I like the gay scene... there! I said it!!

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    Mar 14, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    So many people I run into are like, "Oh no!! I dont like the gay scene!! I dont do clubs and parties!!"

    I dont drink much and I dont do drugs, but on ocassion I love to go out and be surrounded by a bunch of gay guys and just be myself and watch a campy drag show or dance all night with my shirt off or hear awesome music and meet new people.

    I LIKE going to gay clubs, especially in great cities like NYC, South Beach or Atlanta. There are fun places everywhere... (well, everywhere but here... hahaha) and I love to try them out. I went to a fun bar in Denver a few months ago and went out in South Beach several weeks ago.

    Just like those times, this weekend I wont get drunk, I wont do coke, I will meet a lot of great guys (and some bitchy ones) and have a great time.

    Anyone with me on this? You dont have to be full on out of control to enjoy the scene! It is like a reverse snobbery to say, "I dont do the gay scene."
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    Mar 14, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    Boooooo!! Hiiisssss!!
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    Mar 14, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidBoooooo!! Hiiisssss!!



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    Mar 15, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    I think some guys just say they don't like the scene because they have either never experienced the scene so they think its not masculine to like the scene, or they think only little gay fairy boys like the gay scene (both of which are false). Of course this isn't everyone, but I think there is a chunk of people out there don't like the scene because of this reason. Plus, the "gay scene" is so many different things, not just the parties and clubs and sex.

    I will admit too, I like gay bars and clubs! I am pretty new to going to them though, but I always have a great time! Maybe its because I live in Atlanta, since you mentioned it being a great place to go out. I mean, I will usually get drunk when I go out, but no drugs for sure. I just love being drunk with my friends haha icon_redface.gif. I usually go to straight clubs when I go out, so going to gay clubs just allows me to be able to flirt with guys instead of girls, which is nice for a gay man haha.

    I can see how people don't like how it can be skeezy and all about hookups, but you don't have to hook up with any guys to go out! Its just fun to be out with other gay men sometimes. I am with you OP!
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    Mar 15, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    shit I just wish I could find the scene..........Keith
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    Mar 15, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    oh i love the guys who can party and wake up the next day to face a day's work.
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    Mar 15, 2011 12:19 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidSo many people I run into are like, "Oh no!! I dont like the gay scene!! I dont do clubs and parties!!"

    I dont drink much and I dont do drugs, but on ocassion I love to go out and be surrounded by a bunch of gay guys and just be myself and watch a campy drag show or dance all night with my shirt off or hear awesome music and meet new people.

    I LIKE going to gay clubs, especially in great cities like NYC, South Beach or Atlanta. There are fun places everywhere... (well, everywhere but here... hahaha) and I love to try them out. I went to a fun bar in Denver a few months ago and went out in South Beach several weeks ago.

    Just like those times, this weekend I wont get drunk, I wont do coke, I will meet a lot of great guys (and some bitchy ones) and have a great time.

    Anyone with me on this? You dont have to be full on out of control to enjoy the scene! It is like a reverse snobbery to say, "I dont do the gay scene."



    I'm with you on that!

    Except I don't take my shirt off in clubs. But all the rest, yea, I consider it to be a scene, not the scene. There are many gay scenes, and I like most of them.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 15, 2011 12:24 PM GMT
    I think going out to the gay clubs and see some parties are fine. I'd enjoy it.......once in a great while, like once every 6 months.

    Otherwise, it just doesn't fit in my lifestyle. I enjoy social gatherings, but
    gay bars and large gatherings are more the exception, not something I have time or the inclination to do on a regular basis. My life is too full.

    I think if you enjoy it, more power.... we all should enjoy our lives. Just important to remember, that means different things to different people.
  • chameleon

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    Mar 15, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
    Really nice to hear this
    We all spend the so much of our time surrounded by straight people, which is fine, but it is nice to spend some time where i am part of the majority.
    I can certainly see the negative side of it all, but all the gay people i meet who are are so down on the gay community (which they are part of) drive me crazy. Maybe if these people who are so against it, went out now and again, the scene could be something more welcoming and supportive.
    Not that there is much of a scene in Portland, ME, but there is one and it can be a lot of fun!
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    I like it too. I feel comfortable and I can be myself. Sure there are downsides -- just like there is to every culture and community. But the gay community is certainly colorful, full of life, and full of authentic people.
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    I totally agree with you. I think when people say they are 'non scene' it doesn't necessarily mean they never go out, just that they are not out all the time, i.e. it's not a huge part of their life. I like to go out and have a laugh from time to time, but it's really such a minor, occasional part of my life that I would be inclined to describe myself as non scene.

