Separation anxiety from boyfriend?

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    Mar 22, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    You know that feeling of anxiety when you boyfriend doesn't call or text? When rationally, you know there's nothing to really worry about? How do you manage that?
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    Mar 22, 2011 6:36 PM GMT
    for me i just have to trust, and get past my insecurities
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    Mar 22, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    just go to the gym and spar
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
    If you're anxious when you're boyfriend is not constantly emaling, calling, or texting you, there's a problem with either your relationship, you, or your boyfriend. Flesh it out. Trust your instincts.
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Talk with a therapist about codependency.
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
    chayce saidYou know that feeling of anxiety when you boyfriend doesn't call or text? When rationally, you know there's nothing to really worry about? How do you manage that?


    You realize that worrying does nothing to help solve the deeper issue. You also realize that if you start acting "crazy" it's might push him away or irritate him. You have some confidence in yourself and your relationship...... unless he is acting in shady ways as to show that somewthing is 'wrong'. If nothing is wrong, then nothing is wrong.
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:55 PM GMT
    I don't think its unreasonable to have some kind of communication with your boyfriend to wrap up each day. If I don't talk to my boyfriend (exes) all day because I am busy I would at least text or call him right before bed to see how his day went and let him know I am going to bed. If he is going out all night and I am staying in then I would expect him to let me know if he going out and so I won't expect to hear anymore for the rest of the night... although I always seem to get drunk text messages from him. I just respond with "babe, sleeping, talk tomorrow. get home safe."

    General rule, if you're in a serious loving relationship, the two of you should touch base at least once a day.

    However, don't flip out if the responses aren't immediate.
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    I don't think there is anything to worry about. Trust him that he will respond back to you. If not he either has a good reason or maybe there is something evidentally going south in the relationship.
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidI don't think its unreasonable to have some kind of communication with your boyfriend to wrap up each day. If I don't talk to my boyfriend (exes) all day because I am busy I would at least text or call him right before bed to see how his day went and let him know I am going to bed. If he is going out all night and I am staying in then I would expect him to let me know if he going out and so I won't expect to hear anymore for the rest of the night... although I always seem to get drunk text messages from him. I just respond with "babe, sleeping, talk tomorrow. get home safe."

    General rule, if you're in a serious loving relationship, the two of you should touch base at least once a day.

    However, don't flip out if the responses aren't immediate.
    I agree. It is hard however at times not to hear from him. Sometimes I'll text him and he won't reply (usually because his phone is elsewhere) and I do get anxious but only because I really enjoy chatting with him.

    I'm constantly reminding myself that I have to ensure I don't become needy. I don't think I am, I just really like being with him, either in person or in conversation.
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    another way to rationalize away anxiety is to ask yourself....would you really want someone who was available 24/7 to respond to every single waking though? THAT would be overwhelming. and burn YOU out fast