$1.52 in my bank account

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    Mar 14, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    Damn.... had an amazing life, had it all, cars, incredible home on golf course, charity work, busted my ass to work hard, refined, down to earth, sense of style, then my ex decided that drugs were more important, trusted him and he bankrupted me. I was clueless as to what was going on,for 15 years he managed all the assests. I left him 2 years ago and i'm still trying to recover. I have another profile on RJ, just venting and guess i'm still trying to appear that everything is ok, but it's not. I've honestly accepted my situation and work an ok job to pay bills, have no regrets and have forgiven him for what he did. The part that sux is that when I left, he managed to keep a huge part of the sale from a business and is doing well. I chose to rebuild and move on, man it's tough right now, walked away with dignity and that for me was more important
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    Mar 14, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    we've chatted...sorry buddy, just have my pride getting in the way. have over 2k post on RJ
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    Mar 14, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    there was a reply to my last reply from a buddy who i've chatted with, Vic deleted it after I contacted him. For all you guys in longterm relationships, protect yourself and be proactive in your finances, lesson learned. This posting was somewhat venting and just don't want it to happen to anyone else. what suxs with the laws, gay marriage is classic example, you have no rights unless your married or have DP and you have no rights in certain situations. I take full credit for being stupid and trusting, NEVER sign a DPOA OR MPOA unless you understand how it can be used.
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    Mar 14, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    Truly sux... yet another cautionary tale.
    I have to admit I've gotten complacent...hell, I haven't done my taxes in over 4 years. He is less of a procrastinator when it comes to our financial needs. I would; however, hope I'm not totally clueless, believing he would never do anything like that.
    I hate that we had to do PO's, but we both have unscrupulous family members...Every time I hear Judge Judy say: "the courts don't recognize people who chose to shack-up." it stings.
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    Mar 14, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    problem is that I'm an amazing business person, paid more attention to running the corp's and making money, "babe need you to sign this...ok"...... I'll admitt that I'm not good with money, more of the creative, concept guy than budget.. Babe you have XXXXX to spend on this project, break it down into budget & profit, bank the rest and dont worry about the future, that was my life for many years and trusted my other half... Seriously it was an amazing life.
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    WTF? WHY WOULD YOU EVER ALLOW ANYONE TO MANAGE YOUR FINANCES?
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    FatSlutWhore saidWTF? WHY WOULD YOU EVER ALLOW ANYONE TO MANAGE YOUR FINANCES?


    THIS. Every since I was 16, I been managing my own money. You could never have control over your life until you have control over your finance.
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    Mar 15, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    lol, I MADE Bill handle all the finances for awhile, in case something happened to me. He was an apt pupil and did fine.


    Your ex did you a huge and lasting wrong. You can forgive him, but I think it a good idea to not forget (you know, that whole forgive and forget thingy) what happened, or history may repeat itself.

    having been there,

    -Doug
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    Mar 15, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    whatwentwrong saidDamn.... had an amazing life, had it all, cars, incredible home on golf course, charity work, busted my ass to work hard, refined, down to earth, sense of style, then my ex decided that drugs were more important, trusted him and he bankrupted me. I was clueless as to what was going on,for 15 years he managed all the assests. I left him 2 years ago and i'm still trying to recover. I have another profile on RJ, just venting and guess i'm still trying to appear that everything is ok, but it's not. I've honestly accepted my situation and work an ok job to pay bills, have no regrets and have forgiven him for what he did. The part that sux is that when I left, he managed to keep a huge part of the sale from a business and is doing well. I chose to rebuild and move on, man it's tough right now, walked away with dignity and that for me was more important


    WOW. No offense but reading this made me feel better. I thought I was alone on the whole "i have no money no job and no one seems to care" mode.
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    Mar 15, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    The other side of the coin.

    My ex had at least 10 credit cards, all charged to the max. He made minimum payments every month. I got him to start working overtime, and I got him to sign over his paycheck to me, each pay day, so that I could pay his bills. When we broke up, he didn't owe a dime to anybody.

    As for me, I would NEVER trust anybody to pay my bills.

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    Mar 15, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    Just curious.. How could you not tell he was on drugs? After 15 years, I would think you would know if something was "different" about him.
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    Mar 15, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    Love can not compete with an addiction... icon_sad.gif