Wanting to pick up other guys

  • anysound

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    Mar 18, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    My bf and I have been together for about a year.
    We both love each other a lot. He has become my best friend.
    I recently went away for two weeks and we MISSED each other heaps.
    Since I've been back we've been inseparable.

    However, I'm finding that sometimes I just wanna hit the clubs get drunk and make out with a new boy.

    Why do I have these feelings?
    I have no intention of cheating but seeing a hot guy gets me all excited.
    Are these feelings normal - whst should I do.
    We are both 22 years old.
  • misternick

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    Mar 18, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Sounds like perfectly normal urges for a twenty-two year old guy. Doesn't mean anything bad. It's up to you and your boyfriend to set the rules, though. If there's no playing outside the relationship, then you decide if you're going to cross that line or not.

    Talk to him about it. If wandering eyes are a deal breaker for him, you decide if you want to stay in that situation or get out.

    If you want the relationship to work, it's going to take honesty, communication and trust. And you have to play by the rules. Don't expect him to live up to any standard that you're not willing to meet yourself.

    Vanilla, I know, but I believe it.
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Ive been meeting alot of couples who are into open relatuonships.
    It may or may not work with you guys, but you should definitely talk it over and be honest about it.
    Play fair and play safe.
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    Mar 18, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    Most guys are going to notice other good looking guys even if they are in a committed relationship and have no intentions of straying. The temptation is going to be there but that doesn't mean you have to act on it. And I agree that it is critical that you and your guy talk about whether the two of you are going to be exclusive or if you have an open relationship.
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    Mar 18, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    anysound saidMy bf and I have been together for about a year.
    We both love each other a lot. He has become my best friend.
    I recently went away for two weeks and we MISSED each other heaps.
    Since I've been back we've been inseparable.

    However, I'm finding that sometimes I just wanna hit the clubs get drunk and make out with a new boy.

    Why do I have these feelings?
    I have no intention of cheating but seeing a hot guy gets me all excited.
    Are these feelings normal - whst should I do.
    We are both 22 years old.


    I think the problem is with you (my opinion only).

    You should see your bf as a "hot guy"... your bf should be the one you get these urges for (as to you, he should be hot in personality and in looks or you wouldn't be with him in the first place... I mean, everyone has their own view of what is hot and what isn't, but I am assuming since YOU went into a relationship with him, you had at some point felt that away about him)...

    ultimataly, if you can't control them then... it is your fault (can't blame others for your actions).
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    Mar 18, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
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    anysound saidMy bf and I have been together for about a year.
    We both love each other a lot. He has become my best friend.
    I recently went away for two weeks and we MISSED each other heaps.
    Since I've been back we've been inseparable.

    However, I'm finding that sometimes I just wanna hit the clubs get drunk and make out with a new boy.

    Why do I have these feelings?
    I have no intention of cheating but seeing a hot guy gets me all excited.
    Are these feelings normal - whst should I do.
    We are both 22 years old.


    problem is with you.

    You should see your bf as a "hot guy"... your bf should be the one you get these urges for (as to you, he should be hot in personality and in looks or you wouldn't be with him in the first place... I mean, everyone has their own view of what is hot and what isn't, but I am assuming since YOU went into a relationship with him, you had at some point felt that away about him)...

    ultimataly, if you can't control them then... it is your fault.


    I disagree with you wholeheartedly and personally I find the tone of your post way off base, the urge to always "window shop" is there, for guys for guys for anyone, its a natural thing. What you need to learn is the golden rule, "Look, but do not touch."
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    Mar 18, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    Monogamous relationships have way more functional
    meaning in a heterosexual relationship than a gay one. Are you copying
    Heterosexual behavior for a reason?
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    Mar 18, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ said
    problem is with you.

    it is your fault.
    Sure is! read all the other threads this poster started.. Definitely tells the story!
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    Mar 18, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    graniteknighte said
    _Mohammed_ said
    anysound saidMy bf and I have been together for about a year.
    We both love each other a lot. He has become my best friend.
    I recently went away for two weeks and we MISSED each other heaps.
    Since I've been back we've been inseparable.