    I do like checking out gay venues when I go to a new country, and probably do that more than going to the ones at home!
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidAnyone with me on this? You dont have to be full on out of control to enjoy the scene! It is like a reverse snobbery to say, "I dont do the gay scene."

    I'm with you! Have always said so here. In fact, I don't think I could live WITHOUT the gay scene. And it includes no drugs for me or our friends (never in my entire life), and only moderate drinking. Tipsy is OK, drunk is boorish, and no one in our crowd ever gets drunk in public. I've never seen that (and don't you dare say it was because I had passed out first -- LOL!).

    The gay scene is what you make of it, not what it makes of you. Perhaps by being older, the guys in my social set are able to call the shots in the scene, picking & choosing what they want, and rejecting the rest. Nobody said it has to be a complete package deal -- you're allowed to be selective. Filter out the bad, enjoy the good. At least that's what we do.
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    I'm with you. especially if you're going to take your shirt off.
    Just something about being surrounded by (somewhat) like minded men having a good time...very freeing to me; just don't lick the back of my neck while I'm taking a piss.
    Funny too; most guys I've run into, that say they don't like them, have never been and when I drag them kicking and screaming, I can't get them to leave.
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    Mar 15, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said just don't lick the back of my neck while I'm taking a piss.



    Wait... what?

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    We have no scene here. This is the most repressed city in the most repressed state in the country. I dont go out often, but when I do I find it liberating.

    This weekend I have some obligations in Central Georgia for work, and then I will be free on Saturday afternoon. So, instead of coming home, I am gonna get a hotel room in Midtown Atlanta and hit some clubs and dance and play. No agenda, no stupid regrets... I just want to hang out with some hot gay guys and party. The next day, sleep in and then get ready for the work week.

    So, KSUOWL, you up for some fun? Wanna show me around?
  • geojock

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    Same here! I love going out, gaying it up and having a fun time.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    I can't criticize anyone for enjoying being out in the gay scene because when I lived in Los Angeles I was immersed in it for 20 years. I still enjoy going out to a gay bar or club if I'm in a major city like L.A. or New York, and I have a blast on Atlantis cruises, but you do grow out of that sort of thing at some point and it becomes fun only on the rare occasions. Everything in moderation.
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    Reading this is bringing back some great memories. It's been a lot of years since we went out to a night spot.

    Here, a blast from the past (the lyrics are great)

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    i used to dislike the club scene.. but im very much starting to like it now.. the dancing and having a good time with friends is just amazing.
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    South Beach = Win
    That is all. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidWe have no scene here. This is the most repressed city in the most repressed state in the country. I dont go out often, but when I do I find it liberating.

    This weekend I have some obligations in Central Georgia for work, and then I will be free on Saturday afternoon. So, instead of coming home, I am gonna get a hotel room in Midtown Atlanta and hit some clubs and dance and play. No agenda, no stupid regrets... I just want to hang out with some hot gay guys and party. The next day, sleep in and then get ready for the work week.

    So, KSUOWL, you up for some fun? Wanna show me around?


    Not to argue, but I've been told I'm unwelcome in a bar (by the bartender) in Montana because i was sitting too closely to a guy i was talking to...

    and I think the hate comes from a lot of self loathing, and guys who are in denial about who they are...like the whole straight acting garbage.
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    I like it, only feel normal around the other freaks.
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidSouth Beach = Win
    That is all. icon_biggrin.gif


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    Mar 15, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    Congratulations to you for not over analyzing it, enjoying it for what it's worth to you and not to others, letting the less than perfect aspects roll off your back and having a great time.

    Now, can I get you a drink?
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    Mar 15, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Please... Captain Morgan's, Diet Coke and lots of lime... THANKS!!