Telling your children you are gay

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    Mar 16, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    Can you guys share your stories of how you told your children about being gay? If you are a guy who accepted who you are late in life, how did you address it with your children? How old were they? What would you avoid? What did you do right?

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    Mar 16, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    I don't have any but I know so many men with kids that I've heard several stories. One came out to his two daughters separately. One daughter had already had a lesbian affair so he figured she would handle it with ease. Turns out she had a hard time accepting it while the straight daughter had no problem. Probably my favorite was when a guy told his 22 year old son and his son answered, "wow, so back when you were my age, everyone must have thought it was a choice to be gay."



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    Mar 17, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    One of my ex-roommates was the son on the receiving end of his father's coming out. He told me that it was all so shocking and he didn't understand it all at the time. The coming-out also coincided with his parents getting divorced. To him, as a 16 year old, he didn't immediately understand the whole situation, because he always thought back to himself, his sisters and his mom and dad being together, having fun... He had always considered his mom and dad happy together and liking one-another, so it just didn't compute in his that his dad would suddenly not like her anymore or that he had somehow never liked her.

    The short term shock led to anger and hatred, because he looked at his dad as having hurt his mom. Over the next few years though him and his dad got closer again. It was a slow and gradual process. His dad was really patient with him and his sisters.

    Now he brings his girlfriend to gay bars, to hang out with his dad.