Why Fat/Obese gay guys r fucked in the gay world ?!

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    Mar 23, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    Hmm why do u think u wouldn't date or make love with a fat guy ? even u might be sure there r a lot of good fat gays out there .. u might even help them fix their bodies .. and take a long term relationship with ...
    What do u feel when u see them ?

    If u r one of the guys have no problem with fat guys .. or loving chubby guys .. tell us why

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    For a relationship to work of any sort, the emotional and physical aspect should be there.
    In other words, I can be into someone emotionally but not physically and physically but not emotionally.

    A successful relationship has both.

    Also, fat/obese to me means they are really out of shape. If you are chubby, that is a different story.

    Personally, I am not physically into someone who is fat/obese. I had to make sacrifices and work hard to get my body to where it is now and I expect my partner to do the same.

    In the long run though, we are all going to get old and what will make me attracted to my partner is their personality... so it is debatable for sure.





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    Mar 23, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    I'd say it depends, but I'm usually actually kinda attracted to obese guys... I like my meat. ;)

    But really, a strong personality connection should make up for any non-physical attraction for me...
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    Mar 23, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    Yeah ... but the Question .. why ? i mean what do u feel when u see 'em ?
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    Mar 23, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    Ahoymedogs saidI'd say it depends, but I'm usually actually kinda attracted to obese guys... I like my meat. ;)

    But really, a strong personality connection should make up for any non-physical attraction for me...


    Agreed !
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    Mar 23, 2011 8:27 PM GMT
    looks are really secondary for me, having dated all over the map . often, heavier guys have alot of muscle under the flab. so there's that type of body, more of a muscle bear type, which is not lean or refined. if someone is just a big ball of lard, all i can think to myself is "what type of activities are we going to be able to do together?

    and i don't mean chubby. i mean, very little muscle, alot of fat. unless there is an underlying medical condition, it means they don't really take care of themselves, so why would i expect them to care about me at all if they don't care about themselves?


    the opposite extreme turns me off as well. people go nuts when they try to maintain super low body fat.

    i dated a heavy guy for a few months last year. he ended it with me. told me he was "too busy" and i should see other people.
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    Mar 23, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    URIAH saidlooks are really secondary for me, having dated all over the map . often, heavier guys have alot of muscle under the flab. so there's that type of body, more of a muscle bear type, which is not lean or refined. if someone is just a big ball of lard, all i can think to myself is "what type of activities are we going to be able to do together?

    and i don't mean chubby. i mean, very little muscle, alot of fat. unless there is an underlying medical condition, it means they don't really take care of themselves, so why would i expect them to care about me at all if they don't care about themselves?


    the opposite extreme turns me off as well. people go nuts when they try to maintain super low body fat.

    i dated a heavy guy for a few months last year. he ended it with me. told me he was "too busy" and i should see other people.


    Hmm aww that's hurting ..

    but u shouldn't think that everyone who is obese should be not taking care of themselves ... maybe they got Genes ..that any kind of food give them calories
    Or maybe their love for food made them like that ...Which made them blind for themselves ..
    What is really wrong .. that they dun realize that in a good time .. or just tell u .. i am proud to be fat ... cuz that is completely wrong ..
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    Mar 23, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    You probably won't find many people here. This is called RealJock, after all.

    Regardless of someone's body type, he's bound to find someone who likes that body type. If he's fat, there are chubby chasers. If he's skinny, there are guys who like the lean look. If he's fit, there are guys who like that look. If he's yolked, there are guys who like that.
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    Mar 23, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Ermine saidYou probably won't find many people here. This is called RealJock, after all.

    Regardless of someone's body type, he's bound to find someone who likes that body type. If he's fat, there are chubby chasers. If he's skinny, there are guys who like the lean look. If he's fit, there are guys who like that look. If he's yolked, there are guys who like that.


    Well thats True ... but am not looking for fat guys .. just wondering why fat gays r hated or rejected .. i want to know how ppl feel against them ?
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    Mar 23, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    Like ... Disgusting ... or too heavy to handle at bed or both ? am not sure if u feel like that .. just making assumptions
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    Mar 26, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    I get rejected all the time! trust me, so hugs to you. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    I have no problem with chubby or large or fat or whatever you call them... and think they're usually cute...icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 27, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    I find chubby or stocky kind of cute.

    Personally, I like healthy guys. You don't have to be the most fit, or go to the
    gym everyday, but if you're fat or obese, it tells me you're not taking care of yourself (health-wise.)

    That's not attractive to me.
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    Mar 27, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    I have liked skinny boys, defined ones, chubby ones etc. I really don't have a type, I think every person has the sexy in them, they just need to find it and show it the right way.
    However there is sometimes a point when you become too fat/skinny/muscular/etc.... and that is hardly likable. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • mizu5

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    Mar 27, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    I think chubby boys can be really hot icon_razz.gif

    Also lvoe muscular guys with a belly. SO cute icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 28, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    Not skinny, checking in.

    I think average guys can be just as hot.
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    Sep 20, 2011 8:13 AM GMT
    So as a fat gay guy... I kind of wonder where my love life is going to go. I live in an area in Central OR that is very selective. I've lived in Seattle, and found that the area up there is very selective as well. However, nobody thinks to ask me, "Hey, why are you a bigger guy?" Nobody has heard the answer that "I have tried, and even had my stomach stapled because of my size. However, I went through some cancer surgeries, and now my body metabolizes everything by turning it into fat." Nobody cares! So how am I supposed to find someone?
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    Sep 20, 2011 8:39 PM GMT
    Pretty much whatever your body type, there's some segment of the population that finds it attractive and another that doesn't.
    The trick is to find the guys that find you attractive, attractive and to think of yourself as attractive (or to accept that others could find you attractive).

    If you're fat, there are chubby chasers and guys into bears. If you lose weight, those guys might not find you physically attractive. Then the guys who are into the average build or the skinny guys will find you attractive. If you put on muscle, then the guys who are attracted to the average or skinny guys might not find you attractive, but the guys into the muscle guys would.
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    Sep 20, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
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    I would like to think that even fat people have a reason to exist in the gay world. Not everybody can look like an A&F model. Some are blessed with quick metabolism and beautiful genes, some are less fortunate. I don't think just because someone is fat he should be written off in the gay world. That's too cruel

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    Sep 20, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    fat/obese is just plain unhealthy. you dont have to be a gym bunny, or muscle head to be hot..( it does help). Some larger men, are really hot. guess it depends on the individual. Seems alot of men go by what a 'stereotypically fat' man should be. Again, the world is filled with cruelty and in-humanity to man... IMO..
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    Sep 20, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    everyone ive ever dated has been average to as much as 20lbs over weight. never been with anyone muscular.
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    Sep 20, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Fat guys donĀ“t make me hard.
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    Sep 20, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    Cause i like twinks... twinks aren't fat!
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    Sep 20, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    I think it is because the gay world has always placed white, all-american, muscle gods on a pedestal rather than emphasize personality, soul and character. Only a few Hispanics are allowed in this circle. But each person has their ideal. I know a guy that will only date bears and his ideal turn-on is Kevin James.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    My dick won't get hard... Not attracting what so ever.. Majority of non obeast/chubby guys are into muscle to average nice bodies.. There are chubby chasers out there, but very few.. If the OP is having problems, maybe he should go out for a jog, and do some activities instead of sitting around all the time constantly going into the refrigerator