Music to die to.....

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    Mar 18, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    I have been stewing on this since Monday night...A close friend of mine came over to my house Monday and told me that he has pancreatic cancer and has been given less than 6 months to live. He is 48 and is the poster child for living a clean and healthy, active life. He is straight and divorced with a 25 year old son. He asked me to make a music mix for him on GROOVESHARK.( He told me he "wants a music mix to die to"....and to then play it at the wake....I am in SHOCK! He is going to die in short order and is so nonchalant about it....and then asks me to mix a music list of "MUSIC TO DIE TO" and to them play it in the background at his wake........
    I have many conflicting emotions about this, but I of course said OK, but only if he would help direct me on some of the music selections....I am sad about his news and prospects, have many great memories of him going to concerts with me, since we were teenagers....I am touched that I was the first one he told about his illness and voiced his fears and tears too, I don't know how to let someone die without a fight...and yes he is going for treatment, but apparently is not expecting anything to help. Still, the request to make this music list to die to has a strange and morose feel........I am in shock....and still trying to comprehend all of this....He is surprisingly calm and almost detached from his illness and fate.........I am confused by it too.icon_cry.gificon_sad.gif
  • Chackers

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    Mar 18, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    I dont have any music suggestions im afraid, i just wanted to say how sorry i am to hear about your friend.
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    Mar 18, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry. icon_sad.gif That must be awful to hear.

    I remember when one of my good friends died, I listened to a lot of sad music, and in general I have a lot of sad music because I've been depressed my whole life.

    I'm going to post these as links to the youtube pages, as not to cause lag for anyone reading the thread.

    Sia: <- this one still gets me every time
    Her album titled "Some People Have Real Problems" is an extremely good but sad album. Check out the lyrics too.

    Emily Haines:
    Lyrics aren't exactly on-topic but the songs are very sad. The album "Knives Don't Have Your Back" is amazing, her EP "What Is Free To A Good Home?" is also great but I would suggest the first.

    Bat For Lashes:
    Both of her albums ("Fur And Gold" and "Two Suns") are fantastic.

    Björk: <- youtube has copyright problems
    Her album "Vespertine" is saddest by far.

    Check those out and let me know if you want more, I could go on for hours because I'm such a huge music collector.

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    Mar 18, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    Really sorry to hear about your friend, must be an awful moment for you hearing that from him all this sudden. He seems calm from the sound of it, which shows alot of bravery and strength.

    If i had to choose a piece of music to die to...
    damien rice - sleep, don't weep
  • sea_buddy

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    That's very challenging for your friend and you. I'm sorry that this occurred. Now that you know, though, you can enjoy more time together and value the life that you shared as friends. The best thing you can do is be there for him throughout his journey.

    Is it weird that I've thought of this already?

    This would be the sad song that I would play:

    Tracy Chapman is my favorite artist, and a lot of her music would be perfect for a funeral setting. Calm but uplifting.

    Personally, I would want to see people celebrating in the experiences of my life that I shared with them rather than mourning the future. icon_smile.gif
  • LJay

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    Brahms' Requiem, or his Liebeslieder Waltzes both treat the profound and the sensual.

    The Bach Cello Suites survey every mood from placidity to storm.

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    Mar 18, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your friend. That's such a young age. I can't imagine what emotions you're going through having to put together this song list.

    I second "Somewhere Over the Rainbow"

    And I'll add:
    "I Will Remember You" - Sarah McLachlan
    "Time of Your Life" - Green Day
    "10,000 Miles" - Mary Chapin (
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    - 'time to say goodbye' - sarah brightman and andrea bocelli
    - anything by the group Lionheart
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    That's really too bad... a close family friend of mine was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer too... It's a horrible thing to happen to anybody. icon_sad.gif

    Some of this music is really emotional, and might be helpful: <-- I like the poem in this one too.

    I guess I don't know what you are looking for, but hopefully this will help!
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    HeartRobb saidI am going to suggest, however, that you take this wonderful opportunity to make this playlist with your friend. The discussions you have with your friend in choosing music will shift to other discussions about memories and life and this will become something you cherish.

    He could do this and offer the suggestions in this thread as suggestions for his friend.