For all those guys out there who don't believe in "finding a guy when you least expect it..."

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    Mar 16, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    I admit, for the last couple of years, I was skeptical about whether this reasoning is actually true. I'm very picky when it comes to people I date, so I was always the one that went out in search for guys. I went online to dating sites, hookup sites, here, went to clubs, went to bars. All the while I was searching for guys... scratch that... searching for boyfriends. Well, it's been about 6 months since I've given up on the online dating/hookup thing; it's not my style, and I'm way too picky for those sites anyways. But from then on I told myself that I'm not going to find anyone I like around where I'm currently living (in BFE Michigan), so I'm just gonna focus on coaching and doing what I do till I move in a couple of years.

    Last weekend, I went to a high school Swimming and Diving State Championship Meet to do some recruiting for my college. Since one of my friends lived in the area, I wanted to see him and we went out to dinner, but cut the night short because I was supposed to meet friends back home about an hour away. While on my way though, my friends cancelled, so I ended up treading back down to my friend's place again and we decided to make a night of it and go out to a club with a few others as well.

    We went to the club, had a few drinks, danced. About an hour flew by and nothing really exciting happened, so I just danced with my friends a lot and had a good time. And then this guy came up to me, a very cute guy at that, and started talking to me while I was dancing with my friends. Immediately we hit it off, danced for a little bit, talked even more. Our personalities meshed very well with the conversation we were having, and I couldn't believe that someone else could be so graceful with their sarcasm as to make me look like a novice without even trying.

    The end of the night comes. He said he's going home nearby and leaving the next day because the only reason he was in town was to get his first cavity filled, and he extended the invitation to me. Now, if this were a couple of years ago, I would have definitely said no since I was frightened of what would happen to me... but we hit it off so well that I couldn't refuse. We spent the night at his place, a very fun, romantic, easy going night. And got all of one hour of sleep. He went to the dentist in the morning, and I accompanied him since sleeping in a stranger's bed while they were away seemed a little awkward and creepy to me. And after that we got lunch, and then spent the whole day cuddling and napping and having a good time.

    I honestly never expected this to happen, and thought it was an amazing coincidence that we met each other considering neither of us were supposed to go out that night, but his friend dragged him out and my plans got cancelled. I'm visiting him this weekend where he lives, we've been texting back and forth, and I've never been so giddy in my life.

    So here's to you, all of the guys who think that something will come when you least expect it. For right now, I'm counting down the hours till I see him again, which seems like months away when really it's only 3 days. I just hope this happens to others as well.

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    Mar 16, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif Real happy for ya.

    I'm... not one of those people, although I believe it happens. I'm not that optimistic though... I'm in the closet and I'll be in there for a while- gonna wait until I'm done being on a sports team (I'm actually on my college's swim team, heh).
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    Mar 16, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    I like the happy ending. I hope you have many more. I agree that the best things in life happen when you're not looking or when they're least expected. Best of luck.
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:05 AM GMT


    Well I'm fascinated. It sounds great Let us know how it went!

    -Doug
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
    Awesome!! Congrats buddy! Hope this weekend is even more awesome than the last
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Great story, and good luck with him!
    May it get better and better for you two.

    I met my partner at a funeral... but we were both dating other people at the time. Met again 9 months later, the night before I was leaving the country for a few weeks and was just out having a good time with friends.

    As the saying goes: "good things come to those who wait."
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    jprichva saidJust wait until he takes you down to the basement and shows you the freezer where he keeps the body parts.

    What? You say that like it's a bad thing.

    (At least he keeps them in the freezer. There was just now this case of an old woman dying in her house and her mother's body being found, mummified, having been stashed for some 10 years.)
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Somebody's counting the chickens before they hatch. But it's all in good fun, glad to hear it. I met my pretty swell boyfriend in a totally random event as well.
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    wow, just like the movies! It exists! *tears* lol

    Congrats! That story was sweet to read. I hope we have more of these to balance fml threads. Just saying icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 16, 2011 7:48 AM GMT
    Allathlete said He said he's going home nearby and leaving the next day because the only reason he was in town was to get his first cavity filled


    Is this a euphemism for sex?
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    Mar 16, 2011 8:08 AM GMT
    I hope its all you wish for and more! icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 16, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    Ahoymedogs saidCongrats! icon_biggrin.gif Real happy for ya.

    I'm... not one of those people, although I believe it happens. I'm not that optimistic though... I'm in the closet and I'll be in there for a while- gonna wait until I'm done being on a sports team (I'm actually on my college's swim team, heh).


    Don't wait too long, you'll miss all of the fun years of dating and the relief of not caring that people know... It's one of the best feelings in the world.
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    Mar 16, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI like the happy ending. I hope you have many more. I agree that the best things in life happen when you're not looking or when they're least expected. Best of luck.


