A friend committed suicide this morning.

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    Mar 23, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    She was an important person in my life, because she inspired me and was the first out lesbian I met when I started working for ODOT. She helped get me settled into the corporate culture and she was my template for how to navigate the insurance and FMLA processes to have Weight Loss Surgery.
    Julie had her surgery 2 years before me and she lost almost 325 lbs. She was a sweet lady and I am so indebted to Julie and her partner, even though they broke up about 2 years ago.
    Julie shot herself in the mouth......We all found out this morning.....I miss her already and will be in my Weight Loss Surgery support group Wednesday night, where we will all be able to remember Julie and get a better feel of what makes us different and the same.

    According to the American Journal of Medicine, Weight Loss surgery patients suffer a rate of suicide almost 5X higher than the general population.....
    I can almost understand this.

    [url]http://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343%2810%2900574-7/abstract[/url]

    When you have been through the misery and horror of obesity and then get a "reprieve" and then realize that it is a "tool" and not a "cure"...especially, if you start to regain your weight if you don't get your diet and exercise together.....I know that I would rather be dead than go back to life as an obese person again.....and have put that into my "end of life" documents as a DNR statement.....but I have no intention of returning to my obese life, nor of commuting suicide. I know Julie felt the same way......This whole thing has been too much.....I'm sorry....I'm beside myself.....
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidShe was an important person in my life, because she inspired me and was the first out lesbian I met when I started working for ODOT. She helped get me settled into the corporate culture and she was my template for how to navigate the insurance and FMLA processes to have Weight Loss Surgery.
    Julie had her surgery 2 years before me and she lost almost 325 lbs. She was a sweet lady and I am so indebted to Julie and her partner, even though they broke up about 2 years ago.
    Julie shot herself in the mouth......We all found out this morning.....I miss her already and will be in my Weight Loss Surgery support group Wednesday night, where we will all be able to remember Julie and get a better feel of what makes us different and the same.

    According to the American Journal of Medicine, Weight Loss surgery patients suffer a rate of suicide almost 5X higher than the general population.....
    I can almost understand this. [url]http://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343%2810%2900574-7/abstract[/url]

    When you have been through the misery and horror of obesity and then get a "reprieve" and then realize that it is a "tool" and not a "cure"...especially, if you start to regain your weight if you don't get your diet and exercise together.....I know that I would rather be dead than go back to life as an obese person again.....and have put that into my "end of life" documents as a DNR statement.....but I have no intention of returning to my obese life, nor of commuting suicide. I know Julie felt the same way......This whole thing has been too much.....I'm sorry....I'm beside myself.....



    Wow. I don't know what to say. I only hope you will see a therapist to help you deal with the powerful emotions that are bound to surface.
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    Mar 23, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
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    Sporty_g saidShe was an important person in my life, because she inspired me and was the first out lesbian I met when I started working for ODOT. She helped get me settled into the corporate culture and she was my template for how to navigate the insurance and FMLA processes to have Weight Loss Surgery.
    Julie had her surgery 2 years before me and she lost almost 325 lbs. She was a sweet lady and I am so indebted to Julie and her partner, even though they broke up about 2 years ago.
    Julie shot herself in the mouth......We all found out this morning.....I miss her already and will be in my Weight Loss Surgery support group Wednesday night, where we will all be able to remember Julie and get a better feel of what makes us different and the same.

    According to the American Journal of Medicine, Weight Loss surgery patients suffer a rate of suicide almost 5X higher than the general population.....
    I can almost understand this. [url]http://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343%2810%2900574-7/abstract[/url]

    When you have been through the misery and horror of obesity and then get a "reprieve" and then realize that it is a "tool" and not a "cure"...especially, if you start to regain your weight if you don't get your diet and exercise together.....I know that I would rather be dead than go back to life as an obese person again.....and have put that into my "end of life" documents as a DNR statement.....but I have no intention of returning to my obese life, nor of commuting suicide. I know Julie felt the same way......This whole thing has been too much.....I'm sorry....I'm beside myself.....



    Wow. I don't know what to say. I only hope you will see a therapist to help you deal with the powerful emotions that are bound to surface.



    ..Thanks..have an appointment on Thursday morning....
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidAccording to the American Journal of Medicine, Weight Loss surgery patients suffer a rate of suicide almost 5X higher than the general population.....
    I can almost understand this.
    I can totally understand it, because teaching people to live a healthy and active lifestyle is quite possibly the most difficult discipline to teach in our sedentary and high fructose society.

    I have no words for your loss - only understanding - because I, too, lost a friend to suicide many years ago.
    He also shot himself in the head.
    The emotional pain will eventually subside, but the memory will last forever.
    May your memory of her be your foundation for continued success in your fitness goals, just as my memory of my high school friend was my foundation for coming out of the closet...he was closeted/gay, and ended it all to avoid coming out.

    *hugs*
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    Such a sad story. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    I'm struggling to find the right words here, It's a terrible thing to go through. I hope you take care of yourself and talk through all the emotional turmoil.
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    Good grief, I'm so sorry Sporty.

    -Doug
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    Mar 23, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Oh god, I'm so sorry.
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    Mar 23, 2011 6:05 AM GMT
    I'm sorry that you're having to go through this.
    We never really know how much some people are suffering inside...