    However, I'm finding that sometimes I just wanna hit the clubs get drunk and make out with a new boy.

    Why do I have these feelings?
    I have no intention of cheating but seeing a hot guy gets me all excited.
    Are these feelings normal - whst should I do.
    We are both 22 years old.


    problem is with you.

    You should see your bf as a "hot guy"... your bf should be the one you get these urges for (as to you, he should be hot in personality and in looks or you wouldn't be with him in the first place... I mean, everyone has their own view of what is hot and what isn't, but I am assuming since YOU went into a relationship with him, you had at some point felt that away about him)...

    ultimataly, if you can't control them then... it is your fault.


    I disagree with you wholeheartedly and personally I find the tone of your post way off base, the urge to always "window shop" is there, for guys for guys for anyone, its a natural thing. What you need to learn is the golden rule, "Look, but do not touch."


    disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.

    and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...

    Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.

    I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."

    See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.

    I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.

    Glad that we are different.
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    Mar 18, 2011 8:39 PM GMT
    You see, I am less controlling, less jealous then you seem to be. Rein it in boy, Control Freaks are bad for relationships.
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    Mar 18, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    graniteknighte saidYou see, I am less controlling, less jealous then you seem to be. Rein it in boy, Control Freaks are bad for relationships.



    Control is necessary in relationships.... in MONOGAMOUS ones that is.

    Unfortunate how you think this is jealousy...

    It is called being LOYAL to your partner.

    Loyalty and jealousy are two completely different things, but it seems that you like to fuck any man you see by what you just stated.

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    Mar 18, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    OK, never had a BF never did anything sexual with a guy, I want too find a very nice guy, I am very attracted to men over 30..is that weird? Not a daddy thing, I have a great dad BUT I want a mature man maybe 25 and older.
    Does a virgin have a chance?
    Does a nerdy, skinny short dude have a chance with a tall, dark haired, hairy masculine man??icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 18, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
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    disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.

    and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...

    Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.

    I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."

    See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.

    I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.

    Glad that we are different.


    Ok this type of thinking is a no no....It really gives into paranoia and definitely backfires in your face.

    Every single person whether or not they are attached will look at another person. Its plain and simple and grounded to the human biology.

    Dumping on the grounds because "he looked at another mans ass" is grossly out of line. You're still young and the notion that once you're with someone, all eyes are on you is quite folly.

    So mister it'll never be that perfect and if you keep up with this antic, people will question your ability to commit because you have this fixation of your other partner being unfaithful for trivial things.

    And to tell another person that he isn't strict about his relationship standards is outta line.


    Partners should be able to be open to discuss someone's physical attributes that they found interesting. HOWEVER, it also necessary to reassure the partner that he /she chose you because they had something else which made them to pair up.

    @ the OP

    Its natural to feel the need to kiss another boy because t it is simply based on sole sexual urges and not the urges to actually go out with that person.
    Lust and Love are two different things. Lust tends to get you into trouble though icon_lol.gif

    Talk to your partner. You need to gauge his comfort on this urge you're feeling. If he alright with it then by all means go and joy. BUT it is your responsibility to tell the other person that you're already in a committed relationship and should not go on beyond that. Now since all this will be at a club, I'm pretty sure guys wouldn't mind the commitment aspect because all they want to do is give into lust and kiss another guy.

    In the end...Talk to your partner.. Communication is key. Being in a long term relationship requires constant maintenance and so it seems that your queue has come.

    Good luck

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    Mar 18, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    BHblondboy saidOK, never had a BF never did anything sexual with a guy, I want too find a very nice guy, I am very attracted to men over 30..is that weird? Not a daddy thing, I have a great dad BUT I want a mature man maybe 25 and older.
    Does a virgin have a chance?
    Does a nerdy, skinny short dude have a chance with a tall, dark haired, hairy masculine man??icon_redface.gif


    Mature does not equal older (just a correction).
    It is perfectly fine for you to have feelings for an older man (everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs)...

