Your Childhood....

  • metta

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    Mar 14, 2011 8:38 PM GMT
    Looking back at your childhood, if you could change one thing about it, what one thing would you change?

    I had a wonderful, very protective childhood, with 2 loving parents that always put their children first. The only thing that I could think of that would have been nice would be if my parents would have had some emotionally healthy gay friends in their daily life, preferably ones that were in a healthy monogamous relationship. I think that would have been a good thing for me to see growing up.

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    Mar 14, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    I had an unhappy childhood, but so many of those difficulties and obstacles made me who I am today, that I dont know if I would change any of it.

    if I could change ANYTHING... there is one thing. When I was in high school, I found out that my parents threw away all of my toys. I know that I am a grown man, but I wish I still had my matchbox cars and my tonka trucks that I loved as a child. They would be nice mementos. I only have one item from my childhood... a stuffed koala bear. I still keep him around.

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    Mar 14, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    There's hardly anything that I would change. I had a great childhood surrounded by loving parents and several siblings. I got to travel around the world, live in several countries, learn a variety of cultures, establish and maintain life-long friendships wherever I lived, and experience unconditional love from people from all walks of life. The only thing, if any, that I might change is perhaps if I could have enjoyed child/teenage modeling more because I now appreciate the fact that not everyone gets to experience that.
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    Mar 14, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    I had one of those incredible childhoods, raised on a working farm in Alabama. Nothing I would change as it was amazing. My backyard was couple hundred acres and several lakes. 3 acre blue channel Catfish pond, picking corn, peas, bail hay, etc....never went to the store as we raised or grew everthing we needed.. Grab a 22 or 4/10 rifle or shotgun, none of this over protected crap, 13yo, grab and gun and go hunting. couple hours later come back with dinner....I'm wrighting a book as family knew I was gay from an early age... joined FFA (future farmers of America) ended up using my, no pun, Fariers box (horse shoe supplies) to store my knitting needles.... fond memory is "something is not right about that boy"...HA
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    Mar 14, 2011 9:23 PM GMT
    I had a pretty nice childhood as well, similar to shotmuscleguy's. Sometime we lived in other countries. But I grew up in rural TX. We grew corn. We had an uncle living near us. Other than that, our nearest neighbors were about 5 miles down the road. We raised cattle; I showed steers from from when I was about 8 years old on up. My cousins and I would go exploring all day long, and no one would care as long as we got back before sundown.
    My mother didn't work. She had a garden that I kept along with my siblings to get vegetables and fruits. We had chickens and ducks for eggs and small meat along with rabbits. Naturally, the cattle could also be used for meat and dairy. The nearest market was about a 45 minute drive. It was a comfortable life style.

    Then my father died when I was almost 15. That's pretty much the only thing that could be different. I was the oldest. We moved to a more populated area. We still own the land. My mother got a job. I took care of my siblings. Life went on.
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    Mar 14, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidMine was pretty bad (but this isn't a pity post.)

    I lived in abject terror in my house until I moved out at 15. Alcohol was a big factor. Beatings, being locked in a room, emotional abuse were part of daily life. I could hear my stepfather's car 2 blocks away and my mind would start to race about what it would be about this time. I'd be asleep and wake up to him on top of me punching me in the face (he broke my nose a couple of times.) After a while, you just become resigned to this..."normal" just becomes normal. And as a kid, I just figured everyone lived like that.

    Thankfully, I had some other great people around me. I started doing odd jobs at 13 and found people really appreciated the work I did (which was an amazingly uplifting feeling compared to the "God gave me a half-assed son" comments at home). By 15, I realized it might not be me that was fucked up and found a way out and never looked back. I was little more than a hollow shell of a person when I left.

    All that said, I don't know where I would begin to "change one thing from childhood"...this was chronic daily life. I also think I learned a lot from all of it and it's been a point of consolement at different times of my life to realize "all of the worst things in my life happened a long time ago". Nothing since has even come close in comparison, and that's given me a lot of strength to face some pretty weird things.

    I think it's hard to say "I would change that" because it was the experience that gave you the knowledge to be able to say "I would change that". So if you actually could 'change' it, you'd be surrendering that knowledge. Faced with that choice, I'd rather have the experience I've already paid the price for (and the wisdom that might come with it.)


    Sitting here crying like like a baby..I understand your resonce
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    Mar 14, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    You're Childhood....

    "Looking back at your childhood, if you could change one thing about it, what one thing would you change?"

    Insisting that schools teach the difference between "you're" and "your." icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 14, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    ^
    I realize the difference...just an oops...
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    Mar 14, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    Less ho-ho's, more exercise. Also I should have been nicer to my friends when I was 6-10.
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    Mar 14, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    I had a decent childhood but, if there was a second chance I would have gotten more involved with school.
  • massbuildah

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    Mar 15, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    There's a million things I'd change if i could, but the reality is my childhood wasn't bad at all and everything that happened to me good or bad brought me to where I am today, and I'm pretty damn happy where I am today!
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    Mar 15, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    massbuildah saidThere's a million things I'd change if i could, but the reality is my childhood wasn't bad at all and everything that happened to me good or bad brought me to where I am today, and I'm pretty damn happy where I am today!


    You're full of it!


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    Mar 15, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    @ Carminea.....your story is the stuff that made John Steinbeck write great novels...........and brought back memories of my own...................thanks........................Keithicon_wink.gif