What's with all this "hater" crap?

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    Mar 22, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    In my lexicon, "hate" is a pretty strong word.

    What is all this bullshit? Just because someone has a different view on the same issue, you don't have to play the "hater" card.

    With all the crap gay people have dealt with throughout the years, we should be THE most tolerant and accepting of other's views. Yet I'm constantly reading here limitless expressions of "you're wrong, I'm right."

    Gay marriage. Open relationships. Arabs vs. Israelis.

    Can't we all just get along???
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    I truly can't stand that no h8 mantra for gay marriage. It makes me cringe.
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    Squarepeg saidCan't we all just get along???


    Probably not. But I agree that calling someone who expresses a difference in opinion a "hater" is rather silly.
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    Squarepeg saidCan't we all just get along???


    Probably not. But I agree that calling someone who expresses a difference in opinion a "hater" is rather silly.


    you would. hater. icon_mad.gif
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    Democrat vs. Republican......
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidyou would. hater. icon_mad.gif


    I hate you! Feel better now?
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    ...PALESTINE...GO!
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    Mar 22, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    rofl squarepeg. I think a lot of guys ask this.

    -Doug


    PS the open relationship one really was rather ghastly, though it started out reasonably enough.
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    Not sure it's possible, I'm not good with swimming with the flow, just for the sake of it, because even a dead fish can do that and they all end up in Jersey, and one has endured threads of hate here dedicated to abusing one, because I behold a diffrent opinion to another. RJ has been able to teach one that many liberals demand acceptance, yet don't have the ability to accept diffrent opinions. That would rather repress than deal with it, and what is progressive about that?

    But I do behold the right to an opinion, and do not seek acceptance, for doing so, But with my many, many years as an out homosexual, one has never seen one community. I also want to add another branch to it for us pure homosexuals, the real gays. So we have an identity of our very own.
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    I agree we should get along... but no one should have to suck up to someone for any reason, especially if free speech is at play.

    With all the shit I have been through since I was 10 years old, I can say that being gay has made me a stronger man.

    It has made a man that is not afraid to stand up for what I believe is right, even if I stand alone. It has made me a confident fighter.

    I am sure many of you are like that too.

    What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger eh?

    love you all
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    True_Blue_Aussie said But with my many, many years as an out homosexual, one has never seen one community.


    A shame, don't you think? Opportunity lost. icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    Squarepeg saidCan't we all just get along???


    Probably not. But I agree that calling someone who expresses a difference in opinion a "hater" is rather silly.


    Stop hating on hater haters, skater.
    It's well known that hater hater haters are mad hating traitors

    Anyway... Later.
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    What's the internet without the drama? .....just sit back & enjoy the mayhem

    Or contribute buy adding more fuel to the flame wars. ....
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    I just had to realize that I could block people. Easy as that.
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    I hate having to get up early in the morning.
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 22, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Gay men get along ?.......too much estrogen wood2.gif
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    neosyllogy said
    unfounded7 saidProbably not. But I agree that calling someone who expresses a difference in opinion a "hater" is rather silly.


    Stop hating on hater haters.
    It's well known that hater hater haters are mad hating traitors

    Anyway... Later, skater.


    Stop the H8, H8er!
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Squarepeg said
    True_Blue_Aussie said But with my many, many years as an out homosexual, one has never seen one community.


    A shame, don't you think?


    It is a shame. I have brought this up in the past and want to say it again.

    In the 90's when I was fresh out of high school I saw more camaraderie in gay settings than I do now. Back then it seemed that people would walk into bars and be grateful to know that they were among other gay men so as not to feel alone.

    Nowadays, you walk into a gay bar and it is all about the cliques. The twinks in their early twenties are in corner, the musclehead clique in another, the "goth" clique in another and so on. In just two decades I have seen this separatist movement within our own community. It is as if we cannot move forward together.


    MuchMore, I'm not sure if that wasn't more an effect of seeing the world through newly outed eyes?

    I saw the exact same thing when I walked into my first bar in 1980. How wonderful to be among such an "enlightened" group!

    I recall being a little disappointed about the vast chasm between gay men and lesbians. I thought for sure time would bring us together. But according to a young lesbian friend of mine, she still gets harassed in bars she walks in to.

    Of late I'm thinking it has more to do with one's age and the wisdom that comes with it.
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Mar 22, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    Thank you...
    Thank you...
    Thank you...for starting this thread!

    It HAS gotten out of hand the past few months.

    The political threads have gotten a little heated, but I don't believe there is actual hate towards one another in those. I see it more like a "difference of opinion," and that is going to continue forever I'm sure.

    The real "hate" has been demonstrated in younger RJers making really crass and nasty comments to those here over the age of 40. There are a couple of guys (and it's always the same ones, you know?) that have planted the seeds of hate here and think when someone reaches 40 and beyond they should not be heard or seen, and even (as a couple have told me), "dead."

    Not all of the younger guys here follow along with this sort of thinking. The vast majority are kind and respectful, but those that are decent need to grab the handful that aren't by the scruff of their necks and straighten them out good.

    The "Younger versus Older" faction here needs to be identified, scolded for what they are saying to the older guys in the forum threads and in e-mails or removed completely.

    Can this be a priority among us and eliminate one faction of "hate?"
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    Mar 22, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    malefeet saidGay men get along ?.......too much estrogen wood2.gif
    ...and that's just the first date!
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    Mar 22, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    I have yet to see this hatred of men over 40. I have had some great exchanges with guys in their (very) late teens and early 20’s. Even in disagreements no one told me to die because I am over 40!!! There are SOME “mature” individuals on here who have said incendiary or lascivious things and when they are called on it play the age card. They seem unable to see that their chronological age and / or perceived physical appeal aren’t the issues.

    I am in agreement to turn the emotional heat down here. Really, this is a place where we should all at least try to see different viewpoints and be accepting if not in agreement.icon_biggrin.gif
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Mar 22, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    Its a great term when used correctly. A frien-emy is always a "hater"
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    Mar 22, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    Squarepeg said
    True_Blue_Aussie said But with my many, many years as an out homosexual, one has never seen one community.


    A shame, don't you think? Opportunity lost. icon_cry.gif


    Not sure it's possible in the land of Oz as the lesbians, have never wanted to be one of us, but want the advancement we have generated, yet want to keep us guys out of their community. Then you have bears, leather queens, twink, regular homosexuals, bisexuals, fems. Nope we have never been one.