    They all have a chance... you just have to be patient.

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    Mar 18, 2011 9:23 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    _Mohammed_ said

    disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.

    and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...

    Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.

    I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."

    See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.

    I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.

    Glad that we are different.


    Ok this type of thinking is a no no....It really gives into paranoia and definitely backfires in your face.

    Every single person whether or not they are attached will look at another person. Its plain and simple and grounded to the human biology.

    Dumping on the grounds because "he looked at another mans ass" is grossly out of line. You're still young and the notion that once you're with someone, all eyes are on you is quite folly.

    So mister it'll never be that perfect and if you keep up with this antic, people will question your ability to commit because you have this fixation of your other partner being unfaithful for trivial things.

    And to tell another person that he isn't strict about his relationship standards is outta line.


    Partners should be able to be open to discuss someone's physical attributes that they found interesting. HOWEVER, it also necessary to reassure the partner that he /she chose you because they had something else which made them to pair up.

    @ the OP

    Its natural to feel the need to kiss another boy because t it is simply based on sole sexual urges and not the urges to actually go out with that person.
    Lust and Love are two different things. Lust tends to get you into trouble though icon_lol.gif

    Talk to your partner. You need to gauge his comfort on this urge you're feeling. If he alright with it then by all means go and joy. BUT it is your responsibility to tell the other person that you're already in a committed relationship and should not go on beyond that. Now since all this will be at a club, I'm pretty sure guys wouldn't mind the commitment aspect because all they want to do is give into lust and kiss another guy.

    In the end...Talk to your partner.. Communication is key. Being in a long term relationship requires constant maintenance and so it seems that your queue has come.

    Good luck



    Who are you to decide what type of thinking is right and wrong?

    Also, how can you prove that it "definitely backfires in your face"...It is unfortunate that it has not worked for you, but it has worked for me. I have went on dates where they transformed into a relationship and I also have been on dates where I stopped interacting with the person after the second date.

    And I disagree completely with saying it is natural to stare at others and therefore it is allowed.

    It is natural to become aggresive towards someone you don't like because of a build up in emotions... does that mean you should do that? NO.

    It is natural to look at a hot person, does that mean you should STARE?
    NO.

    If a person glanced for a split second ok... I might pass that (I MIGHT), but if someone is staring then HELL NO. I will dump your ass on the spot and I have done that before.

    Only people who have questioned my view on a relationship are the people on these forums who believe in an "open" relationship.

    It seems to me that you can't control your desires and lusts. Work on that before you try and challenge my posts.

  • awm55

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    Mar 18, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidMonogamous relationships have way more functional
    meaning in a heterosexual relationship than a gay one. Are you copying
    Heterosexual behavior for a reason?


    This whole criticism of "hetero-normative" behavior by gay men is so pathetic. It is just a cop out so they can justify screwing other people while having the security of a guy to come home to. It almost always leads to jealousy and worries over disease transmission etc.
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    Mar 18, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ said
    Fivealive said
    _Mohammed_ said

    disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.

    and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...

    Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.

    I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."

    See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.

    I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.

    Glad that we are different.


    Ok this type of thinking is a no no....It really gives into paranoia and definitely backfires in your face.

    Every single person whether or not they are attached will look at another person. Its plain and simple and grounded to the human biology.

    Dumping on the grounds because "he looked at another mans ass" is grossly out of line. You're still young and the notion that once you're with someone, all eyes are on you is quite folly.

    So mister it'll never be that perfect and if you keep up with this antic, people will question your ability to commit because you have this fixation of your other partner being unfaithful for trivial things.

    And to tell another person that he isn't strict about his relationship standards is outta line.


    Partners should be able to be open to discuss someone's physical attributes that they found interesting. HOWEVER, it also necessary to reassure the partner that he /she chose you because they had something else which made them to pair up.

