Is it me or are people just rude sometimes?

  • cyberwrassler

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    Mar 18, 2011 12:07 PM GMT
    Is it so difficult to say "hello" or "thanks" or "not interested" or "not my type" as opposed to just blocking or ignoring? Normally I don't give a shit - but sometimes it is just annoying.
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    Mar 18, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    I don't see how "not interested" isn't substituted by ignoring.

    Everyone always asks this question and in my opinion if I'm not interested then I couldn't give 2 shits if they're annoyed that I didn't reply.
  • cyberwrassler

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    Mar 18, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    so if someone walks up to you live..and says "hi" - you simply turn around and walk away....without saying anything? case and point.
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    Mar 18, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidso if someone walks up to you live..and says "hi" - you simply turn around and walk away....without saying anything? case and point.

    Uh, yeah, if I don't know them.

    I actually literally did that to someone yesterday.
    I was walking back from the cafeteria to my room (college dorms) with a plate full of sweet potato fries, and when I was waiting for the elevator this rando guy was like "what's good brah?"
    At first I didn't even realize he was talking to me, and then he was like "yeah man sweet potato fries, that's where it's at. that's the real shit."

    I was just like "............" until the elevator door opened.

    I'm pretty sure he took the stairs. icon_lol.gif
  • Hammer89

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:01 PM GMT
    Sometimes people are just rude mother fuckers and there ain't nothing we can do about it. (Although it has serious crossed my mind a few times to just up and bitch slap them across the face and say "Hasn't your WHORE of a mother taught you better!?")
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    Mar 18, 2011 1:01 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidIs it so difficult to say "hello" or "thanks" or "not interested" or "not my type" as opposed to just blocking or ignoring? Normally I don't give a shit - but sometimes it is just annoying.


    I agree with you 100%. It's so annoying and it irritates me that nobody has any respect anymore. You can only blame people's parents for bringing them up wrong.
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    Mar 18, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidIs it so difficult to say "hello" or "thanks" or "not interested" or "not my type" as opposed to just blocking or ignoring? Normally I don't give a shit - but sometimes it is just annoying.


    No it's not just you.

    And btw have you never done the same?

    And why is it sometimes annoying and other times not?

    Stretch out on the couch and tell us about it... methinks there's more to the story...
  • fitartistsf

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    Sometimes??????????!!!!!!!!! icon_surprised.gif
  • cyberwrassler

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    have I ever done it...only once that I recall - but that was after telling someone I was not interested....and they persisted..but that is a very different scenario. As for the couch session...nah. I think I just didn't get enough sleep last night...and am a bit persnickety. but thanks for the offer.
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    Mar 18, 2011 1:27 PM GMT
    Bad manners indeed.

    Although by the rules of thumb we should be interacting with other people online in the same way we would face to face, I can see that sometimes the rules of thumb can be ignored depending on the vibes you get from the person who contacts you.

    The vibes you get from the message is only YOUR interpretation of the message. NOT real, but it effects your judgement which can result in rudeness.

    I'd take it as a grain of salt and move on. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 18, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    FunCollegeDude said
    cyberwrassler saidIs it so difficult to say "hello" or "thanks" or "not interested" or "not my type" as opposed to just blocking or ignoring? Normally I don't give a shit - but sometimes it is just annoying.


    I agree with you 100%. It's so annoying and it irritates me that nobody has any respect anymore. You can only blame people's parents for bringing them up wrong.

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    Mar 18, 2011 1:46 PM GMT
    It takes only a few seconds to answer .....but more and more people are losing their good manners ...icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    Lately it seems like there are a lot of rude people.
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidso if someone walks up to you live..and says "hi" - you simply turn around and walk away....without saying anything? case and point.


    Hmm..i think the M.O. is to make a face and then run away

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    Mar 18, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    neffa saidIt takes only a few seconds to answer .....but more and more people are losing their good manners ...icon_sad.gif

    I don't see how ignoring someone or something you're not interested in is bad manners.
    Bad manners would be "You're gross as fuck, don't speak to me." or "No thanks old man."
    Would you rather be ignored or insulted?
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    Delta Burke's character on Designing Women said it best, "Not having manners is worst than being poor"
  • cyberwrassler

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    Mar 18, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    ADA - the limit of your choices of responses clearly indicates the problem. Either ignore or insult? Why not "no thank you - I'm not interested" or no tks - not my type". this is neither ignoring nor insulting. Seems a viable third option to the two you present.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Mar 18, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    OP - yes, they are rude.

    A lot of guys on RJ - I'd dare say a majority - are conceited. After attempting to befriend many guys over the past year I've been on RJ, I have pretty much given up emailing people or even commenting on photos/profiles. Just because I say hello doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or desperately attempting to get into your pants - get over yourself. (...and you know exactly who you are...)

