How promiscuous is considered as "Promiscuous"

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    Mar 21, 2011 1:47 AM GMT
    I know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    There's no such thing as promiscuity in the gay world.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    I think also depends on if you're living in the city or in suburbs. In the city there's more chance to hook up I suppose.

    Also with your other comment...yeah I wouldn't date them either. Actually it's just two of my friends. I think I am more on the prudish side (dry spell all year long, lol)
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    Cityaznguy said
    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    I think also depends on if you're living in the city or in suburbs. In the city there's more chance to hook up I suppose.


    yeah but with gay guys you actively have to search for it. you don't get with a new guy every 10 days because you just happen to stumble upon them. you are either picking up guys at bars or using hook up sites constantly.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    But what if it's the same three or four guys?

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    Mar 21, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
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    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    But what if it's the same three or four guys?



    So you mean the same guys over over and over again? Then it's just fuck buddies that you have sex with on regular basis I guess. I'm not sure if that is promiscuous though. What do you guys on the forum think?
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
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    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    But what if it's the same three or four guys?



    Well, at least in my opinion alternatively sleeping with 4 guys at the same time is a bit excessive and not I certainly would not date a guy who was juggling 4 people at the same time.

    But yeah, I do see your point.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    I feel like if your safe and doing it (or not doing it)because you want to, then it doesn't matter. Some people like being in a committed relationship first and some people do a few guys a month. The only problem is when guys from both ends of the spectrum look down on eachother. What works for you may not work for them and vis versa.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    In my opinion if your sexual number exceeds your age then I'd personally would consider you promiscuous. Just my belief not for others
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
    Lifefighter saidIn my opinion if your sexual number exceeds your age then I'd personally would consider you promiscuous. Just my belief not for others


    yeah, i think this is pretty fair.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
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    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    But what if it's the same three or four guys?



    Well, at least in my opinion alternatively sleeping with 4 guys at the same time is a bit excessive and not I certainly would not date a guy who was juggling 4 people at the same time.

    But yeah, I do see your point.


    I agree with amw55. But I mean, being promiscuous is not a bad thing necessarily though. Its everyone's own choice. So if you don't consider it a bad thing, then it isn't. I consider someone promiscuous when you sleep around with multiple people with no feelings attached.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    Oh absolutely! I did not intend this to be a judgemental post. People definitely have their slutty phase and they would also have prudish phase. The most important thing is for guys to have fun and do whatever that makes them happy...without putting others or themselves to significant risk, of course.

    I liked the # people and age thing! Very easy to remember!! If that's the case then I am def not promiscuous. ***sigh of relief**
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    KSUOWL said
    awm55 said
    DJdorchester said
    awm55 said
    Cityaznguy saidI know the the topic is kind of circular but it's been something I've been wanting to ask you guys. What do you think qualifies as a prude and what do you think qualifies as more o the promiscuous side?

    I once read that a gay men, like straight guy, would feel lucky if he has a date on a Friday/Saturday night. Then I have talked to my friends and they seem to be hooking up left and right, weekends weekdays middays at lunchbreak, etc. I would just ask your opinions how promiscuous is Promiscuous with a capital "P".

    My opinion, for a single gay guy, I guess more than 2-3 guys a month is considered standard. Less than that is kinda on dry spell side and if you're having sex with more than 10 guys a month that's a bit slutty.

    What are your opinions?


    2-3 guys a month is close to 30 guys every year. contrary to popular belief, most gay guys are not cruising for sex at every waking minute. maybe your friends do, but that is their prerogative and I wouldn't date them.


    But what if it's the same three or four guys?



    Well, at least in my opinion alternatively sleeping with 4 guys at the same time is a bit excessive and not I certainly would not date a guy who was juggling 4 people at the same time.

    But yeah, I do see your point.


    I agree with amw55. But I mean, being promiscuous is not a bad thing necessarily though. Its everyone's own choice. So if you don't consider it a bad thing, then it isn't. I consider someone promiscuous when you sleep around with multiple people with no feelings attached.


    Yeah, if people want to be promiscuous that is their prerogative and I certainly would not let that effect my friendship with them, but I would never consider them dating material though.
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    Mar 21, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    awm55 saidYeah, if people want to be promiscuous that is their prerogative and I certainly would not let that effect my friendship with them, but I would never consider them dating material though.


    I feel the exact same way
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    There are no sluts or whores in the gay world just guys who like to spread the love.
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Simon78928 saidThere are no sluts or whores in the gay world just guys who like to spread the love.


    Well that is what promiscuous guys like to think at least. lol
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
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    Simon78928 saidThere are no sluts or whores in the gay world just guys who like to spread the love.


    Well that is what promiscuous guys like to think at least. lol


    geez, awm55, no one is asking to date any of the guys. Judging much? you kept brining "Oh, I wouldn't date them" Guess What? No one is asking you date them.

    It's like saying "Oh, I don't have racial discrimination but I'd be careful if a shady black guy walk past me."

    Another thing, it's funny how the same people kept on commenting on the same thread over and over again.

