Help need advice!!

  • rex099

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    Mar 14, 2011 10:46 PM GMT
    So for the past month im gonna say, i've been talking with this great guy, things are going good, hes funny and sweet and laughs at pretty much any joke i make (regardless of if its funny). So I ask if he would like to meet which he agrees to. We make the date on a day he has a day off from work and which im free because im on spring break. On the day of the meeting I ask him where the arcade is where we are meeting up ( that was the place we chose since we both like arcades and gaming) he then texts me saying that he doesnt want to go out (not out with me just not out) i say ok, it sucks but at least it wasnt during the ride up to him. the next day i try to talk to him and ask why he changed his mind, he doesnt say but says he is sorry he just didnt want to promise me a day and leave me feeling disappointed again and let down ( this is the first time we were meeting and he never let me down before). I say its ok but do you want to keep talking? He says he has to think about it because he doesnt know what he wants. He hasnt txted me back nor has he returned my last txt of "Hi".

    Should i let him go? or should I wait and see? He is a really nice guy and i dont want to pressure him into making a fast decision. Any advice would helpful.
  • dissociative

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    Mar 15, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Probably not what you want to hear, but don't waste your time with this guy.

    "I'm not sure what I want right now" is the usual blanket excuse flakes use when they don't have the balls to be honest with you.
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    Mar 15, 2011 3:53 AM GMT

    "Should i let him go? or should I wait and see? He is a really nice guy and i dont want to pressure him into making a fast decision. Any advice would helpful."

    Should you let him go?
    YES. He can damn well chase you, but I'd just walk on. He had a great opportunity already, didn't he? icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Mar 15, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    The more time you invest, the harder it gets to let go. My recommendation would not to be to absolve your self of all ties to him, but to continue pursuing other people. If he changes his mind, cool. If not, you'll probably already have moved on.

    Is whether or not he likes guys (or admits to liking guys) established?
  • rex099

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    Mar 15, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice! it really means alot.

    I think what Im gonna do is finish school, then start working and stuff all while not talking to him or anyone else, if he wants to talk great if not too bad for him icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 15, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    rex099 saidThanks for the advice! it really means alot.

    I think what Im gonna do is finish school, then start working and stuff all while not talking to him or anyone else, if he wants to talk great if not too bad for him icon_razz.gif


    Thats the attitude to have really, remember there are a lot of guys out there, dont rule him out and cut ties off completely but go out and meet other guys.
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    Mar 15, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    My advice is... stop overthinking it and just move on.

    The time I have wasted on shit like this could have been put to better use... like... i dunno... posting advice to other people on realjock? haha... oh wait then again if I was here posting and not experiencing the problem then I wouldnt have the experience to offer the advice. Ok Im gonna quit while Im not so far ahead - point is, let him contact you, go about your life as per usual, aight????
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    Mar 15, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    Not to beat a dead horse but this is something I tell my girls when they are upset at some dumb guy (and I think about too when I am too.)

    Do you know what a pig does to a pearl? Usually, they will stomp it into the mud because they dont understand the value. Face it, men are pigs.
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    Mar 16, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    I assume he's not what he told you, that's why he didn't want to meet you. Don't let him string you along any further. Drop the connection