My Father Passed Away

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    Mar 18, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    My father died tragically in a house fire yesterday. I had just convinced him to move to an assisted living facility in Florida near my brothers and sisters. He was flying out in two weeks. Needless to say, I am stunned.

    I am having hard time understanding why this happened, and my heart is very heavy right now, but I know life will go on.

    I am now in the midst of making arrangements for his funeral, and sifting through the debris to locate financial information. Unfortunately, my family is not here yet, and so I am left with making the arrangements myself.

    I saw another post requesting information on music for someone who passed away, and I was wondering if anyone had music suggestion for spanish music that could be used in a video montage at the funeral.



  • Csrobbie2000

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    Mar 18, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you and your family will find the strength to go through this difficult time!
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    im so sorry to hear about your dad. i worry about what it will feel like to lose my parents in the future ... I'm an only child ... and when they pass ... nobody other than me, will ever know what it was like to have them as parents. i want to have a family of my own ... but nothing is guaranteed. i send u my regards and condolences ... lots of love man. you'll get through this.
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your dad. My mother passed away last Monday. there is a lot of planning, but in the end I think the best thing is to use the time to remember your father. We did a slide show and had some of her favorite music playing. She was active in the theater, so we skipped the viewing and had a reception at the theater she work with. My mom was unorthodox, so we kept it upbeat. Everything suited her.

    I'm told the hard parts come after the planning is done and the flowers are dead. I'm flying back to Dallas after spending an emotional week with family. I don't have any advice for you other than to do what you need to do to honor your family. Death brings a lot of pomp and circumstance, but in the end its your memory and your father.

    Be well and if you ever need a sanity check send me a note.
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    Deepest condolences to you. Yesterday was my father's birthday, who passed away a couple years ago. I still carry his memory with me frequently. I'm sorry I am not familiar with any spanish music that would be appropriate. Perhaps the funeral director would have some suggestions? take care and be gentle with yourself - you tried to get him into a better living situation, but ultimately, you also allowed him to live his life in the manner which gave him the level of dignity and independance he valued.
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    OMG, I'm sooooooo sorry. My thought and prayers are with you and your family. I'm sure many here will be thinking and praying for you and you always have a place to come if you need to talk, cry and just get angry for what you're enduring. Hang in there!
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    I am so sorry to hear that,i dont know what to say
    Hang in there buddy we are all with you
  • misternick

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    Mar 18, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    I'm sorry for your loss, creyente.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Mar 18, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 18, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
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  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    Mar 18, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    I am so sorry to hear about your father icon_sad.gif I hope everything works out and gets better for you. As far as music goes, I don't really know what kind of songs would be appropriate; perhaps in the arms of an angel by Sarah Mcglaughlin
  • CAtoFL

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    Mar 18, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    Very sad to hear about your loss.
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    Mar 18, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Thank you all for your kind words.

    I have a lot on my plate right now, with the funeral and the aftermath of the fire so please forgive me for not responding quickly to your posts and the wonderful emails.

    However, please know that I am reading everything, and they are absolutely helping me get through this.


    Thank you all for being so kind.
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    Mar 18, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    I am very sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my mother in 1992, and I can confirm that it is after the services that you will actually feel the full weight of it all.

    Like you, I know I will focus on the great memories to get me through this. Please feel free to drop a line anytime if you need to talk.


    Bens77 saidSorry to hear about your dad. My mother passed away last Monday. there is a lot of planning, but in the end I think the best thing is to use the time to remember your father. We did a slide show and had some of her favorite music playing. She was active in the theater, so we skipped the viewing and had a reception at the theater she work with. My mom was unorthodox, so we kept it upbeat. Everything suited her.

    I'm told the hard parts come after the planning is done and the flowers are dead. I'm flying back to Dallas after spending an emotional week with family. I don't have any advice for you other than to do what you need to do to honor your family. Death brings a lot of pomp and circumstance, but in the end its your memory and your father.

    Be well and if you ever need a sanity check send me a note.
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    Mar 18, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    Great suggestion. Thank you very much for that, and for sharing your father's story.


    xysx saidDeepest condolences to you. Yesterday was my father's birthday, who passed away a couple years ago. I still carry his memory with me frequently. I'm sorry I am not familiar with any spanish music that would be appropriate. Perhaps the funeral director would have some suggestions? take care and be gentle with yourself - you tried to get him into a better living situation, but ultimately, you also allowed him to live his life in the manner which gave him the level of dignity and independance he valued.
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    Mar 18, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.

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    Mar 18, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    I know this isn't a Spanish song but it's a beautiful song I wish I had played at my mother's funeral. I'll share it in case you find it appealing:

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    Mar 18, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    Thank you very much.

    Just remember to tell them how much you love them while they are here to appreciate it.

    Good luck on getting the family you are hoping for.

    xRugged26 saidim so sorry to hear about your dad. i worry about what it will feel like to lose my parents in the future ... I'm an only child ... and when they pass ... nobody other than me, will ever know what it was like to have them as parents. i want to have a family of my own ... but nothing is guaranteed. i send u my regards and condolences ... lots of love man. you'll get through this.
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    Mar 18, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Thank you.
    Csrobbie2000 saidI'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you and your family will find the strength to go through this difficult time!
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    Mar 18, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. It seems like you had many days that you planned to spend with your dad. I'm so sorry it was cut short. Perhaps remembering to relish the time you had with him and the memories you had together will help heal the hurt, in time.

    This song helped me when I lost my grandmother last year, who I was so close with.....



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    Mar 18, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    Thank you.

    Very nice song.
    eb925guy saidI know this isn't a Spanish song but it's a beautiful song I wish I had played at my mother's funeral. I'll share it in case you find it appealing:

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    Mar 18, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    I am so sorry to hear about your Father. I thought one day when my Mother passes I will play 'Kind and Generous' by Natalie Merchant.



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    Mar 18, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    OMG that is such horrible news. I'm so sorry it happened. My condolences are with you.


    Lyric of thing song might make you cry icon_neutral.gif

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    Mar 18, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    Wow, so terribly sorry for your Dad's passing. I can only imagine the pain
    with something so tragic. My prayers and thoughts will certainly be with you. So very sorry!

    Chris
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    Mar 18, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    *digital hug*