Am I reading this wrong?

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    Mar 23, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    All right...

    Long story short, I had a guy ask for my number when I still had a boyfriend, so I walked off without it and ended up coming back to him a second time after the boyfriend had broken up with me. I, gushingly, reached in, grabbed his hand and babbled to him for about five minutes and then gave him my card with my number on it. He, in turn, responded to my babbling well (even going so far as to say to 'fuck' the guy who broke up with me) and even gave me a hug afterward.

    Now... I never did get a call back, though I can assume from his response (even though my card is a bit on the grim nature, as I'm a dark-genre writer) he probably lost my number.

    Basically, my question is this: I want to pursue him again later this week (he works at the same place) and this time get his number, but I'm worried that he may have not have called me because he didn't like some part of me the second time (though I'm not so sure about it.)

    Thoughts, anyone?
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    Mar 23, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    If u really likes him .. u should try
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    Mar 24, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    You never know until you ask. If you sit around waiting for the call, you lose either way. If you ask what's up, he'll either tell you he did something with your number and has been meaning to call you, or he'll tell you he's not interested. Either way, I think knowing what the deal is is a lot less stressful than being in the dark.
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    Mar 24, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Wow don't we move fast....
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    Mar 24, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    Hmmm can you go there for any reason other than just to see him? I don't want to sound cynical but it might be true either way and if you can take the pressure off the meeting its better than if you show up with the sole intension of seeing him... I would say be cordial, be pleasant and all that (don't pretend to not be interested), but if he doesn't ask for the number or he doesn't give you his you might have your answer.
  • geojock

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    Mar 24, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    ^^^^^^ do this
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with trying. He may have had his feelings hurt because you blew him off the first time. If that's the case, the ball is in your court to pursue him if you are interested.

    You didn't specify how much time had passed, his situation may have changed, and he may actually be interested in or dating someone else. In that case... missed opportunity.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 24, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    hell just ask him about it.
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    Mar 24, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    you came to him after your bf dumped you... hwo would you feel if those were the words out of someone's mouth while you're trying to approach hm? ::slap::
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    Mar 24, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    Simon78928 saidWow don't we move fast....


    Your cynicism isn't obvious enough. Try harder.

    JJCrush saidHmmm can you go there for any reason other than just to see him? I don't want to sound cynical but it might be true either way and if you can take the pressure off the meeting its better than if you show up with the sole intension of seeing him... I would say be cordial, be pleasant and all that (don't pretend to not be interested), but if he doesn't ask for the number or he doesn't give you his you might have your answer.


    I can go for a doughnut, which is a good idea in and of itself.

    jrunner25 saidyou came to him after your bf dumped you... hwo would you feel if those were the words out of someone's mouth while you're trying to approach hm? ::slap::


    At least I was honest about why I walked off the first time. *shrug*
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    Mar 24, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    Don't think in possibilities... Follow your instincts!!! icon_smile.gif
    If you wish it, do!!!
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    Mar 24, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    the first thought that would pop into my head would be "oh, hes probably rebounding" while that may or may not be the case, thats what i wouldve thought if id heard the news you told him. perhaps hes scared youre going to rebound off of him?
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    Mar 24, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    RafaelB saidthe first thought that would pop into my head would be "oh, hes probably rebounding" while that may or may not be the case, thats what i wouldve thought if id heard the news you told him. perhaps hes scared youre going to rebound off of him?


    That's quite possible. If he mentions something about it, I'll apologize for being what I consider to be a dick. icon_neutral.gif It sucks because I barely know the guy and already REALLY like him. He makes me warm and fuzzy, to put it plainly.
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    Mar 27, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    Turns out the guy doesn't work there anymore. :/

    Ah well. not much I can do about it. More fish in the sea, like they say. icon_confused.gif