Military here and looking for some friends and support

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    Mar 21, 2011 9:35 AM GMT
    Hello everyone. Currently in the Air Force and currently deployed right now but not allowed to say where. Being here for many months now and working with people, I still feel somewhat alone. I hear stories from my peers about thier relationship or marriage. I never dated another male and I resort to alot of lieing when telling stories about my life. The added stress of that to include to try to be alive isn't what I really want. I cannot be out becuase I still want to continue to serve. Right now, I'm just looking for some friends to message, IM, and Skype back so I can be myself for at least a few minutes of the day. Hit me up if you want.
  • BardBear

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    Mar 21, 2011 9:53 AM GMT
    Friends? You have us in spades. Also, don't short-change the men and women you're serving with. I have some history with the military. They are an awesome group of people who are experiencing the same amount of stress in a similar format.

    We are truly never alone. Tell us about yourself then?

    And hang in there.

    Peace,
    Bardy
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    Mar 21, 2011 10:48 AM GMT
    Not sure what else I should say about myself that isn't on my profile. I guess I used to be in a Hip Hop dance studio and wished I was in American Best Dance Crew. To bad I can't freestyle though.

    I also know it's a bit embaressing to say this but my Roomate and I are currently playing Pokemon White and Black along with some other people from our flight. We play to pass the time when we aren't working or working out. But hey, I rather play Pokemon than get addicted to World of Warcraft.
  • hebrewman

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    Mar 21, 2011 11:19 AM GMT
    you are in our thoughts and prayers buddy. watch your "6" while you are wherever you are.
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    Mar 21, 2011 12:30 PM GMT
    Take care of yourself wherever you are, and rememeber -- friends are only a click away.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 21, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    Thanks for your dedication, especially in a challenging environment.
    Know you have guys here who would be happy to chat you up anytime.
    Be careful and stay safe!

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    Mar 21, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
    Just a brief, but heartfelt "thank you!" for serving.

    A lot of people here would be happy to chat with you, I'm sure. I for one would.

  • wander2340

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    Mar 21, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    I've been in your shoes. It's not easy. Just remember that what you are doing is hard for everyone - gay or straight.

    Do you plan on putting in 20 years or will you be getting out soon?
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    Continue to join in the forums and use RJ as a meeting place to get to know other guys online. You'll surely make friends here and it will give you a chance to share daily whatever topics are posted. Hang in there!!
  • toybrian

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    Mar 21, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    Juno, thanks for serving for our country there and wish you the best in your future and in my prayers for the military..any time you need someone to talk to then email me and will be 100% honest with you..always up for new friends around the world...Just be careful there and come home in one piece to all of your loved ones....Brian..
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    Mar 21, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    First off, THANK YOU Very much for serving Our country and much RESPECT for you.
    Second, Welcome! Know that you have your Brothers here who support you and pray that you all come home safe. icon_biggrin.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 21, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    I'm on board, ask away....!!!!
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    Mar 21, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    I don’t have much to say that hasn’t been said above so I’ll just add to the numbers.

    However, you have my profound appreciation for your choice to serve your country. Nothing quite like the United States military – wonderful bunch of folks in such a difficult job. You’ll be better for it as the experience will help you greatly in anything and everything you choose to do the rest of your life. May God be with you and stay in one piece.

    And you'll find that many of us out there in the business world when hiring give a big +1 to ex military. I sure do.
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    Mar 21, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    Your dedication to your country is noble , you can be proud of what you are accomplishing ...
    And when you feel lonely , there will always be one of us , available for you .....icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    always welcome to message me icon_biggrin.gif Hope you stay safe
  • sea_buddy

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    Mar 21, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Thanks for serving!! I really appreciate it, especially at this time.

    Also, no shame in playing pokemon icon_biggrin.gif

    No way you can confide in any of the guys? Developed friendships with people you'd feel safe coming out to? That's a lot of stress on your shoulders, and I feel for you for not being able to share yourself in that environment.

    Stay safe out there!
  • HtotheOMO

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    Mar 21, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    Junosoda saidHello everyone. Currently in the Air Force and currently deployed right now but not allowed to say where. Being here for many months now and working with people, I still feel somewhat alone. I hear stories from my peers about thier relationship or marriage. I never dated another male and I resort to alot of lieing when telling stories about my life. The added stress of that to include to try to be alive isn't what I really want. I cannot be out becuase I still want to continue to serve. Right now, I'm just looking for some friends to message, IM, and Skype back so I can be myself for at least a few minutes of the day. Hit me up if you want.


    im enlisted in the airforce currently in the D.E.P, good luck bro
  • LVJim

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    Mar 21, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    Thank you for your service. My military service was long before DADT and the witch hunts that brought on. I do know that you have more support than you might think from your military buddies. You have Realjocks, Anyone that responds is open to being a contact for you. Never forget that you are not ever alone, there are more people out of their element in the services who find themselves someplace they never could have imagined they would be - sexuality, race, gender, cult belief ... none of that matters in the foxhole relationships that we experience in the service.
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    you are not alone!. and playin pokemon is not lame. i cant relate on that feeling, my brother in law is in the military(now stationed in afghanistan); he has that lonlely/stressed out look, even though he is married to my big sis and have a kid. but i definetly know how u feel, and the stresses u have to endure. feel free to hit me up!!btw, thanks 4 makin dis world safe, i sincerely respect ur guys' sacrfice.
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    I can't imagine anyone on this sight would turn you down for a good conversation. Keep being awesome man! Real men play Pokemon.
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    Mar 21, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    Pokemon is awesome, what you talking bout. Be warned stay away from World of Warcrack. Its fun and all, haha but when your away from it long enough after playing for so long it starts calling to you. Air Force eh? Older brother is in the Air Bourne unit in Italy. Good luck with everything, stay safe and thanks for serving. Oh and you'd be surprised how many gays and lesbians are in the Army.

    Best of wishes,
    Brock
  • laguna07

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    Mar 21, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU MAN!!!
  • joxguy

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    Mar 21, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    Hey thank you for your service. I agree with many here you are never alone, you guys there have your back, really. The other struggle you have less said less problem.
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    Mar 22, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    you playin pokemon waiting to fly an F35 ? ;)
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    Mar 22, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    'Sup man? I'm Navy, and I have been to 3 deployments already, South America, Europe, and Middle East. I understand full well the isolation and the loneliness you feel even when you're in a sea of people. It comes w/ the territory when you hide a part of yourself and lie to people close to you, the ones whom you lay your life on the line to look after. It's very stressful. Add that to our crazy working schedule and very little sleep to keep up w/ operation tempo... yea, I've had fits of blinding rage and severe depressions because I realized all my friends can freely date and talk about their wives and gf back home, where as I could only feign non-interest and avoidance of the subject all together. What got me three deployments was that I had a best friend whom I'd talk to about absolutely everything, and also about absolutely nothing. Try to find someone close to confide in. Just shooting the shits w/ someone who understands you does wonders for your stress.

    Here's a link where our gay military brethren, past and present, came together. You're not alone. I'm sure none of these guys would have a problem reaching out to a fellow brother-in-arm.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1250526

    DADT is going away bro. It's just a matter of time. I'd give it till the end of this year at the latest. Afterward we wouldnt have to worry being discharged based on people's intolerance.

    I'll shoot you my SKYPE in a private email later.