Attracted to guys w disparate attractiveness?

  • rf_dal

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    Curious if anyone else has run into this. I feel like I find myself physically attracted to people that, to me, are much hotter than myself. (Specifically, muscley guys, and I'm not one myself due to no lack of trying on my part, but I digress..) This might be ok if it were reciprocal, but it usually (read: every single time) isn't. People who I'm not particularly attracted to seem to be more than willing to engage me, however.... which is actually sort of the same issue. It's not really a complaint, just an observation. I'm perfectly comfortable in my own skin, etc, just noticed the trend. Anyone else? Thoughts? Bueller?

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    The one bedroom wants to move into a 2 bedroom, not a studio. The studio wants the one bedroom. The 2 bedroom wants a 3 bedroom, not a 2 bedroom.

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  • tongun18

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    I've noticed that too. I'm actually in a similar situation right now with one very important difference: I got lucky, the guy I was attracted to is into me too! icon_biggrin.gif

    Apparently it does occasionally happen, sometimes the 2 bedroom does indeed want a 1 bedroom. icon_wink.gif
  • rf_dal

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    Haha aw, congrats then!! Good to know there's hope! ;)
  • swedeinusa

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    Mar 23, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    Happens all the time icon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    Get muscly. Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 23, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGet muscly. Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif


    ^ that

    I'd bet 80% and probably higher feel exactly the same way and most of those guys as well are specifically attracted to muscley guys even though they may deny it for whatever reason, they're lying.

    Besides, this is not any new "trend", it's always been that way
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    Mar 23, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    To my belief, you put yourself on a 1 to 10 scale. You can date guys one more or one less. So if you rate yourself as a 7, you go out with 6,7 or 8.
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    Mar 23, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidThe one bedroom wants to move into a 2 bedroom, not a studio. The studio wants the one bedroom. The 2 bedroom wants a 3 bedroom, not a 2 bedroom.

    tongun18 said...sometimes the 2 bedroom does indeed want a 1 bedroom. icon_wink.gif

    But even when the one bedroom only wants another one bedroom, the studio, who's only interested in the one bedroom for the bedroom, complains that it's the one bedroom that's being superficial. I guess it all boils down to bedroom fantasies.
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    Mar 23, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    But even when the one bedroom only wants another one bedroom, the studio, who's only interested in the one bedroom for the bedroom, complains that it's the one bedroom that's being superficial. I guess it all boils down to bedroom fantasies.


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  • KnuxNole

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    Mar 23, 2011 10:47 PM GMT
    swedeinmiami saidHappens all the time icon_surprised.gif


    That's good, seeing as 90% or more of gay guys are super hot, it seems straight guys don't have to worry about attracting only ugly people, they can date or be friends with whoever they want, like a girl/guy who is a 3 can easily get the opposite sex who is a 9
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    Mar 23, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGet muscly. Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif


    Yes! Lift more weights, get better dates.

    Also, read more.

    That way, you're hot AND super smart. Then you get to call the shots--most of the time.
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    Mar 24, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    rf_dal saidCurious if anyone else has run into this. I feel like I find myself physically attracted to people that, to me, are much hotter than myself. (Specifically, muscley guys, and I'm not one myself due to no lack of trying on my part, but I digress..) This might be ok if it were reciprocal, but it usually (read: every single time) isn't. People who I'm not particularly attracted to seem to be more than willing to engage me, however.... which is actually sort of the same issue. It's not really a complaint, just an observation. I'm perfectly comfortable in my own skin, etc, just noticed the trend. Anyone else? Thoughts? Bueller?



    Only a fine young woman someday will see all you don't see so much. Sorry, nature rules whether we like it or not... Why set standards anymore? Just give in...
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    Mar 24, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidThe one bedroom wants to move into a 2 bedroom, not a studio. The studio wants the one bedroom. The 2 bedroom wants a 3 bedroom, not a 2 bedroom.

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    Can you squeeze your 3 bedroom into my broom closet?
  • swimmer8671

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    Mar 24, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    I normally don't notice this, when i want something i normally get it haha icon_razz.gif

    You should work on your puppy dog face, works every time icon_rolleyes.gif
    haha
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    Mar 24, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    tongun18 saidI've noticed that too. I'm actually in a similar situation right now with one very important difference: I got lucky, the guy I was attracted to is into me too! icon_biggrin.gif

    Apparently it does occasionally happen, sometimes the 2 bedroom does indeed want a 1 bedroom. icon_wink.gif



    what about the resale value further dwn the road?
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    Mar 24, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Lets put things into perspective. I got this from watching a documentary about level of attractiveness

    We all try to aim for a level ten attractive person. With ten being highest that person has a lot more room to move around in finding someone attracted. The people who are ten below will then start aiming lower until someone accepts them.

    The result is that when two people pair up, their attractiveness usually correlates to their own.
  • rf_dal

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    Mar 24, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    Haha ok, I'll go find me someone to settle for then! ;P As for the get muscley stuff, I'm in the gym 4-5x a week for 1.5-2 hours, sore as hell at the end of the week, power down protein/drink water like no one's business, and get as much sleep as I can. Technically, doing what I should, but it just doesn't come that easy for me icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    Ofc happened with me ... and i bet with a lot ... cuz the person always try to find someone who is kinda better than him ... which usually doesn't work xD
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    rf_dal saidCurious if anyone else has run into this. I feel like I find myself physically attracted to people that, to me, are much hotter than myself. (Specifically, muscley guys, and I'm not one myself due to no lack of trying on my part, but I digress..) This might be ok if it were reciprocal, but it usually (read: every single time) isn't. People who I'm not particularly attracted to seem to be more than willing to engage me, however.... which is actually sort of the same issue. It's not really a complaint, just an observation. I'm perfectly comfortable in my own skin, etc, just noticed the trend. Anyone else? Thoughts? Bueller?



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    Mar 24, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    Well I've niticed with myself that all I have dated and several boyfriends have been much taller than I am, this is the same type issue as muscle versus slim. I am 5'7", and by far most I've been with were from 6'1" to 6'3", it worked out fine though. Differences in body type and height really makes little difference unless a person is superficial, its people we're dating and attraction often comes in opposites and from dependence on whats inside far more than whats outside. Pretty is as Pretty does !!!
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    rf_dal saidHaha ok, I'll go find me someone to settle for then! ;P As for the get muscley stuff, I'm in the gym 4-5x a week for 1.5-2 hours, sore as hell at the end of the week, power down protein/drink water like no one's business, and get as much sleep as I can. Technically, doing what I should, but it just doesn't come that easy for me icon_razz.gif


    Keep at it, you are doing great!
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 said
    You should work on your puppy dog face, works every time icon_rolleyes.gif
    haha


    Lol. That'll work for a few more years, but then you'll need to develop some other skills. icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Mar 24, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite2point0 said
    Ariodante saidThe one bedroom wants to move into a 2 bedroom, not a studio. The studio wants the one bedroom. The 2 bedroom wants a 3 bedroom, not a 2 bedroom.

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    Can you squeeze your 3 bedroom into my broom closet?


    we know you've already tried that, I saw the videos
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    Mar 24, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    It's pretty typical in terms of physical appearance. People are attracted to those who are "hotter" than they are. You're attracted to that hot guy, he's attracted to a guy he thinks is hot and down the line it goes.

    Keep in mind personality can also be attractive and "hot." Looks is half the equation.icon_wink.gif