Meeting gay guys at a gay-friendly gym?

  • Jimmy201001

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    Mar 19, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    I was just wondering if any of you had made good friends from people at your local gym? I have a good social network where I live (central London) but sadly most of my friends lead very hectic lives (working long hours, going out of the country etc.) so it's hard to spend much time with them. I've only lived here since the summer of last year. They're great people but I just know that if ever I decide to text or message them 90% of the time they'll be busy working or studying so I hardly even bother anymore. It's quite frustrating.

    I'm just trying to find new ways of expanding my social network but I'm not looking for anyone to 'pick up' in a bar or sauna. I'm already seeing a guy but he's not that much into clubbing (which I am) and it's not really a problem.

    However, I just wish I had a group of gay male friends whom I could arrange to go out with on a regular basis (as I said, most of the people I know here appear to be workaholics!). I recently joined a new gym which has a large gay clientele and a lot of the guys appeared to know one another. I genuinely want to become fitter and more athletic but it's hard work doing it on your own.
    I've tried socieities and clubs but they tend to be more sports related (like running or karate) and I'm not really interested in that.
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    Mar 19, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    I've met lots of great guys at my gay gym.
    Of course, my gay gym is located where my living room is supposed to be, so that kinda makes it easy. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 19, 2011 9:23 AM GMT
    I haven't met any new gay guys directly at my Golds Gym in San Francisco which is very gay! I met one that I had chatted with before on a gay site once, and I have met guys through other friends at the gym. But never met a cold contact there.

    Last week I shared a cable station with a guy, we chatted just a bit about the routines we were doing. When we were done I put out my hand and said I'm John. He took it and gave me his name and then rushed away like I had given him the plague. I wasn't even interested in him sexually, I was just being friendly. But damn it's hard to meet new people at the gym!
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    Mar 19, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    My new gym is a gay gym in hope of making new gay networking!!! So far,after a week, its not happening! I feel like a creep if Im going to talk to someone. PLus, the gym is kinda really gay icon_confused.gif
  • tazzari

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    Mar 19, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
    I'd say about half of my friends are gay. They way I met them was networking and being out, and one acquaintance led to another: friends of friends, friends' partners, etc. I never met anyone through things like the gym or team, though several friends have come through being out in my work and life in general. it takes time, but one or two friends will lead to more, if you're open to it.

    Good luck!
  • Jimmy201001

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    Mar 20, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    I just wish I had a group of friends that I could rely on for going out during the weekends, as I do really enjoy the clubbing scene. I live with flatmates (who are also gay) but they don't really enjoy the 'scene' that much. I just find myself so bored, which sounds ridiculous in a place like London. I'm just fed up of having to work a lot and keep myself occupied to forget the fact that I'm on my own most of the time (even living with 5 other people!).