disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.
and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...
Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.
I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."
See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.
I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.
Glad that we are different.
Ok this type of thinking is a no no....It really gives into paranoia and definitely backfires in your face.
Every single person whether or not they are attached will look at another person. Its plain and simple and grounded to the human biology.
Dumping on the grounds because "he looked at another mans ass" is grossly out of line. You're still young and the notion that once you're with someone, all eyes are on you is quite folly.
So mister it'll never be that perfect and if you keep up with this antic, people will question your ability to commit because you have this fixation of your other partner being unfaithful for trivial things.
And to tell another person that he isn't strict about his relationship standards is outta line.
Partners should be able to be open to discuss someone's physical attributes that they found interesting. HOWEVER, it also necessary to reassure the partner that he /she chose you because they had something else which made them to pair up.
@ the OP
Its natural to feel the need to kiss another boy because t it is simply based on sole sexual urges and not the urges to actually go out with that person.
Lust and Love are two different things. Lust tends to get you into trouble though
Talk to your partner. You need to gauge his comfort on this urge you're feeling. If he alright with it then by all means go and joy. BUT it is your responsibility to tell the other person that you're already in a committed relationship and should not go on beyond that. Now since all this will be at a club, I'm pretty sure guys wouldn't mind the commitment aspect because all they want to do is give into lust and kiss another guy.
In the end...Talk to your partner.. Communication is key. Being in a long term relationship requires constant maintenance and so it seems that your queue has come.