Needy BF advice

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    Mar 19, 2011 11:42 AM GMT
    So what do you do if you bf grows a vagina. I know that may sound harsh but everything just makes him sulk and he has burst of sadness. It is just like the new Kesha song "Grow a pear". Any advice guys?
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    Mar 19, 2011 11:52 AM GMT
    Well first off ask him whats on his mind and if he's not willing to divulge, u just act normal around him.
    If he gets all pissy then you need to tell him that you don't want to tolerate a sulking behavior with out reason to do so.
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    Mar 19, 2011 11:54 AM GMT
    I have done the later of the two, and he just gets more sulky. Dont think it is going to last much longer.
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    Mar 19, 2011 12:30 PM GMT
    Maybe you should then have some time apart from him. Tell him to sort things out and then try to reconcile at a later date.
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    Mar 19, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    I would love him even more.
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    Mar 19, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    New_brand saidI have done the later of the two, and he just gets more sulky. Dont think it is going to last much longer.


    Grow some balls! you're in a relationship and if committed... Own it! Be supportive and wrk thru the obstacles u find urself presented with. After all his issue could be w/ youicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 19, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    Do u know why he feels like that.

    Ps: how old is he
  • macguyver32

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    Mar 19, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    Communication. Welcome to a relationship. You must both be willing to talk about each other's feelings on stuff. I would say he is being sulky around around you because he wants you to find out why. He wants to you to react. Show some interest in his problems. Offer compassion and empathize with him. Show support and love etc.

    Some may say that it's all his fault but maybe its your fault or both of your faults. That is some of the work you will have to do together.

    BTW some men have vaginas. I've known lots. That's just their personality. Sometimes it annoys the shit out of me and sometimes I just ignore it. Depends on the person and what they are boobing about.
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    Mar 19, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI would love him even more.



    Wow this is the nicest thing i've come across today! yay for you
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    Mar 19, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    macguyver32 saidCommunication. Welcome to a relationship. You must both be willing to talk about each other's feelings on stuff. I would say he is being sulky around around you because he wants you to find out why. He wants to you to react. Show some interest in his problems. Offer compassion and empathize with him. Show support and love etc.

    Some may say that it's all his fault but maybe its your fault or both of your faults. That is some of the work you will have to do together.


    I agree, this is what happens in relationships. Communications is the key. Find a nice quiet time and talk to him. Don't get mad at ANYTHING he says or he'll just shut down on you. Find out what's bothering him. It might be you or something you do or it might be something totally different. If it's not something he'll share, talk to him about seeing someone he can open up to (ie: therapist). Don't get pissed and upset, that accomplishes nothing but worsen the problem. Clearly there's something going on with your bf, this is not the time to tear down the relationship but the opportunity to be supportive and build an even better and stronger relationship.

    good luck.
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    Mar 19, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    DOMINUS saidI would love him even more.

    Wow this is the nicest thing i've come across today! yay for you


    Yes it is!
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    Mar 19, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
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    macguyver32 saidCommunication. Welcome to a relationship. You must both be willing to talk about each other's feelings on stuff. I would say he is being sulky around around you because he wants you to find out why. He wants to you to react. Show some interest in his problems. Offer compassion and empathize with him. Show support and love etc.

    Some may say that it's all his fault but maybe its your fault or both of your faults. That is some of the work you will have to do together.


    I agree, this is what happens in relationships. Communications is the key. Find a nice quiet time and talk to him. Don't get mad at ANYTHING he says or he'll just shut down on you. Find out what's bothering him. It might be you or something you do or it might be something totally different. If it's not something he'll share, talk to him about seeing someone he can open up to (ie: therapist). Don't get pissed and upset, that accomplishes nothing but worsen the problem. Clearly there's something going on with your bf, this is not the time to tear down the relationship but the opportunity to be supportive and build an even better and stronger relationship.

    good luck.



    Shit, another awesome post. The OP just needs to be supportive and be a true lover.
  • needleninja

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    Mar 19, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    simple. :3
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    Mar 19, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    New_brand saidSo what do you do if you bf grows a vagina. I know that may sound harsh but everything just makes him sulk and he has burst of sadness. It is just like the new Kesha song "Grow a pear". Any advice guys?


    Lol, grow a "pear". Make a fruit smoothie.
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    Mar 19, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Decide for yourself whether the good outweighs the bad. If the bad outweighs the good, dump him. Don't try to change him--it won't work.
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    Mar 19, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    New_brand said.... It is just like the new Kesha song "Grow a pear". Any advice guys?
    Yeah, eat his pear.

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    Mar 19, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    New_brand saidSo what do you do if you bf grows a vagina. I know that may sound harsh but everything just makes him sulk and he has burst of sadness. It is just like the new Kesha song "Grow a pear". Any advice guys?

    Yes. Stop being a jackass.


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    Mar 19, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Abilify....???
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    Mar 19, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    What do you mean by sulk?

    Does he walk in the room with the worst pout in the world on and then when you ask him what's wrong he screams NOTHING and proceeds to run out of the room with his arms flailing?

    Or does he look down and when you ask what's wrong he replies, "It's nothing. Don't worry about it," and then he goes about his business?

    If the prior, dump his ass. If the latter, it's you who has the problem.
  • rioriz

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    Mar 19, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    I think it would be helpful to know what he is sulking about in order to give advice. If it is something menial then you have a point. If it is something important then you may need to be more understanding and empathetic.