    Maybe I'm not cool enough for you?... who knows, nor do I particularly care. I've got better things to spend my time contemplating. I email and instant message/private message my close friends, but I do not go out of my way to contact 'new' people unless they really stand out from the rest of the bunch. With that said, I always respond to emails regardless of who it is from as long as the email isn't bizarre or insulting.
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    Mar 18, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    If someone comes up to you in real life and says "Hi", you might simply smile a little but not say anything, right? That gives a pretty clear indication that you aren't interested in having a conversation or being overly receptive to the stranger.

    But in non-synchronized communication, such as IM or Realjock's mail function, the two most important communicative tools are lost - intent of the query and non-verbal communication. (The latter is 90% of communication, but completely lost in the written context)

    If Cyberwrassler initiates an exchange with an email message: "Hello" only, perhaps one has the right to quickly assess the intent and either respond or ignore. (The assumed intent will likely be "He would like to have sex with me" unless something in the message indicates otherwise, right?)

    If Cyberrassler says something more detailed, such as "Nice ass." or "Great arms". He might get a perfunctory response, but that would depend on how that intent is gauged and whether the recipient appreciates it.

    I have found that a lot of guys on this site and other sites will show great courtesy to a written message containing a genuine interest that shows I read their profile. They may still see the transparently obvious intent of the message, but it is harder to NOT respond to something that has been personalized. Cyberrasler, I hope you have been doing that before you message them! icon_biggrin.gif

    Perhaps Cyberrassler will share with us a little more detail about the kinds of messages he has been sending. I for one would like to learn how to better improve my communication skills.

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    Mar 18, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    Alpha1 saidOP - yes, they are rude.

    A lot of guys on RJ - I'd dare say a majority - are conceited. After attempting to befriend many guys over the past year I've been on RJ, I have pretty much given up emailing people or even commenting on photos/profiles. Just because I say hello doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or desperately attempting to get into your pants - get over yourself. (...and you know exactly who you are...)

    Maybe I'm not cool enough for you?... who knows, nor do I particularly care. I've got better things to spend my time contemplating. I email and instant message/private message my close friends, but I do not go out of my way to contact 'new' people unless they really stand out from the rest of the bunch. With that said, I always respond to emails regardless of who it is from as long as the email isn't bizarre or insulting.


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  • Sk8Tex

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    Mar 18, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    fitartistsf saidSometimes??????????!!!!!!!!! icon_surprised.gif


    Stole the words right out of my mouth.. lol

    Though it makes me wonder if this is something you experience on a daily basis, how much of it is due to your approach. For me there has to be a link or something in common. Otherwise "Hey sup!?" just doesn't do it for me.. I look at their profile and if its blank with a bunch of crotch and ass shots then I just move on. icon_neutral.gif

    Just sayin..
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    Mar 18, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidADA - the limit of your choices of responses clearly indicates the problem. Either ignore or insult? Why not "no thank you - I'm not interested" or no tks - not my type". this is neither ignoring nor insulting. Seems a viable third option to the two you present.

    I'm a brutally honest person and I'm sure many other guys on this website are.

    ...and to be brutally honest, you're not as attractive as most guys on here, and don't think they don't know that.
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    Mar 18, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    Alpha1 saidOP - yes, they are rude.

    A lot of guys on RJ - I'd dare say a majority - are conceited. After attempting to befriend many guys over the past year I've been on RJ, I have pretty much given up emailing people or even commenting on photos/profiles. Just because I say hello doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or desperately attempting to get into your pants - get over yourself. (...and you know exactly who you are...)

    Maybe I'm not cool enough for you?... who knows, nor do I particularly care. I've got better things to spend my time contemplating. I email and instant message/private message my close friends, but I do not go out of my way to contact 'new' people unless they really stand out from the rest of the bunch. With that said, I always respond to emails regardless of who it is from as long as the email isn't bizarre or insulting.
    Yes, I think the social skills of the gay community (yes I'm generalizing and I know that not everyone fits into this category, but think narcissistic here and if you don't think that guys in the gay community are narcissistic then you're in total denial!) with respect to communications is seriously lacking.

    Common courteously is to reply when spoken to regardless of your association. Getting onto an elevator with your fries and not responding to someone who commented is just rude. So you don't know them, they're not asking you to go out, geez. Not responding on sites like this where someone sends a message or compliments you is also rude.

    I've had numerous guys also read my email and never respond...wtf! It was a compliment, is it that hard to just take a moment and say thanks? Who knows, you might actually make a friend, oh wait, that's it, maybe the person isn't as hot as you so therefore it would be lowering your standards to acknowledge their presence. I see...... it definitely says a lot about the person now doesn't it?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 18, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    I wasn't sure if you meant here on RJ ... online in general or the public these days in general.

    I would agree on all counts, but not always. I live by a creed based on my parent's and their teachings. I always am very polite when it comes to basics.. holding the door open for the person behind you, polite behavior routinely on the phone, the basics of polite driving (well I try, sometimes it can be challenging...lol). Always interesting when you hold the door for somebody and they don't say thanks....
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    Mar 18, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    CONVERSATION BETWEEN MY FRIENDS AND I
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    ill ignore the message instead of telling him no thanks because hes gonna ask me why and i dont want to answer that

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