travel, to experience, to learn.

    I do agree that an unhappy couple shouldn't stay together just for the sake of their kids but at the same time, I do think that children bring a couple closer together and strengthen a relationship. But if that's not an option for you then you just need to put the effort in to make sure YOUR relationship is a lasting one.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 15, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    Ask Ricky Martin or Elton John if they feel differently about their responsibilities in their life after having children. Then ask Ricky for his phone number and get back to me with it!
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    Mar 15, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    shiningstar said
    if they have no child


    Who says gay couples can't have kids? Adopt! Surrogate! Turkey baster!
  • shiningstar

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    Mar 15, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    Pure saidI think the argument for children strengthening a relationship and making it more likely to last is valid, but that doesn't mean that gay couples (or even straight couples) without children will have doomed relationships.

    One thing having children gives you as a couple is a shared purpose - you are meant to work together as a team to raise your offspring. I know this is making it sound simplistic but I think in a lasting relationship there has to be some shared goals and activities to keep the relationship strong, especially after several years together. It doesn't mean you have to be in each other's pockets all the time but having a shared purpose helps keep each other invested in the relationship, especially during 'tougher' times.

    Also, there's all the happy memories and moments you get with children, sharing those together is important in my view for a strong lasting relationship. However, you don't need children to make good memories with your partner - just make sure you LIVE life and don't sit by the sidelines watching it go by and end up not having much of a shared history. One of the 'advantages' of being a childless couple is not being tied down and having more disposable income - use that time and money to travel, to experience, to learn.

    I do agree that an unhappy couple shouldn't stay together just for the sake of their kids but at the same time, I do think that children bring a couple closer together and strengthen a relationship. But if that's not an option for you then you just need to put the effort in to make sure YOUR relationship is a lasting one.


    like ur post as it is a brief one and i like idea of common goals most
  • shiningstar

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    Mar 15, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    cgysteve said
    shiningstar said
    if they have no child


    Who says gay couples can't have kids? Adopt! Surrogate! Turkey baster!


    that is another case as adoption or surrogation