    Not quite a happy ending, just a fantastic start to a journey.
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    Mar 16, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 said
    jprichva saidJust wait until he takes you down to the basement and shows you the freezer where he keeps the body parts.

    What? You say that like it's a bad thing.

    (At least he keeps them in the freezer. There was just now this case of an old woman dying in her house and her mother's body being found, mummified, having been stashed for some 10 years.)


    Thanks for that guys, it really sheds a great light on... well, on nothing at all.
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    Mar 16, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
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    Allathlete said He said he's going home nearby and leaving the next day because the only reason he was in town was to get his first cavity filled


    Is this a euphemism for sex?


    Wow, I'm impressed. Usually I can pick these out like a champ, but I totally overlooked that one.

    And no, he's got perfect teeth (really sexy, and I envy that because my teeth are screwed up) but he grinds them at night and he popped a cap off.
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    I, too, would like to wish you and your friend the best of luck. I hope it continues.

    I met mine, of all places, at a cruise bar. I had no intentions of meeting anyone or picking anyone up,... nothing like that. I was there with friends and so was he. After passing by him and noticing him staring, even as shy as I am, I introduced myseilf (beer helped the shyness). We visited for quite awhile. He was the designated driver for his buddies and when they were ready to leave he asked for my number. I asked him, "If I give you my number are you going to use it, or will I be wasting my time?" He sternly replied, "If I said I'll call, I'll call." I went to the bar, got a card, wrote my number and gave it to him. That was on a Sunday. On Monday he called we made a date for the next Friday. After the date, he stayed with me. The next morning we went to the Farmers Market in Kansas City and spent the rest of the day together. That was 18 years ago last October. We're still together.

    You can meet good people anywhere and at anytime... when least expected.
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    wow, that is a great story buddy. i really appreciate reading and i wish you and your new beau much success. i still do not think it will happen to me
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    Meeting a guy at a club when you are out partying with friends is what you least expected? Kids these days with their interwebs and whatnots.

    Not that I'm not happy for you but picking up in a bar is not the least expected to me. That would be... well I don't really know really.
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    Congrats..hopefully the relationship will stick. Update us in a year to see what happens..
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    PaulNKS saidI, too, would like to wish you and your friend the best of luck. I hope it continues.

    I met mine, of all places, at a cruise bar. I had no intentions of meeting anyone or picking anyone up,... nothing like that. I was there with friends and so was he. After passing by him and noticing him staring, even as shy as I am, I introduced myseilf (beer helped the shyness). We visited for quite awhile. He was the designated driver for his buddies and when they were ready to leave he asked for my number. I asked him, "If I give you my number are you going to use it, or will I be wasting my time?" He sternly replied, "If I said I'll call, I'll call." I went to the bar, got a card, wrote my number and gave it to him. That was on a Sunday. On Monday he called we made a date for the next Friday. After the date, he stayed with me. The next morning we went to the Farmers Market in Kansas City and spent the rest of the day together. That was 18 years ago last October. We're still together.

    You can meet good people anywhere and at anytime... when least expected.
    wow, you make me almost want to believe.
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    "Giddy" is good. Congrats!! Roll with it and see where it takes you. Good luck!!!
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    Mar 16, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    This is good. I've long contended that you'll find your man when you're not looking. How it's always worked for me, counter-intuitive though that may seem.

    Look too hard and you look desperate, and act that way, too, chasing off more guys than you attract. Simply stay in circulation, and enjoy the gay social scene for its own pleasures, as the OP appears to have been doing.

    Look confident, comfortable, self-assured & happy, and the guys will come looking for you, your remaining challenge being how to sort them all out and make a choice from among them. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:11 PM GMT
    pre_mortem saidMeeting a guy at a club when you are out partying with friends is what you least expected? Kids these days with their interwebs and whatnots.

    Not that I'm not happy for you but picking up in a bar is not the least expected to me. That would be... well I don't really know really.


    It's not the place I was referring to, it's the timing in my life, hence the "when you least expect it." I Like I said before, I wasn't looking for anything right now because right now I'm just concentrating on trying to coach, and apply to grad schools and stuff like that. I had no intentions of finding anyone worth while that night...
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    Mar 16, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    Allathlete said
    Ermine said
    Allathlete said He said he's going home nearby and leaving the next day because the only reason he was in town was to get his first cavity filled


    Is this a euphemism for sex?


    Wow, I'm impressed. Usually I can pick these out like a champ, but I totally overlooked that one.


    Haha you really didn't realize that when the guy told you to come to his house?

    That is a good sign though if he still wants to hang out with you. He seems like actually a good guy. Usually if you give it up the first night you meet them, they will just move on to the next guy
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    Mar 16, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Happy. SO happy to read something good here happening to a good guy (and from the sounds of it, TWO good guys.)

    Happy, just damned out-and-out happy! icon_biggrin.gif