Talking to other men..

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    Mar 22, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    So, I'm not much of a sports fan, I don't care much about cars and I know that there are plenty of men who are the same way but I've found that the majority of small talk relates to topics I know nothing about. I use to be a complete nerd and am still insanely shy. I don't really know how to start conversations with other men. Does anyone else have the same problem? Do you have any advice?
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    Mar 22, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    Then stick with other neutral topics where you might find some common ground. You can try movies, music, tv, youtube videos, books, hobbies, etc.

    Usually it's better to avoid talking politics or religion to someone you're just meeting, though if you're meeting at a political rally or after a religious service it would be ok.

    Best thing you can do is find out the other guy's interests and talk about that. It's more fun to talk with people who are engaged in the conversation, than talking to someone who's just making small talk.
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    Mar 22, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    The weather channel is awesome! but then again, I'm from Southern Canada.. Minnesota. Thanks for the advice.
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    Mar 22, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    "Best thing you can do is find out the other guy's interests and talk about that. It's more fun to talk with people who are engaged in the conversation, than talking to someone who's just making small talk."

    Good advice. Now I just need to get over being so damn shy.
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    Mar 22, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    Argh, never talk about the weather. It's the conversation that people have when they know they are waiting for something else to happen soon, so that they can stop talking.
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    Mar 23, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    wow, i wish i could help you out buddy. i am not really shy and i am one of those guys who can talk about both sports and cars. however, if i am around political people i can still carry a conversation with them because i try to read up even though it is not my favorite subject. why don't you try and read up on some of those things that way you can be apart of the conversation.
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    Mar 23, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    There has to be something you are comfortable and confident talking about in any venue in front of any audience whether or not you are flirting as you do it - you aren't the first shy nerd in existence. Most of my dates have been initiated by talking about Star Wars or Pokemon.

    It doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it with some confidence and some basis of knowledge. But you should also be willing to laugh at yourself if you just said something nerdy about Doctor Who to someone that has never seen sci-fi ever before in their life. You can still salvage that one if you play your cards right.

    If you watch the original British Queer as Folk series you find that sometimes your initial "judging a book by its cover" is not always accurate, as many people of all body fitness types have intricate knowledge of the Doctor ^_^
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    Mar 23, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Yea, making fun of people walking by always works icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    Dude, u don't know what to talk about with other guys? Than talk to girls...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    Honeydew saidYea, making fun of people walking by always works icon_razz.gif


    I'll remember that.
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    AntoNomad saidDude, u don't know what to talk about with other guys? Than talk to girls...icon_rolleyes.gif


    I might just have to then. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidThere has to be something you are comfortable and confident talking about in any venue in front of any audience whether or not you are flirting as you do it - you aren't the first shy nerd in existence. Most of my dates have been initiated by talking about Star Wars or Pokemon.

    It doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it with some confidence and some basis of knowledge. But you should also be willing to laugh at yourself if you just said something nerdy about Doctor Who to someone that has never seen sci-fi ever before in their life. You can still salvage that one if you play your cards right.

    If you watch the original British Queer as Folk series you find that sometimes your initial "judging a book by its cover" is not always accurate, as many people of all body fitness types have intricate knowledge of the Doctor ^_^


    Thanks! And you're right, I shouldn't assume that geeky topics are off limits right away.
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    Honeydew saidYea, making fun of people walking by always works icon_razz.gif


    You can kill 4 hours doing this, easy.