Says he is into girls....

  • abej1984

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    Mar 23, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    So I am in love with this guy....

    He told me one night when he was drunk, "i am sort of into both sides....you know, guys and girls..."

    He spent the night at my place one time, in my bed, in nothing but his underwear...nothing really happened except cuddling, but still.....

    He was drunk both of those times...Now, after awhile of being friends I really think I am in love with him.... he says that he wants to be buddies, but that he is 100% into girls.

    Could this be true? Do you think he is really completely straight? Why would he have told me he likes guys and girls? And even though we didn't really do anything but cuddle in my bed, i just have a hard time believing him saying that he is straight. Is he scared? He's 23....

    what do you think?
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    Mar 23, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    germanyguy saidwhat do you think?
    I think this is the 150th "is he gay" thread this week.
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    Mar 23, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    The truth comes out when you're drunk. There's a reason why people say that.
  • Beeftastic

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    Mar 23, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
    You have feelings for him. He might swing some the other way and you might get laid. But you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt!
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    Mar 27, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    I think it's totally natural to be into guys and girls. And it's also ok to be attracted to one more than the other at any point in time.

    So there doesn't need to be a label attached to it. Basically what he has to come to terms with is - is he cool with being with a guy? Period.
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    Mar 27, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    tuckers_kahuna saidYou have feelings for him. He might swing some the other way and you might get laid. But you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt!

    +100
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    Mar 27, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    I think you guys will have a great romance. Assuming you can keep him drunk and in his underwear for the rest of his life.

    He may be curious, even willing under certain circumstances but it sounds like he simply isn't into it -at least right now. Be friends, maybe even friends who occasionally cuddle, but don't try to take it farther. Go for dudes who know what they want 100%. There are plenty of them.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 27, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    He was probably just saying that for attention.
    If he went both ways he would go both ways regardless of being drunk.
    He most likely knew you were into him so he said that to get extra attention, because really, who doesn't like attention?

    Then again, I could be wrong.
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    Mar 27, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    You're not in love, you're in lust (at most you've got a crush or an infatuation). As to your friend, no "straight" guy would cuddle with another guy, and I don't care how drunk he is.
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    I'm into women.

    Just saying. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    Oh lord again...and your in Love...no you are in lust....can you tell me why you love him? If you can then you are not in love.
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    Apr 01, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Well if he swings both ways he is neither straight, or gay. In a LTR with him,you may have too accept that from time to time, he will go and bat for the other team.

    I hate the way to have a guy who lives the straight lifestyle, has the wife maybe the kids too, and the moment people fine out he like too also have a moment with the lads in an airport toilet, he gets labeled gay there and then; such an injustice.
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    Apr 01, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    a. This is a typical question that is posted nmerous time...(not to bust your balls or anythin)
    b. I don't think I'd want to get in volved with a person who has to be drunk to get in bed with me... Your in love with someone who is under the influence and not really themselves!
    c. We often times (and iam just as guilty) look too far into signals that guys we find attractive but not sure if they're gay or not..making simple singals more than what they are..leading your self on! Hell iam going through that now with a dude iam friends with!

    I'd take some of the suggestions on here of just staying friends and play it out...but don't stop your whole world for him!