    Last thing, so if you are 50, you can sleep with 50 different guys/year and you wouldn't be judged compared to a 20 years old guy sleeping with 20 guys? Geez, I can't wait to be 50 so that I won't be judged! (sarcasm)


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    Mar 21, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
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    awm55 said
    Simon78928 saidThere are no sluts or whores in the gay world just guys who like to spread the love.


    Well that is what promiscuous guys like to think at least. lol


    geez, awm55, no one is asking to date any of the guys. Judging much? you kept brining "Oh, I wouldn't date them" Guess What? No one is asking you date them.

    It's like saying "Oh, I don't have racial discrimination but I'd be careful if a shady black guy walk past me."

    Another thing, it's funny how the same people kept on commenting on the same thread over and over again.

    Last thing, so if you are 50, you can sleep with 50 different guys/year and you wouldn't be judged compared to a 20 years old guy sleeping with 20 guys? Geez, I can't wait to be 50 so that I won't be judged! (sarcasm)




    What? I don't think me stating that I would not date a hyper promiscuous guy is that judgmental at all. If anything, its more common sense from a health and dating perspective.
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidThe thing for me is I'm more looking for something that might lead to a relationship (only in that the possibility has to exist in order for me to want to bag a guy)...I can't see a guy who's averaging 3 *different* guys a week suddenly shifting gears and thinking longterm 'cos o' lil' ol' me, lol.

    And as for the age:partners criteria...I've chosen to be abstenant for 24yrs, but I would still be promiscuous by that standard, lol. The 80's were fucked up, man. icon_lol.gif


    This is my point, its like people ignore the fact that promiscuity says something about the person from a dating and relationship standpoint. If I am looking for a guy to date exclusively, I don't think the guy who goes to gay saunas and hookups with 3 different guys a month is the greatest idea. If this makes me judgmental, then I am fine with that. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 21, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidThe thing for me is I'm more looking for something that might lead to a relationship (only in that the possibility has to exist in order for me to want to bag a guy)...I can't see a guy who's averaging 3 *different* guys a week suddenly shifting gears and thinking longterm 'cos o' lil' ol' me, lol.

    And as for the age:partners criteria...I've chosen to be abstinent for 24yrs, but I would still be promiscuous by that standard, lol. The 80's were fucked up, man. icon_lol.gif



    Bahahaha, I like this. But I think the # vs age rule should reset on a yearly basis. I mean, if you want to try and quantify being slutty, it's an easy way to measure it.
    And as for the 50 year old getting to bang 50 people in a year well...life gets better as you age, my friend icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    What the fuck has happened to monogomous relationships!!!??? 2 to 3 guys a month thats really slutty in my opinion, what happened to dating, and not having sex for like a month and actually getting to connect with someone on a level that is much deeper then sex before finally taking that step. I am kinda disappointed in the way gay men feel they have to behave, by having many sexual partners.
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidWhat the fuck has happened to monogomous relationships!!!??? 2 to 3 guys a month thats really slutty in my opinion, what happened to dating, and not having sex for like a month and actually getting to connect with someone on a level that is much deeper then sex before finally taking that step. I am kinda disappointed in the way gay men feel they have to behave, by having many sexual partners.



    Nothing has happened to monogamous relationships.

    I was 16 when I started dating.... been with one man in a one and a half year (18 months) relationship (broke up 6 months ago). Dumped his ass because I saw him on a dating site.

    As for sex, I only had sex with him. No one else.

    Monogamous relationships exist.

    I want to get married when I turn 21.

    You just have to find the right man.
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidWhat the fuck has happened to monogomous relationships!!!??? 2 to 3 guys a month thats really slutty in my opinion, what happened to dating, and not having sex for like a month and actually getting to connect with someone on a level that is much deeper then sex before finally taking that step. I am kinda disappointed in the way gay men feel they have to behave, by having many sexual partners.


    2-3 guys a month is incredibly excessive. That is basically 30 guys a year, and over three years almost 100 people. I think anyone would say that 100 guys over 3 years is very very promiscuous.

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    Mar 21, 2011 6:24 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    awm55 said
    swimmer8671 saidWhat the fuck has happened to monogomous relationships!!!??? 2 to 3 guys a month thats really slutty in my opinion, what happened to dating, and not having sex for like a month and actually getting to connect with someone on a level that is much deeper then sex before finally taking that step. I am kinda disappointed in the way gay men feel they have to behave, by having many sexual partners.


    2-3 guys a month is incredibly excessive. That is basically 30 guys a year, and over three years almost 100 people. I think anyone would say that 100 guys over 3 years is very very promiscuous.


    Yup. It's one thing to just be a notch on a guy's belt. It's another if I walk up to you a month later and you can't even point to which notch I am, out of the mass of notches. What are you collecting at that point? What are you looking for? But that's just me....I don't know what goes on in guys' minds. icon_lol.gif To each their own, but I've had all my 'experimenting' now....further research is redundant. icon_lol.gif


    They could just like sex, and not be looking for anything.