    @ the OP

    Its natural to feel the need to kiss another boy because t it is simply based on sole sexual urges and not the urges to actually go out with that person.
    Lust and Love are two different things. Lust tends to get you into trouble though icon_lol.gif

    Talk to your partner. You need to gauge his comfort on this urge you're feeling. If he alright with it then by all means go and joy. BUT it is your responsibility to tell the other person that you're already in a committed relationship and should not go on beyond that. Now since all this will be at a club, I'm pretty sure guys wouldn't mind the commitment aspect because all they want to do is give into lust and kiss another guy.

    In the end...Talk to your partner.. Communication is key. Being in a long term relationship requires constant maintenance and so it seems that your queue has come.

    Good luck



    Who are you to decide what type of thinking is right and wrong?

    Also, how can you prove that it "definitely backfires in your face"...It is unfortunate that it has not worked for you, but it has worked for me. I have went on dates where they transformed into a relationship and I also have been on dates where I stopped interacting with the person after the second date.

    And I disagree completely with saying it is natural to stare at others and therefore it is allowed.

    It is natural to become aggresive towards someone you don't like because of a build up in emotions... does that mean you should do that? NO.

    It is natural to look at a hot person, does that mean you should STARE?
    NO.

    If a person glanced for a split second ok... I might pass that (I MIGHT), but if someone is staring then HELL NO. I will dump your ass on the spot and I have done that before.

    Only people who have questioned my view on a relationship are the people on these forums who believe in an "open" relationship.

    It seems to me that you can't control your desires and lusts. Work on that before you try and challenge my posts.



    I am neither in favor or not in favor of having Monogamy in relationships, to this point it really doesn't concern me yet, yes if you are with me hell no you will not cheat on me with another guy, but say you just see a hot guy and point him out to me so we can stare together(how its happened with my ex and I) I am fine with that... it's natural human curiosity at play.

    Dude, look at your words, step back and look at them. You are seriously high up there on the Stalin-Paranoia Meter, so your bf stares, do something about it. don't freak out and dump him. that's just a massive showing of insecurity and fear on your part. To be perfectly frank, you should seek professional help about your insecurity and paranoia issues, you are not ready for a real relationship with anyone until you can control your urge to micromanage every aspect of your partner's life. (who they stare at f.e.)
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    Mar 18, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
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    Who are you to decide what type of thinking is right and wrong?

    Also, how can you prove that it "definitely backfires in your face"...It is unfortunate that it has not worked for you, but it has worked for me. I have went on dates where they transformed into a relationship and I also have been on dates where I stopped interacting with the person after the second date.

    And I disagree completely with saying it is natural to stare at others and therefore it is allowed.

    It is natural to become aggresive towards someone you don't like because of a build up in emotions... does that mean you should do that? NO.

    It is natural to look at a hot person, does that mean you should STARE?
    NO.

    If a person glanced for a split second ok... I might pass that (I MIGHT), but if someone is staring then HELL NO. I will dump your ass on the spot and I have done that before.

    Only people who have questioned my view on a relationship are the people on these forums who believe in an "open" relationship.

    It seems to me that you can't control your desires and lusts. Work on that before you try and challenge my posts.



    Yes I have every right to challenge your post. Kid you're cute but don't try condemn the OP who asked an innocent query. He is happy in the relationship and its just the urges he feels.Whether he communicates with his partner is his responsibility. The 'Open Relationship' option is merely what it is . And besides you making a hard line stance about something which truly arbitrarily.

    I can say whats right and wrong because I do have my share experiences to make the opinion I made earlier. I have nothing to ashamed about if prior dates didn't work out. It simply means the interest level wasn't even.

    And its good that your experience turn out to be good. But your attitude with the OP and other people who commented here, stinks.

    My desires and lust are quite in check thank you. I am secured in being single and yes have been days of wanting to be in a relationship....But I know I have my work duties which keeps me occupied so I've accepted it. Plus I have a nice circle of friends to hang out with so that desire to be ina relationship isn't there.

