What would you do?

  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    So a few months ago I was having trouble with my phone and I went into the store to get it checked out. The guy who was helping me was very nice and informative and knew what he was doing. Later that night I log in to one of the "Dating Sites" and saw I had a message. Looked at the message and guess who it was from....yup the customer service guy at the phone store. Now, is it just me or is it wrong to think that it is very unprofessional of him to contact me about my phone through the site? He didn't even ask if it was me in the first place, just assumed. My opinion on him has changed dramatically from nice and cooperative to sleazy and disgusting when I told him I thought it was unprofessional of him to contact me on there and yet he would continue to email me asking to go to the bars with him. Am I wrong in thinking he was being unprofessional?

    Along the same lines as the situation above, yesterday I went to a workshop for American Sign Language where there were about 60 or so people. I log on to the "Dating Site" again today and see I have another email this time asking if I was at the workshop because this man who emailed me was....WHY ARE SO MANY OLDER GUYS CREEPY LIKE THAT?!?!?! Please, if you have ever seen someone out in public then realize they have a profile either on here or some dating site and you decided to talk to them about it, what was going through your mind?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    A tad bit unprofessional, and if he did it to the wrong guy, it could have cost his job if they complained to management. Though, if it really was harmless, it could be cute and you have to admire the balls to just throw yourself in front of the bus like that. But if he is pestering you (asking you out to bars all the time, etc), then be really firm about how you would not like to be contacted through the 'Dating Site'.

    Yes, that is a tad bit....creepy. But hey, its a small world. Maybe you should feel a mixture of flattery (I mean, to commit someone to memory and actively search them out) and grossed out-ness (old people bad? idk).

    tl;dr You are right to feel it is unprofessional and they probably thought you seemed like a approachable guy.

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    And I totally ignored your post title. What would I do? Generally I ignore creeps, most get the message and drift away.
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    The good news is there is a replacement for everyone... The bad news is you better know who you want to replace. Sorry guy, that is reality.
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    Something tells me there's alot more to this story than is being disclosed.
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    TropicalMark saidSomething tells me there's alot more to this story than is being disclosed.


    And what would that be?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    It's completely unprofessional and called avoidance. If he was interested in getting to know you, you probably would've known that in the store. If it was mutual then you could easily come back to the store for 'assistance'.

    -That's how I got my first partner of four years, and it was amazing.

    Remember that this guy not only knows your name and has pictures, he has your address and social. The premise that he is working there and not a felon is concrete, but I've seen alot of identity theft. It's the ones you least suspect that do it.

  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    UPRYTE saidThe good news is there is a replacement for everyone... The bad news is you better know who you want to replace. Sorry guy, that is reality.


    wtf are you talking about?
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    Mar 17, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    If you were attracted to the guy, would you be so upset?
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    Mar 17, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    what's so unprofessional? i'm just going to assume you're talking about grindr. so you take in your phone; he sees you have grindr; does what he needs to do to fix your phone; then messages you on grindr through his phone when your pic shows up. how is that wrong? if you're not interested, block him.
  • mynyun

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    Mar 17, 2011 4:44 AM GMT


    Maybe he was talking about your phone to break the ice and take it from there. If you were, maybe, into him what's the problem.???

    "sleazy and disgusting" = sexual activities in the bathroom of a club.
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    Mar 17, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    If he was/is gorgeous and sweet let it play out!! If otherwise, tell him to figure a way to have the next few months phone bills paid or he will most likely be reported lol
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    Gah, I was hoping you guys wouldn't assume I'm a hypocritical bitch and ask me if he was attractive if it would be different. Glad you guys can make such assumptions about me though. To answer your question, no. Absolutely not. And who said he wasn't attractive? Cuz I sure didn't.
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    atl2atx85 saidwhat's so unprofessional? i'm just going to assume you're talking about grindr. so you take in your phone; he sees you have grindr; does what he needs to do to fix your phone; then messages you on grindr through his phone when your pic shows up. how is that wrong? if you're not interested, block him.


    Again with the assuming..... I don't even know what the hell grindr is... thanks for your wrong input though.
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    Well to answer your question I would have seen it through to see where it would end up. The only way I would say it was unprofessional is if he used your info to find you or if he had done it on the job.

