How to bottom like a porn star

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    Mar 21, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    Ok so,

    I'm vers but my bf is totally top which is fine, it just means I have to bottom a lot more than I'm used to, again totally fine. However, he is very large (only temporarily complaining lol). And when we have sex it can be painful if we go for too long and/or too aggressively. Last time we did it there ended up being blood which brought me into action (it wasn't serious, so don't tell me I need to go to the doctors, I've been looking into it and I'm fine).

    So now for my question, I was watching some rough porn just now and noticed how aggressively these guys are taking such large dicks and are hardly even phased by it. How do I do this? I'm not so much worried about girth, it just takes time to loosen if they are thick (and he is), but my problem is the length. After a while there is just a large curve in my gut which dicks typically don't curve around and they end up banging against the side of the curve which is causing most of my problems.

    So anyone have any advice on being a better bottom?
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    Mar 21, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    I hate to disappoint you but you know that those porns that you watch were editted right? The bottoms have to constantly take breaks especially if the top is huge. A 20 mins video clip can typically take 8-9 hours to film.

    With that said, try plenty different angles and positions. Have fun and don't hurt yourself man.
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    Mar 21, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    The best way to satisfy your well-endowed partner is to be on your knees, legs spread, chest and head on the bed and RELAX. When he is about to "hit the curve", you may have to move around a little bit and get a feel of his cock trying to make a second entrance.

    It's doable because I've done it and love it!
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    Mar 21, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    I am not a bottom so I am not the best person to go to for advice on bottoming but I can tell you that there is no way to avoid that pain. What happens is that your pleasure should eventually override the pain you feel from taking a lengthy and wide dick up your bum.

    Porn stars take many things (creams, drugs, liquids) to help with their sexual activity in photo shoots.

    Your rectum is lined with stratified squamous epithelia which is deisgned for wear and tear, however, it is also lined with an increased amount of blood vessels (for excretion of last-minute microwastes) and lined with an increased amount of nerves (for maximum control over your first and second rectal valve).

    Sorry to say it, but it cannot be avoided.


  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 21, 2011 9:01 AM GMT
    There are men that can take huge cocks for a LONG time and without pain. I have met a few of them, and seen more than a few in action. I am sure they all had a LOT of experience though!

    How to take it? Use lots of lube, way more than you probably are using now. You hear this a lot, but guys rarely actually take this advice and use enough lube. Add lube every five minutes or so. It's true that you don't see the breaks in porn videos, and those breaks are used to add lube mostly. (Most of these stars don't need special creams drugs or liquids someone mentioned, just lube and some breaks).

    Using a toy first can help get you ready. A vibrating toy can get you really ready and might help turn off the pain nerves in your ass too.

    Doggy style can be a great position to take a big cock, but you be the one that controls the insertion and the first movements, not the top. Then you will be ready to take it when you get warmed up.

    And of course you should do a good anal douching too, so that nothing inside creates more friction.

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    Mar 21, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    tuckers_kahuna saidAnd of course you should do a good anal douching too, so that nothing inside creates more friction.

    Or create a nasty surprise. Ugh...
  • Jtor40

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    Mar 21, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    The best advice is to relax...I used to be very tight but a patient guy has taught me to be a better bottom.....I used to tight up my hole because I was expecting more pain than pleasure...now when I bottom, I set my mind to enjoy it and all muscles relax in no time. Enjoy the moment, do not concentrate on how big or thick your partner is and let yourself go....you will be impressed how relaxed and how lose you can get very quickly....oh and don't forget to lube well and breath when you are taking it deep ;)
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    Mar 22, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    take a few fisting lessons.i am serious.
  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 23, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    Is there a class for that? icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 12:45 PM GMT
    tuckers_kahuna saidIs there a class for that? icon_smile.gif


    I can teach you icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Verules saidHow to bottom like a porn star
    Do porn.
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    Mar 23, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    Cityaznguy saidI hate to disappoint you but you know that those porns that you watch were editted right? The bottoms have to constantly take breaks especially if the top is huge. A 20 mins video clip can typically take 8-9 hours to film.

    With that said, try plenty different angles and positions. Have fun and don't hurt yourself man.

    Yes! Plus those porn guys are plenty loose, which the OP may not be yet. And, use plenty of lube! If the OP is bleeding, sounds like the BF needs to re-lube, a lot. Many guys simply forget to do that. I'm a tender bottom, and as soon as I feel discomfort I remind the top to lube again.
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    Mar 23, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    yeah i know how u feel. it starts to hurt at 7.5 :p just relax and breathe and when he goes faster think about how nice it feels instead of the pain..oh and talk dirty..it helps to take the pain off ur mind ;)
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    Mar 24, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    i find it ez to find the spot wear you get the best feel... like me if im on my back i cant take a huge cock for long but if im on top riding it down i can like a champ
  • Jtor40

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    Mar 24, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    selfsame saidtake a few fisting lessons.i am serious.


    new to FF and that has also helped me to stretch out more these days...know what you mean!
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    Mar 24, 2011 1:09 PM GMT
    cowboy86 saidi find it ez to find the spot wear you get the best feel... like me if im on my back i cant take a huge cock for long but if im on top riding it down i can like a champ


    I think that's good advice - try a lot of different positions until you find the one(s) that feel most comfortable. Everyone is different.

    Though I would say that if you've tried everything and it's still causing you pain/internal bleeding, you will just have to make your man fuck you more gently. He doesn't need to go balls deep for you both to enjoy it.
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    Mar 24, 2011 11:00 PM GMT
    get some numbing cream...i had to use it when i dealt with a 9 inch lol...
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    Mar 24, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    techsanboy saidget some numbing cream...i had to use it when i dealt with a 9 inch lol...


    Yeah, cuz that's a great idea icon_confused.gif ...numb it so that the damage still happens but you can't feel your body telling you to stop...
  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 25, 2011 8:34 AM GMT
    I agree with thrive, don't use numbing cream!
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    Mar 28, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
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    Mar 30, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    cowboy86 saidi find it ez to find the spot wear you get the best feel... like me if im on my back i cant take a huge cock for long but if im on top riding it down i can like a champ


    ditto. the easiest position is when im riding the guy either cowgirl (or in our case is it cowboy?) or reverse. Missionary can be difficult to take a long cock, doggy is pretty good too if im warmed up.
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    Mar 31, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    Here's my advice: be patient. With enough practice, and enough experience listening to your body and adjusting your position and rhythm accordingly, you'll be able to take it like a porn star in no time.

    I was in the same boat as you for a while. My ex was a total top and really big, and at first I couldn't take him for long. But lo-and-behold, after about a month of having sex with him twice a week, I was able to take him for hours. It took a while, but it happened.

    And throughout the relationship, I had to maintain the twice-a-week (at minimum icon_twisted.gif ) schedule, or my "body" would tighten back up.
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    Mar 31, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    Just keep practicing.
  • rangeli

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    Apr 01, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    some of the replies are so true. i always start out doggie style. there is no way i could start on my back. it must be the angle or something becuz it seems there is no limit to what i can take when im on my hands and knees. once im warmed up and have totally lost control of myself i can go to my back.