How do you know if your a Top/Bottom/ or Verse?

  • Jericophantom...

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    Mar 17, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Is it a process of trial an error I know what I personally like but it didnt hit me until now how ever one else figured? that question has eluded me
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    How do you know if you are a boy or girl in this chaotic world?
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    Mar 17, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    This just in: water is wet.

    Now that I got my funny in, like upwrong ...

    In your mind, far removed from the judgmental and hyper-masculine confines of this site and other gay sites where you need to list your "position" with connotation-specific consequences, what do you really think about yourself and your role in your hot, sexy fantasy with your most desirable intimate candidate?

    It is a pretty simple question with much larger implications. Proven even more readily true by the earlier thread tonight about "Stereotypes" which are admittedly not always true.

    I know what my fantasies look like, I like them, I am comfortable with them, and I pursue based on them.

    If you find you are a nelly bottom - flaunt it, very desirable to most closeted guys
    If you find you are a power bottom - flaunt it, incredibly rare in the "LTR" circle
    If you find you are versatile - flaunt it and see what kind of reaction you get
    If you find you are a vers/top - flaunt it but be honest about "vers" and how "top" you actually are, not what you think after one Smirnoff Ice
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue
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    Mar 17, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Sorry, but I just don't get any joy over having a dick in my ass. No connection, no desire. The thought of it just makes me go limp. Which is why I seek out total bottoms or vers/bottoms that want to get *their* holes loosened and their prostates smashed up.

    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
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    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)


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    Same here, either I am a top or we just watch a movie/cuddle and get some bromance, don't produce any bottom chemistry, it's another genetic defect icon_razz.gif

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    alphatrigger said
    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Sorry, but I just don't get any joy over having a dick in my ass. No connection, no desire. The thought of it just makes me go limp. Which is why I seek out total bottoms or vers/bottoms that want to get *their* holes loosened and their prostates smashed up.

    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)


    That's why I love topping.
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    ...and the tops come out
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  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    lol really? i can't believe you posted a thread like this. ha ha ha i hate sound like a dick but really? how do you know if you are a top or bottom. dude, that's like asking a gay guy how do you know if you do not like pussy if you have never had it. ha ha ha dude, there are some things you just know.
  • alphatop

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    Mar 17, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    U r kidding, right?icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    I knew i was a bottom way before i knew what sex or being gay meant, let me emphasize way too early icon_smile.gif topping means nothing to me, no pleasure no connection
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    People like what they like I guess. Kudos to them.

    I personally know I don't want to deal with someone who is either a total top or a total bottom. I can't be solidified in just one sexual role. I like to have my cake and eat it (and take it) and I love it when someone else raises my flag and makes my solider stand at attention :-)

    I can be a top and break a bottom off proper and wanting it like crazy as alphatrigger explained or I can be a bottom and put a top in a sugar induced coma. They'll have "DNR" on your forms because you won't wanna come outta that coma. It's that good. LOL.Hollah.

    Sometimes it's not about what you try but rather who you try it. I've seen supposed total tops and bottoms switch it around when they kick it with someone who does it right and is right for them (at that time).

    Those who are totals show their limitations, in my opinion, and that's just boring because I have moods and I love expressing them in the bed.
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    In short, I just like having a smile put on my face and making sure my partner has one too icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    alphatrigger said
    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Sorry, but I just don't get any joy over having a dick in my ass. No connection, no desire. The thought of it just makes me go limp. Which is why I seek out total bottoms or vers/bottoms that want to get *their* holes loosened and their prostates smashed up.

    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)



    I love topping for the same reasons you do but there is something more I would like to add.

    A higher form of love (obviously my opinion) is when you orgasm not because that bubble ass you are fucking is tight, but because you see the other person having a hell of a good time.

    Well, that is at least why I love topping.
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    Mar 17, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    yep i knew i liked it in the butt the night i had a dream of my personal trainer at the time bending me over. <3.
  • blackjack93

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    Mar 17, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    Umm I would say trial and error, haha. I mean but you kinda have an Idea of what you prefer, but never guess until you've tried, and be open to an abundance of new things!icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 17, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    alphatrigger said
    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)



    Daaaammmmn!...fuck me.... icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 17, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    Trust me I know!!
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    Mar 17, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    alphatrigger said
    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Sorry, but I just don't get any joy over having a dick in my ass. No connection, no desire. The thought of it just makes me go limp. Which is why I seek out total bottoms or vers/bottoms that want to get *their* holes loosened and their prostates smashed up.

    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)



    I would like nothing more than to be fucked by you! haha
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    AlphaTrigger said
    spaghettimonster said...
    If you find you are a total top - don't kind yourself, you like to bottom a lot, you just don't want to admit it in a public venue


    ORLY?

    Why do some guys have trouble accepting that there are some guys who are total tops?

    Sorry, but I just don't get any joy over having a dick in my ass. No connection, no desire. The thought of it just makes me go limp. Which is why I seek out total bottoms or vers/bottoms that want to get *their* holes loosened and their prostates smashed up.

    I mean, I do get a huge fucking rise out of seeing my dick plunging into a
    tight hole, hearing my hips and groin racking up against a bottom's bubble ass, grabbing him by his hips slamming his ass down my pole, and grabbing his hair and pulling his head back while punish-fucking him like the submisive cum-slut he asked me to treat him as...

    Yeah, those things get me off in a big way. ;)


    This.

    Don't want a dick in my ass, I was my dick in an ass.
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Take it, Give it or Share it... usually determines everything... I say try sharing first... icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    I just flipped a coin...



    strange how both sides of the coin were associated with bottoming icon_lol.gif
  • Medjai

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    Aug 19, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    I enjoy topping, but can't get off doing it. Unless I'm alone, I need to have something in me to get off. And bottoming is so god damn fun.
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    Depends on how tight I am for the day... And how tight he is (choices choices!)
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    Actually, I think preference on this topic can change. I used to think I was vers. Then I started to think I was vers/bttm. But lately I have ZERO interest in bttm and only interested in topping.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 19, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    I've loved both ... it depends on the guy ... I've had some not so hot of both too