    NOBODY implied downright LUST STARING in a creepy manner. Now that's rude.If your partner is ignoring you because of that and not just at clubs. You may dump his ass.


    So chill out. I certainly am chilled. I think once I return I'll ask you out on a date. icon_smile.gif

    Take care buddy


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    graniteknighte said
    _Mohammed_ said
    Fivealive said
    _Mohammed_ said

    disagreeing with me doesn't make me wrong I hope you know that.

    and the golden rule is not "look, but do not touch", it is "Treat others the way you want to be treated"...

    Looking at someone and fantasizing about someone while in a relationship with another person is destroying the integrity of the relationship.

    I sure as hell know that if my spouse was fantasizing about someone else, I would dump his ass and tell him... "since you think about him so much, go get him boy..."

    See, if I am going to a party with my bf and I see him staring at a man's ass, then it's over.

    I am strict about certain things when it comes to a relationship, you aren't.

    Glad that we are different.


    Ok this type of thinking is a no no....It really gives into paranoia and definitely backfires in your face.

    Every single person whether or not they are attached will look at another person. Its plain and simple and grounded to the human biology.

    Dumping on the grounds because "he looked at another mans ass" is grossly out of line. You're still young and the notion that once you're with someone, all eyes are on you is quite folly.

    So mister it'll never be that perfect and if you keep up with this antic, people will question your ability to commit because you have this fixation of your other partner being unfaithful for trivial things.

    And to tell another person that he isn't strict about his relationship standards is outta line.


    Partners should be able to be open to discuss someone's physical attributes that they found interesting. HOWEVER, it also necessary to reassure the partner that he /she chose you because they had something else which made them to pair up.

    @ the OP

    Its natural to feel the need to kiss another boy because t it is simply based on sole sexual urges and not the urges to actually go out with that person.
    Lust and Love are two different things. Lust tends to get you into trouble though icon_lol.gif

    Talk to your partner. You need to gauge his comfort on this urge you're feeling. If he alright with it then by all means go and joy. BUT it is your responsibility to tell the other person that you're already in a committed relationship and should not go on beyond that. Now since all this will be at a club, I'm pretty sure guys wouldn't mind the commitment aspect because all they want to do is give into lust and kiss another guy.

    In the end...Talk to your partner.. Communication is key. Being in a long term relationship requires constant maintenance and so it seems that your queue has come.

    Good luck



    Who are you to decide what type of thinking is right and wrong?

    Also, how can you prove that it "definitely backfires in your face"...It is unfortunate that it has not worked for you, but it has worked for me. I have went on dates where they transformed into a relationship and I also have been on dates where I stopped interacting with the person after the second date.

    And I disagree completely with saying it is natural to stare at others and therefore it is allowed.

    It is natural to become aggresive towards someone you don't like because of a build up in emotions... does that mean you should do that? NO.

    It is natural to look at a hot person, does that mean you should STARE?
    NO.

    If a person glanced for a split second ok... I might pass that (I MIGHT), but if someone is staring then HELL NO. I will dump your ass on the spot and I have done that before.

    Only people who have questioned my view on a relationship are the people on these forums who believe in an "open" relationship.

    It seems to me that you can't control your desires and lusts. Work on that before you try and challenge my posts.



    I am neither in favor or not in favor of having Monogamy in relationships, to this point it really doesn't concern me yet, yes if you are with me hell no you will not cheat on me with another guy, but say you just see a hot guy and point him out to me so we can stare together(how its happened with my ex and I) I am fine with that... it's natural human curiosity at play.

    Dude, look at your words, step back and look at them. You are seriously high up there on the Stalin-Paranoia Meter, so your bf stares, do something about it. don't freak out and dump him. that's just a massive showing of insecurity and fear on your part. To be perfectly frank, you should seek professional help about your insecurity and paranoia issues, you are not ready for a real relationship with anyone until you can control your urge to micromanage every aspect of your partner's life. (who they stare at f.e.)