    I think its kinda sweet as long as his messages were more about hanging out like a date.
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    heybreaux saidThe creepyiness only comes in when it is not someone that you are attracted to. If you are not attracted, let him know.


    He had asked me out several times in which I replied I was not interested every time but he kept trying to contact me.

    [quote]My opinion is that privacy is already gone, and it is only going to get worse, so...just my two cents.[/quote]

    And I completely agree with you on this. My political science professor has ranted about how our privacy is gone because of Facebook and things like that. It's basically letting everyone be comfortable with everything being out in the open and soon it will escalate to bigger things like the government and things like that. But that is just his opinion, and he is a Politics professor.
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 17, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Boiled rabbit anyone?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    swimmermatt101 saidAnd who said he wasn't attractive? Cuz I sure didn't.


    So you think he's an attractive guy, right?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    Well I'd say no it's not unprofessional. You put yourself out there on a dating site and someone contacted you. What the hell did you want? It was no sleazier than you putting yourself out there. He probably saw something on your phone and was interested or he would not have taken the time to contact you. Get off your high and might horse and accept it as a compliment that he thought highly enough of you to go to the effort.

    As for the the workshop? OMG buddy, come down to reality. So someone sees you there and emails you, wtf? If you don't want emails from guys then get the fuck off the sites! As for the 'OLD GUYS' comment, it's young twits like you that piss me off with that kind of attitude. You make no mention of this guy saying anything inappropriate. He saw you at a place where you must have something in common. Even if he was 80 and you're an immature 20, does that mean he can't say hi? Get over yourself and crawl back into a hole so no one can find you and you can be happy all alone!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    wow, i normally do not like to come off as dick but damn you are a douche. a guy was trying to come on to you and you acted like a complete ass. if you were not interested, all you had to do was say thanks but i do not think you are not my type. damn, i do not understand people like you
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidWell I'd say no it's not unprofessional. You put yourself out there on a dating site and someone contacted you. What the hell did you want? It was no sleazier than you putting yourself out there. He probably saw something on your phone and was interested or he would not have taken the time to contact you. Get off your high and might horse and accept it as a compliment that he thought highly enough of you to go to the effort.

    As for the the workshop? OMG buddy, come down to reality. So someone sees you there and emails you, wtf? If you don't want emails from guys then get the fuck off the sites! As for the 'OLD GUYS' comment, it's young twits like you that piss me off with that kind of attitude. You make no mention of this guy saying anything inappropriate. He saw you at a place where you must have something in common. Even if he was 80 and you're an immature 20, does that mean he can't say hi? Get over yourself and crawl back into a hole so no one can find you and you can be happy all alone!


    Oh Christ. Take things a little personal eh? I can't generalize about older guys, but you have the right generalize about younger guys? Since when were you entitled to that double standard?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    I would, frankly, be flattered, and think it's nice that someone wants to make a connection.
    And if something came out of it, that would be a very cute beginning of a relationship. I think it's sad that many people let the artificial divides of "professionality" stop them from making connections with each other.
  • Hammer89

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    ohhhh quit being a tight ass. The guy liked you. If you didn't like him, shake it off and move on.
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidwow, i normally do not like to come off as dick but damn you are a douche. a guy was trying to come on to you. if you were not interested all you had to do was say thanks but i do not think you are not my type. damn, and you probably wonder why you can't get a freaking date.


    Hey pal, in case you didn't read the rest of the thread I suggest you do so before calling me out on not telling I was interested. Oh btw, i don't normally like coming off as a dick but damn you are a jack ass.
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:32 PM GMT
    Gays guys should just give up trying to meet other guys. Damn the guy just trying to meet other gays guys. Let all us just complain on websites how difficult it is to make gay friends. Problem sloved.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    swimmermatt101 said
    tuffguyndc saidwow, i normally do not like to come off as dick but damn you are a douche. a guy was trying to come on to you. if you were not interested all you had to do was say thanks but i do not think you are not my type. damn, and you probably wonder why you can't get a freaking date.


    Hey pal, in case you didn't read the rest of the thread I suggest you do so before calling me out on not telling I was interested. Oh btw, i don't normally like coming off as a dick but damn you are a jack ass.
    dickhead, i read your damn sorry ass thread and again, you are a douche. i am sure your mother must be so proud. she probably hates the day that you were conceived. i am sure your dad wishes he had used a damn condom