    You should look at your own words before you hit that enter button. You said "so your bf stares, do something about it"...newsflash: dumping him is doing something.

    Also, I am ready for a real relationship... wait... I have BEEN IN ONE actually.

    People have something called a personality and an outlook on life. Micromanaging is important because if you leave multiple little things alone, you will allow time for them to grow and then it will be a case of MACROMANAGING.

    You need to stop thinking only about what is happening in the present and say to yourself "what will happen if I let this go...", "what will happen if I encourage this type of behaviour"...

    I don't know where you come from, but from where I come from, relationships under some sort of control last MUCH LONGER than relationships without.

    Example: My parents.

    case closed.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 18, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    Those feelings are normal but remember its ok to look but its never ok to do more
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    Mar 18, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    Fivealive said

    Yes I have every right to challenge your post. Kid you're cute but don't try condemn the OP who asked an innocent query. He is happy in the relationship and its just the urges he feels.Whether he communicates with his partner is his responsibility. The 'Open Relationship' option is merely what it is . And besides you making a hard line stance about something which truly arbitrarily.

    I can say whats right and wrong because I do have my share experiences to make the opinion I made earlier. I have nothing to ashamed about if prior dates didn't work out. It simply means the interest level wasn't even.

    And its good that your experience turn out to be good. But your attitude with the OP and other people who commented here, stinks.

    My desires and lust are quite in check thank you. I am secured in being single and yes have been days of wanting to be in a relationship....But I know I have my work duties which keeps me occupied so I've accepted it. Plus I have a nice circle of friends to hang out with so that desire to be ina relationship isn't there.

    NOBODY implied downright LUST STARING in a creepy manner. Now that's rude.If your partner is ignoring you because of that and not just at clubs. You may dump his ass.


    So chill out. I certainly am chilled. I think once I return I'll ask you out on a date. icon_smile.gif

    Take care buddy




    Just how you can say what is right and wrong (from your view), so can I.

    There are some people in this thread that think staring at someone is okay while being in a relationship.

    I don't see how you can say "NOBODY implied downright LUST STARING..."

    And telling me "I may dump his ass..." are you f*cking kidding me?
    Who are you to tell me what I may or may not do?

    I already stated I DO IN FACT dump men that can't control their dicks.

    Yes, that means it narrows down the amount of guys I will date (because 8/10 men CAN'T control their dicks).

    But I am content with that. It seems that I am still able to find those 2/10 men.

    Which is a nice thing to know.
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    Mar 18, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    You say you have no intention of cheating. If so, you're fine icon_smile.gif It's natural. Just don't act on those feelings at your bf's back.
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    Mar 19, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    It's OK to look, but not touch, if you're in an exclusive, monogamous relationship. It's normal to be attracted to other people--that doesn't mean you're cheating. Now, if you want to touch or contemplating touching or doing something else, that's a bit more complicated. In that case, you need to engage your boyfriend in a frank and honest discussion.
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    Mar 19, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    anysound saidMy bf and I have been together for about a year.
    We both love each other a lot. He has become my best friend.
    I recently went away for two weeks and we MISSED each other heaps.
    Since I've been back we've been inseparable.

    However, I'm finding that sometimes I just wanna hit the clubs get drunk and make out with a new boy.

    Why do I have these feelings?
    I have no intention of cheating but seeing a hot guy gets me all excited.
    Are these feelings normal - whst should I do.
    We are both 22 years old.

    Yeah´╝îI had this feeling too,we are humans.
    But you must restrain yourself.Think about you guys in the happy time.
  • charlieviiper...

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    Mar 19, 2011 9:51 AM GMT
    No judgement, but you guys were only away from each other for two weeks.

    Despite it seeming like a long time, in reality, it really isn't.

    Perhaps you guys are both in a very codependent relationship and this given you urges to try something new?